Match Boxes

Some of you may be wondering—what are match boxes? I know, I’m dating myself, but it’s okay. I remember a time before lighters became popular, when everyone carried around a little match box. It was small, simple, and powerful—just a flick, and you could start a fire anywhere.

But long before physical match boxes existed, God used people as spiritual ones—designed not to destroy, but to ignite. Some people are sent into your life to expose what’s really in your heart. Just like Cain and Abel, or Peninnah and Hannah.

Today, I want to talk about Peninnah—Hannah’s “match box.”

Peninnah was one of two wives. She had what Hannah didn’t—children. But the Bible says something interesting: although Hannah was barren, her husband Elkanah loved her deeply. He said to her in 1 Samuel 1:8, “Am I not better to you than ten sons?” What an oxymoron in a culture that celebrated women based on their ability to bear children—especially sons.

But Elkanah didn’t love Hannah because of what she could produce. He loved her for who she was. He didn’t hold her barrenness against her. That’s a different kind of love—one that doesn’t demand performance.

Hannah wasn’t like Rachel, who provoked Jacob to anger and said, “Give me children or I’ll die!” No. Hannah’s breaking didn’t make her bitter—it made her broken before God. And Peninnah? She was her match box.

Peninnah constantly reminded Hannah of what she lacked. The Bible says she provoked her sorely just to make her fret. Sometimes, the enemy will use people, circumstances, or even time to mock you—reminding you of what you don’t have, what hasn’t happened yet, or what should have come by now.

But the very thing the enemy uses to irritate you is often what God uses to ignite you.

Peninnah’s taunting became Hannah’s turning point. The fire of pain became the fire of prayer. What was meant to wound her became what pushed her to the altar. The enemy used Peninnah to provoke her, but God used it to produce purpose.

There’s a kind of fire that doesn’t burn you—it purifies you.

Maybe your “Peninnah” is a situation, a person, or even a disappointment. Maybe you’ve watched others birth their dreams while you’ve been waiting year after year for your own. But hear me—God hasn’t forgotten. Just like Hannah, He’s allowing that holy irritation to push you to cry out again, to believe again, and to place that desire back on His altar. Don’t let their mockery kill your desire, let it fan your flames on your altar to God.

You may feel barren in an area—naturally or spiritually—but God’s not done. The same God who opened Hannah’s womb is about to open yours. Her pain birthed a prophet. Her tears birthed Samuel—the one who would anoint kings.

You see, sometimes your match box isn’t your enemy—it’s your awakening.

God will let Peninnah talk. He’ll let the fire burn. Because He knows when the time is right, your prayer will touch heaven in a way it never has before.

Hannah didn’t fight Peninnah; she went to the temple. She didn’t retaliate; she released. And the Lord remembered her.

That’s what God is doing for you. He’s remembering the cries you’ve prayed in private. He’s seen the years of waiting and the nights of weeping. And now, that holy fire inside you is about to produce something the world has never seen.

So, thank God for the match boxes in your life. They didn’t come to destroy you—they came to ignite you.

Let it snow, Let it snow, Let it snow

When the Snow Reminds You God Still Keeps His Word

Chicago has already recorded 17.1 inches of snow this season, making it the snowiest start to winter by Dec. 7 since 1978, when more than 24 inches had fallen by this point.

I will never forget that winter.

I was five and a half years old—tiny, light, and barely strong enough to hold myself up in the world, let alone a loaf of bread in a snowstorm. My mother’s favorite grocery store was Hillman’s on 95th and Jeffrey on the South Side of Chicago. That was our spot. And when my mother said we were going to the store, there was no arguing. Snow or not, we walked.

Looking back, it had to be about a 10–15 minute walk in normal weather. But that day? With mounds of snow nearly up to my waist and winds that felt like they wanted to snatch the breath from my little chest, it felt like hours. At 5½ years old, I was tiny—not even three feet tall yet—and lightweight. Today, as a full-grown adult who has never weighed more than 125 pounds, I can only imagine how feather-light I must’ve been then. Every step felt like my legs were heavier than the bread I carried. That loaf felt like the weight of the world in my mittened hands.

My mother walked ahead of me, steady and intentional. I remember feeling the distance between us—not just in steps but in presence. She was close enough to see yet far enough for me to feel alone. I kept lifting one leg after the other through snow that seemed determined to swallow me whole. I didn’t think I would make it. The cold bit my skin. My cheeks burned. My legs throbbed. But I kept going, because she kept walking.

I am Chicago born and raised. Those streets shaped me in ways I am still understanding. Though I’ve lived in Houston for four years now, Chicago will always be home. On my last few visits, I didn’t get any snow. I prayed for snow this year—not just to see it, but to feel it again, the nostalgia, the beauty, the childhood memory. And not only did the snow come…it arrived before I did.

It’s funny how the same snow that once intimidated me—snow that I truly believed might kill me—has become something I long to touch, laugh in, and run through again. Almost 48½ years later, I prayed for what once almost broke me.

When I read that post on 12/7/25, God whispered to me about that moment. As this year closes, I can look back over my life and see seasons where the weight I carried felt just like that bread—too heavy for me, too much for me, and far more than my little legs could handle. Times when I felt alone even though someone was just ahead of me. Times when I questioned if I would make it.

And yet—I’m still here.

Sometimes our promises feel the same way: out of reach, too far ahead, too heavy to carry. Sometimes the seasons we walk through feel like we are frozen and designed to destroy us. But God has a way of taking what once overwhelmed us and turning it into a place of reflection. A place of gratitude. A place of testimony.

The snow that once felt cruel and cold now reminds me of resilience, growth, and perspective. It reminds me I didn’t die in that season. It reminds me I made it. And it reminds me that God keeps His word just like He keeps His weather patterns—faithful, intentional, and right on time.

“For as the rain and the snow come down from heaven

and do not return there but water the earth…

so shall my word be that goes out from my mouth;

it shall not return to me void.” — Isaiah 55:10–11

I look forward to stepping back into that snow—not as the frightened child who thought she wouldn’t make it, but as the grown woman who knows she did.

And with the same God that was with me then.

The garden within her heart

The Deborah Mantle and the Weapon God Designed

There’s a reason God placed Adam in a garden before He placed Eve in his arms. The garden was more than scenery; it was Adam’s first assignment—his training ground. In Eden, Adam learned to steward, cultivate, protect, and value what God entrusted to him. Every seed he planted, every boundary he maintained, and every part he tended taught him something about responsibility. These weren’t simply lessons in agriculture. They were lessons about the heart.

Just as a seed in the soil produces life, the seed in a man produces a child. And just as a garden requires nurturing, covering, and protection, the heart of a woman requires the same. Adam’s stewardship of the garden was prophetic. It was preparation for the day God would present Eve—the one whose heart, calling, emotions, and spiritual womb would require cultivation.

This matters deeply, because there is a harvest of love God is cultivating in the heart of every bride-to-be as He prepares her to become a wife. It is a love personally planted, watered, and tended by the Father Himself. Just as He formed Eve to multiply Adam’s seed, God prepares a woman’s heart long before she is ever found.

But many men today are eating from the wrong gardens—seeking validation, entertainment, attention, and intimacy from places never assigned to them. Their appetites have been shaped by forbidden soil, leaving them distracted, unfocused, and unable to recognize the garden God has placed within the woman He set apart for them to cultivate.

If Adam could awake from a divine surgery and instantly recognize Eve—not by sight, but by revelation—then surely today’s men should pause and reconsider how they are choosing. Adam didn’t study Eve. He didn’t audition her. He didn’t compare her. He knew her because God revealed her.

When God grows the garden within a woman, the love she carries is not manufactured by human effort. It is heaven-grown, sacred, and divinely produced. She becomes a wife long before she is found. She carries a love that is consecrated for one man, not common to all.

She is a garden prepared.
She is a harvest ready.
She is a wife—not because she has a ring, but because God has already tilled the soil of her heart.

This revelation connects with the Deborah mantle—a prophetic identity many women carry without recognizing it. Prophet Tomi Arayomi once described a woman as a Weapon of Mass Destruction, a force designed to carry, nurture, protect, and release life into the earth. When God declared enmity between the serpent and the woman in Genesis 3:15, He wasn’t punishing her. He was equipping her. He placed in her a holy hostility toward the enemy, so she would never again entertain what seeks to destroy her and her seed.

But here is the danger: when a woman’s heart goes uncultivated, uncovered, or neglected, her God-given enmity can turn inward. Instead of resisting the enemy, she may begin to resist her husband, or herself. A garden ignored becomes overgrown. And a heart unprotected becomes vulnerable to bitterness, anger, shame, or hopelessness.

I learned this painfully in my previous marriage. When my husband emotionally withdrew, stopped communicating, stayed out late, and entertained infidelity, something inside me shifted. The divine enmity that God placed within me began to turn toward him—and toward myself. What I didn’t understand back then was that the enemy wasn’t just attacking my marriage; he was after my identity. After my calling. After my garden.

A prophetic word once spoken over me became a lifeline: “If you don’t give God your whole heart, you will become a dangerous woman.” I felt myself slipping into that danger—becoming hardened, numb, defensive, and spiritually exhausted. But God intervened. He healed the abandoned little girl within me, the woman carrying years of silent wounds and generational grief. He redirected my enmity back to its proper target: the kingdom of darkness.

This is the Deborah mantle. Deborah rose not because she was loud, forceful, or dominant—but because she was a mother. Her authority came from nurture, wisdom, and spiritual clarity. She protected the heart of a nation the way Adam was called to protect the heart of Eve.

Guard your garden. Protect your heart. Aim your enmity at the right enemy. And arise—like Deborah—to defend the generations within you.

When God Brings It Full Circle

When God Brings It Full Circle: A Story of Triumph, Vindication, and Obedience

Full circle.

This moment right here is what full circle truly feels like—when God leads you back into the very places that once wounded you, not to reopen the pain but to reveal the victory. When He whispers, “I never forgot. I was working the whole time.”

Lately, God has been reminding me of past victories—times when I felt unheard, unseen, dismissed, or mishandled. Moments where people thought their decisions were final, but Heaven had already issued its verdict and stamped VINDICATED across my name. God knows our ending before our beginning, and He knows how to bring every story into divine completion.

I remember the year 2000 as if it were yesterday. I had spent months trying to correct what was out of order under my supervision—following every union guideline, documenting every detail, walking in integrity. But insubordination was constant, attendance issues were never-ending, and the director who should have supported me became part of the problem.

There comes a moment when protecting your integrity is the only way forward.

So I submitted my resignation letter.

The moment I handed it to her, everything shifted. Suddenly, she and the assistant director appeared at my desk every day—begging me to stay, pleading with me to retract the letter, spending hours trying to persuade me. Their desperation revealed what they never acknowledged: they knew the dysfunction, and they knew my departure would expose it.

In the middle of their pressure, God spoke so clearly it drowned out every voice around me:

“Do not take it back.”

He told me that withdrawing it would strip the truth and integrity from everything I had written. So I stood firm.

Then God gave me another instruction that made absolutely no sense:

“Take your resignation to Human Resources.”

I had no intention of returning to that job. None. Yet I obeyed. HR received it with honor and said, “If you ever want to return, you can. Your integrity precedes you.” Still, I privately said, I’m never coming back.

Six weeks later, my then-husband told me to file for unemployment. I didn’t want to. I didn’t understand it. But out of obedience, I applied.

And not only did I win—

All I submitted was my resignation letter.

God defended me before I even realized I needed defending.

Because when God seals your vindication, no one can reverse it.

Then came nine years.

Nine years where hospital doors remained closed.

Nine years of wondering why God made me submit that resignation letter to HR.

Then, God did what only God can do.

A new director-level position was created—equal in authority to hers—and she had no influence over it. God opened the door supernaturally. I even interviewed for it and was offered the position.

But fear whispered louder than faith.

I was intimidated.

I didn’t feel qualified.

So I turned it down and took another job.

I worked that job for 15 months… until God spoke again:

“Call them back.”

When I did, I didn’t even have to interview again.

Right before I called them back, the entire organization had gone through a major layoff, and all new positions were supposed to be eliminated first—

but this position was spared.

Preserved. Protected. Held open by God’s hand.

So I stepped into it.

Then in 2010—ten years after my resignation—PricewaterhouseCoopers and MedAssets performed a system-wide audit. The new system director, the same woman who originally hired my former director, saw every buried issue.

And God brought it FULL CIRCLE.

The same director who once fought me now had only 15 months until retirement. She sent for me. I came graciously. She begged me to intercede for her job—the same way she once begged me to stay.

But Heaven had already spoken.

She was let go.

She had to relocate out of state.

It took her over ten years to recover what obedience could have preserved.

Her disobedience cost her.

My obedience elevated me.

God is the Righteous Judge.

You don’t have to fight for your name.

You don’t have to defend yourself.

You don’t have to prove anything.

God sees.

God hears.

God responds.

And when He brings it full circle…

the vindication is undeniable.

He will rewrite every wrong.

Let Him make it right.

“When God Closes the Wound: The Power of Mercy and Truth.”

Closure: The Reward of Understanding

So many today are tormented and on edge because they’ve never received closure. I’ve seen it tear people apart—marriages, friendships, ministries. Some have spiraled into depression, witchcraft, manipulation, and even cyberattacks—trying to control or destroy what they couldn’t understand. Others have tried to ruin reputations and relationships because they couldn’t make peace with the end of a chapter. But closure isn’t always something man can give. Sometimes, only God can close a thing the right way.

God gave us a picture of closure in the Garden. When He removed Eve from Adam, Scripture says, “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman…and he closed up the flesh instead thereof” (Genesis 2:21). God didn’t leave Adam open. He closed him up. That’s what real closure looks like—when God Himself heals the wound and seals what was opened.

One of the greatest causes of heartbreak is misunderstanding. Proverbs 3:19 says, “The Lord by wisdom founded the earth; by understanding He established the heavens.” Understanding establishes things. When I was walking through the brokenness of my previous marriage, I asked God for that—understanding. I didn’t just need to be right; I needed to be healed.

In that season, God gave me two weapons: mercy and truth. Proverbs 3:3–4 says, “Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: so shalt thou find favor and good understanding in the sight of God and man.”

Mercy became my plow—it softened the hard places in my heart. Truth became my ornament—it kept me anchored in what was real, even when emotions tried to deceive me. Proverbs 16:6 says, “By mercy and truth iniquity is purged: and by the fear of the Lord men depart from evil.” These two weapons became the keys to my deliverance.

But the more I prayed, the worse things got. I didn’t realize then that I had been promoted into generational warfare. Like in every video game, each new level comes with stronger opposition. New levels truly bring new devils. The Lord began to show me that I wasn’t just fighting for my marriage—I was fighting for my bloodline.

The enemy always challenges what God ordains because he wants to continue the pattern of brokenness. Scripture says the iniquity of the fathers visits to the third and fourth generation. When God raises up a deliverer to break the cycle, hell studies your weaknesses. Your weakness is an indicator of your Goliath—but it’s also proof of your assignment. The enemy wants to label you a failure, but God wants to make you a living example of what He can do through one surrendered life.

So if you feel abandoned, overlooked, rejected, or used—if you’ve given your all to someone or something and you’re standing at the edge ready to give up—this word is for you. I know that edge. I’ve stood there before, ready to quit. But I also know the voice of God that pulled me back and reminded me that I am never without help, never without purpose, and never without weapons.

Today, God wants to give you closure, favor, and good understanding. But you must first pick up your weapons—mercy and truth. They don’t just protect your heart; they rebuild your life. When man can’t or doesn’t believe you deserve closure, God will. Just as He closed up Adam’s flesh, He will close your wounds. He will seal what was once bleeding and give you peace that passes all understanding.

When God initiates a season, a relationship, a lesson, or a transformation, He will give the clarity, conclusion, and closure necessary to move forward.

Confusion comes from people.

Closure comes from God.

Love’s Miranda Rights

Love has a way of arresting us when we least expect it. One moment, you’re living freely—unbothered, moving through life on your own terms—and the next, someone walks in and quietly reads you your rights without ever opening their mouth.

You feel it in your heart before you ever hear it in your ears. It’s that unspoken declaration: You’ve just been served.

But this service isn’t illegal—it’s spiritual. It’s emotional. It’s divine. It’s that moment your soul recognizes its match and realizes something holy just happened. You’re no longer a free agent. You’ve been caught—hooked, booked, and bound—not by force, but by the magnetic pull of destiny.

This kind of love doesn’t knock politely; it breaks through the door of your comfort zone. It protests your independence, starts fires, and demands your full attention. It reminds you that passion, when divine, doesn’t play by the world’s rules. It ignites and consumes, and somehow in the burning—it purifies.

When love arrests you, you’re no longer in control. You find yourself on emotional trial—your heart testifying against your mind. Every look, every word, every tear becomes evidence. You’re charged with feeling too deeply, caring too much, trusting too soon. And yet, in this court of love, guilt is the sweetest verdict imaginable.

Because to be guilty of love is to be Christ-like—the One who accepted a death sentence just to prove His love.

In this sacred interrogation, you’re invited to speak—but not everything needs words. Sometimes silence testifies louder than speech. The right to remain quiet becomes a whisper heard miles apart but felt in the soul. It’s the unspoken language that says, “I see you. I feel you. I know.”

When two hearts are aligned, love becomes both sentence and freedom. You’re confined to each other’s hearts but liberated in each other’s world. Solitary confinement turns into sacred union. You stop craving escape because you realize the walls surrounding you are made of devotion.

You’re no longer running. You’ve been captured—raptured—by something beyond understanding. You’ve been found guilty of desire, sentenced to forever, and charged with the crime of stealing someone’s heart only to discover yours in return.

Love, at its core, is divine law. It asks for truth, commands honesty, and demands vulnerability. It strips away ego until only the soul stands exposed. It’s raw and real—grace wrapped in imperfection—but never without purpose.

So when you’re served, remember:

You have the right to remain silent—but you’ll never be the same again.

You have the right to counsel—but none can defend you from love’s arrest.

And once convicted, you’ll find yourself willingly serving a life sentence that feels like freedom.

Because in this divine courtroom, mercy is the judge, truth is the gavel, and the final verdict is always love.

A Kingdom response to culture singleness

I recently came across a post that sounded emotionally intelligent and deeply reflective. It said men today are choosing singleness not out of immaturity or fear, but out of self-awareness and healing. It claimed that healed men aren’t avoiding love — they’re avoiding losing themselves again. That they’re not scared of commitment but unwilling to sign up for “forever” without peace, respect, and shared purpose. His conclusion? When a man delays marriage, it’s not fear; it’s focus.

At face value, that sounds balanced, wise, and emotionally healthy. But when you look deeper, it’s not rooted in biblical theology — it’s cultural psychology dressed in spiritual language.

Here’s the problem: this framework makes man the source of his own completeness. Yet in Genesis, it wasn’t Adam who decided he needed companionship — it was God. “It is not good for man to be alone.” Adam didn’t ask God for Eve. He didn’t say, “Lord, I feel lonely.” He was fully occupied naming the animals, walking with God in the cool of the day, and living healed and whole. Still, God looked at that wholeness and said, “Not good.”

Then God did something profound. He put Adam into a deep sleep — a divine coma — and performed the first surgery in human history. He opened Adam’s side, removed a rib, and formed Eve. God took her out of him. That means before Eve ever stood beside Adam, she already existed within him.

Why does Scripture mention that God “closed up his flesh”? Because closure matters. God sealed Adam’s wound so he couldn’t go searching for what was already finished. God wanted Adam to know she came from Him — not from Adam’s imagination, not from his loneliness, and not from his personal preference. And when Adam woke up, he didn’t need confirmation from a prophet or a post. Revelation recognized revelation. He said, “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.”

He didn’t question her source because he knew it. God presented her to him — the same way He still presents divine unions today.

I know this intimately. God sent me. I presented myself. I was patient. I carried the kind of love described in 1 Corinthians 13 — patient, kind, not envious, not boastful or proud. I didn’t dishonor. I wasn’t self-seeking. I kept no record of wrongs. I protected, trusted, hoped, and persevered. I believed love would never fail.

You promised to make room and choose me this year. I waited through every season, believing in divine timing, thinking our separate journeys were preparing us to finally walk together. But one day, without warning, you got engaged.

As I slowly began to accept the truth, one morning I woke as usual, it felt ordinary, but heaven had an appointment with me. As I prayed, I kept hearing, “Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”

And then — God met me like He met Moses. As I wept, He began to remind me how He took Moses back to the beginning and revealed Genesis by revealing his hind parts. He hid me in the cleft of the rock and let His goodness pass before me. In that moment, He settled the issue in my heart and what was already settled in heaven. What I always knew from the beginning of our journey. I didn’t need another comment, another picture, another song, or another letter. God Himself became the closure. He was the one that presented me and prepared me.

He dried my tears, erased my fears, filled every void, quieted my spirit and sealed my heart with His eternal love — the love we shared before time began.

I understand: nothing can separate me from the love of God. The mystery of you was always Him in you. I wasn’t just waiting to be somebody’s “you.” I was already chosen and eternally loved.

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Navigating Ships: Managing Expectations in Life and Faith

We all come into life with expectations—dreams, hopes, and silent longings passed down from generations. But somewhere along the way, our expectations become tied to people, positions, and performance. We build our ships—relationships, partnerships, situationships, and friendships—hoping they will carry us safely to destiny. Yet every ship we build must be navigated, and every captain must be chosen.

The truth is, many of us have been navigating our ships with Jesus on board, but not at the helm. We love His presence, but we often question His power when the storm starts rocking what we built. Like the disciples in Luke 8, we invited Him into our boat, but when the waves began to rise and the winds started howling, we panicked and asked, “Master, don’t You care that we perish?”

The problem was never that Jesus didn’t care. The problem was their expectation. He had already told them, “Let us go to the other side.” That was the promise. But between the promise and the fulfillment came the storm—a test not of His power, but of their perspective.

Perhaps the storm came in your ship to reveal where your expectations truly lie. Was your faith in Him or in the ship? Was your peace anchored in His word or in the people around you?

We often think God is absent when we can’t feel Him, but Jesus was in the same boat—resting. His rest was proof of His authority. He wasn’t moved by the storm because He was the Master of it. And maybe that’s what He’s trying to show us: that even when life feels unstable, His word remains sure.

Jesus told us to count the cost before we build. He knew the rains would come, the winds would blow, and the floods would rise—not maybe, but for sure. Yet if the foundation is firm, if the ship is built with Him as the Captain, then no storm can sink it.

When we misplace our expectations, we begin to idolize the ship itself. We start measuring the success of our journey by how smooth the water is instead of how steadfast our faith remains. We place hope in the relationship, the title, the ministry, or the friendship—and when those things start taking on water, we panic. But God allows storms to shift our focus from the vessel to the Voice.

It’s not that He doesn’t want us to build. It’s that He wants us to build with Him. Because sooner or later, every ship will face resistance. And when that moment comes, you’ll need to know that He is still on board, still in control, and still able to speak, “Peace, be still.”

Don’t jump ship because of the storm. Don’t wreck your ship because your expectations were built on people instead of His promise. Every storm is temporary, but His word is eternal.

You may have lost people along the way—those who couldn’t handle the waves or the waiting. That’s okay. Not everyone is called to sail with you to the other side. The storm wasn’t meant to destroy you; it was meant to develop you.

So as you navigate your ships—relationships, partnerships, situationships, and friendships—let Jesus be the Captain. Let His voice guide your direction. Let His peace anchor your heart.

Let Him take the wheel—-because the truth is, the safest place to be isn’t in calm waters—it’s in the same boat with Jesus.

When God Sends You, But They Don’t choose You

“The man who does not first know himself will never be able to recognize how set apart the woman is who is standing before him.” — David Anthony Burrus

This is one of the most profound statements I’ve ever heard.

I’ve learned some valuable lessons over these last few years. I’ve watched countless relationship podcasts, prayed, and reflected deeply on what true partnership looks like through God’s eyes. Eve was set apart inside of Adam. When God was ready to multiply what was in him, He introduced the concept of multiplication through her—by giving her a womb. She was the vessel that would carry what God placed in him.

Today, men have countless options. But Adam only recognized Eve because he knew who he was first. God never had to tell Adam where she came from; he knew through revelation—through being deeply in tune with himself and with God. God put Adam in the first induced coma and performed the first open surgery, taking a piece of his rib. That act wasn’t just physical—it was prophetic. A man can never love a woman beyond his capacity to love himself.

When things went wrong in the garden, Adam blamed God for the woman He gave him. Sadly, that same mindset still lives today—blame, confusion, and division. We’re watching the same pattern repeat itself in our generation: misplaced accountability and a lack of self-awareness, while the enemy quietly deceives us out of alignment.

And because of that, very little is being multiplied. True fruitfulness and divine partnership can only happen when both man and woman walk in revelation, not confusion—when they both know who they are in God before they come together.

In Genesis 24, we see that kind of divine alignment again through the story of Isaac and Rebecca. Abraham sent his servant on a sacred mission—not to find just any woman, but the one God Himself had chosen for Isaac. Abraham understood that covenant relationships aren’t just about personal happiness; they’re about eternal alignment and generational destiny.

Before sending his servant out, Abraham declared, “The Lord will send His angel before you.” This wasn’t about human effort—it was heaven’s orchestration. Isaac didn’t chase. He didn’t have to prove himself. He trusted the process his father set in motion, and ultimately, he trusted God.

When the servant arrived at the well, he prayed a very specific prayer—not for beauty, but for character. He asked that the woman who offered him a drink and also watered his camels would be the one God had chosen. Rebecca didn’t hesitate; she didn’t negotiate. She labored in humility and obedience. That simple act revealed her readiness for destiny.

But here’s where many miss it: what happens when God sends you, but they don’t choose you?

When heaven has already chosen, but someone’s immaturity or insecurity blinds them to what’s standing in front of them? What happens when God’s answer looks unfamiliar, inconvenient, or not like the picture we imagined?

Rebecca could have said no. Isaac could have doubted the process. But they both said yes—and that yes shaped nations.

So many today pray for God’s best but reserve the right to reject it if it doesn’t match their preference. We want covenant without consecration, blessing without obedience, promise without process. But heaven’s alignments require spiritual maturity—especially from the one who’s supposed to recognize what God placed before him.

Because when God sends you and they don’t choose you—it’s not a reflection of your worth; it’s a reflection of their readiness. Rejection doesn’t cancel your calling; it redirects your path to where your “yes” will be honored.

Stay aligned. Stay obedient. Because when God chooses, rejection doesn’t just delay a relationship—it interrupts destiny.

The crushing

I recently watched a movie called Ruth and Boaz, a modern-day version of the biblical love story between Ruth and Boaz. Boaz, in this retelling, owns a distillery and understands the sacred value of the crushing. He doesn’t dismiss Ruth as damaged goods or see her through the lens of her past. Instead, he sees her — truly sees her — as the treasure she is.

On their first date, something profound happens: Boaz washes Ruth’s feet, an act of humility and honor. Then, he invites her to join him in crushing grapes. The symbolism is breathtaking. Before the wine can flow, the grapes must first be crushed. Before the fragrance of purpose can be released, something must be broken.

Jesus said that in order to receive new wine, we must also receive a new wineskin. Without it, the new wine will burst the old container, and both will be destroyed. So often in relationships, we long for the beauty of the new — new love, new intimacy, new beginnings — yet resist the breaking process that prepares us to hold it.

In love and marriage, there are seasons of romantic bliss where everything feels effortless, and then there are seasons where the weight of the relationship feels like pressure — like crushing. But these moments are not designed to destroy us; they are opportunities for transformation. The crushing refines what’s inside us and makes the love more potent, more enduring, more alive.

In DeVon Franklin’s new movie, there’s a powerful scene where the distillery was intentionally set on fire and Boaz believes everything was destroyed. Until, he tasted the wine. When you endure the crushing, there is a drink offering that is produced, called new wine. The flames didn’t destroy the wine — they deepen its flavor. Likewise, in love, the fires of testing aren’t meant to consume the relationship but to concentrate its essence. True love, like fine wine, must survive both the fire and the crushing to release its most exquisite form.

When God is at the center, even the pressure produces promise. What once felt like breaking becomes becoming. The relationship becomes the vessel — the new wineskin — that holds what God has refined through time, faith, and perseverance.

So if you find yourself in a season of pressure, remember: God is not punishing you. He’s preparing you. The crushing is not the end — it’s the beginning of something new, fragrant, intoxicating and lasting.

Because love that has been crushed, pressed, and preserved through fire is the kind of love that never loses its flavor.

Hold on to your song

I won’t Hang My Harp on the Willow Trees

Have you ever felt like you were supposed to be married — that God confirmed it, gave you the details, aligned the testimony — only for the person to reject you? That kind of heartbreak feels like exile. Your heart is taken captive, and instead of celebrating love, you’re left grieving the life you thought you would be living by now.

That’s what Israel felt in Babylon. Psalm 137 says, “We hanged our harps upon the willows… for they that carried us away captive required of us a song.” The enemy had the audacity to mock them: “Sing us one of the songs of Zion!” How do you sing when everything you hoped for has been stripped away?

Israel ended up in exile because of their own disobedience. God warned them through Jeremiah, but they kept rejecting His word. They thought it would be a quick season, but God told them it would last seventy years. Even though disobedience brought them there, God still had a plan: “I know the thoughts I think toward you… to give you a future and a hope.”

I can relate. God gave a man every confirmation about me. Our stories, our adversity, our callings lined up letter for letter. God kept warning him to set himself apart, to choose obedience over compromise. But he hardened his heart, season after season, choosing woman after woman. Finally, God let him choose what he wanted — not the one He prepared.

And this is where many men and women miss it. We self-sabotage. Instead of committing to God, we run into entanglements. Instead of being set apart and waiting for His timing, we chase what feels good in the moment. We think God isn’t present in our “strange land” seasons, but He is. Just like He told Israel to build houses and plant gardens in Babylon, He wants us to live, grow, and thrive even when life doesn’t look like what we expected.

That’s the kingdom word for today: Stop despising where God has you, even if disobedience, heartbreak, or rejection landed you there. His will still stands in the middle of the mess.

The hardest part is the audacity of the enemy. After heartbreak, it feels like the world mocks you: “Sing your song now. Where’s your joy? Where’s your hope?” It’s the same cruelty Israel faced — being taunted to sing in a land of sorrow. Rejection will try to silence you, but here’s the truth: You still have a song.

I won’t hang my harp on the willow trees. I refuse to let heartbreak, delay, or rejection stop my worship or my hope for the future. The love I fought for and all the battles; I won secretly to continue to love and overcome will not be in vain. I loved outloud. I will continue to encourage others that God is still the God that is able. I dont know how or when but I know God can. One day I will love again and my next marriage will bring God great glory and honor because I loved Him and even when my heart was broken, I kept going and so should you. Because exile isn’t the end. Disobedience didn’t erase God’s plan for Israel, and rejection won’t erase God’s plan for me — or for you.

Sometimes relationships don’t turn out the way we thought God said. Sometimes the person can even hear from God and still harden their heart. But if Israel’s story teaches us anything, it’s that God’s plan is bigger than people’s choices, His timeline is deeper than our disappointment, and His freedom is greater than our captivity. Even in a strange land, He will give us back our song and we will be like them one day that dreamed again.

Psalm 126:1 When the Lord turned again the captivity of Zion, we were like them that dream.

You Can’t Order a Wife Like a Robot

We live in a world today where technology has advanced to the point that people can design and order a robot companion. Artificial intelligence has created machines that can cook, clean, and mimic human behavior to the point of feeling almost real. Some of these robots are even designed for sexual use, simulating intimacy in a way that many believe can replace human connection. But no matter how advanced technology becomes, a robot cannot replace the divine design of marriage. A wife is not something you can assemble like a robot from a box or order online; she is a gift from God.

When God created Adam, He did not give him multiple women to choose from. He gave him one woman, Eve, divinely fashioned for his life and his assignment in the earth. The next level of favor in a man’s life is connected to the wife he chooses. Scripture says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). That favor is not attached to just anyone—it is connected to the one God has ordained.

Today, men may feel like they have endless options, but the Garden of Eden shows us God’s original intent. It was not about variety or preference; it was about destiny. Eve was designed for Adam, and Adam had to recognize her, receive her, and call her what God created her to be. God created and built Eve with a womb—not only a natural womb for children but also a spiritual capacity to carry, nurture, and multiply what was entrusted to Adam. In the same way, the one God has chosen for a man’s assignment will be built and divinely aligned for that assignment.

I recently heard a podcast where the guest made a profound statement: “When you choose someone that is not your person, you automatically create a void of inadequacy and tramua in that person.” This is powerful. When a man chooses outside of God’s will, he not only hinders his own destiny, but he also wounds the woman who was never called to carry that assignment. Misaligned choices create cycles of brokenness, disappointment, and striving, because the relationship was never rooted in divine purpose.

This brings us to the question of calling and predestination. Scripture says, “Many are called, but few are chosen” (Matthew 22:14). To me, this means many are called to assignments, but only those who prepare themselves through separation, obedience, and maturity are chosen to walk in them. In every house, there are vessels of honor and vessels of dishonor. Judas, called the son of perdition, had a role to play even though his purpose was to betray. Yet, Jesus still loved him. Peter, on the other hand, was prayed for, restored, and became a vessel of honor. The difference wasn’t that one was loved and the other wasn’t—it was that one surrendered to transformation and the other did not.

The same applies in relationships. A man cannot simply order a wife to his liking, assembling qualities as if from a catalog. Nor can he replace her with a robot that simulates intimacy. Artificial connections may offer safety, but they can never produce covenant.

Adam named Eve—not God—because Adam recognized she would become “the mother of all living.” Men today must ask themselves: are you able to recognize the woman God has presented to you? Can you call her what heaven has destined her to be in your life?

This is a call back to God’s design. Men are called to love not with inordinate affection or shallow desire, but with the love of Christ—the love that sacrifices, nurtures, and protects. Women are not toys, nor replacements for loneliness. They are God’s creation, divinely aligned with a man’s purpose.

The question is not whether God has called you—He has. The question is: have you prepared yourself to be chosen?

The classroom of love

God is love, and deep down, every one of us is searching for it. Some search in the right places, while others stumble through the wrong ones, hoping to find something that will satisfy the ache in their souls. For some, love has become so distorted by disappointment that they echo the words of an old song: “What’s love got to do with it?” But the truth is—love has everything to do with it.

I will never forget March 21, 2023. I stood at my aisle that morning believing it would be just another day. Yet it became the precursor to one of the most unforgettable semesters of my life.

God spoke something into my spirit so clearly that I posted it on Facebook:

“I remember when we were kids in school, and the teacher got ready to take attendance. We had to say PRESENT. I heard Present loud in my spirit. Make sure you are present and in your seat!!! God is getting ready to call your name again. PRESENT!!!”

Eight days later, on March 29, my life shifted. That morning, love called my name. God revealed to me that I did not have to chase love through dating. My future husband would find me. And though he never literally called my name, love did.

I prayed that God would allow my husband’s love to unlock my heart without questions. And in the beginning, it was beautiful—an unexpected journey of restoration. I felt like I was fifteen years old again. My heart was being restored immediately. I quickly discovered what it meant not only to love but to be in love. He was intentional, doing the work, saying the right words. We had divine alignment.

But then the exams began.

Love’s classroom is not without tests. I found myself learning lessons that only experience could teach. I had to study hard—through tough conversations, unhealthy boundaries, rejection, confusion, comparison, and even the heat of fiery trials. I checked off the boxes of patience, kindness and love keeps no record of wrong. I stayed in my seat even when it was uncomfortable, because God had enrolled me in the class.

Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 13 became more than verses on a page; they became the study guide of my soul:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails.”

When fear made him draw back, I chose to stay present. When doubt tried to whisper, I remembered that God had sent me and love never fails. Even when my name wasn’t called right away, I knew I was in the right class, the right seat, and I was not late—I was right on time.

Love’s classroom isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. Just like when I was a little girl who had to say “present” when her teacher called roll, I had to present myself fully to the lessons of love. To remain seated even when it was difficult. To trust that God, the greatest Teacher of all, was guiding the curriculum of our hearts. I believed he was taking the same test and always hopeful he was passing like me.

And here’s what God showed me: we have to be able to pass our final comprehensive exam called the curriculum of crisis when it is time to cross over to the other side. Pastor Dharius Daniels said it best: the weather didn’t change the word. It’s the same answer He gave you on the shore before the storm. Because even when the storm itself can’t destroy you, your reaction and decision to the storm can. Don’t self-sabotage.

The journey was not easy, but it was worth it. Every test and trial has become a page in my textbook of faith and love. And with every lesson, God reminded me: I passed and came forth as pure gold. God will honor me because I honored Him and obeyed. I encourage you to obey God as well even when the storm is raging and you believe Jesus doesn’t care like the disciplines questioned Jesus.

So, if you find yourself in love’s classroom today, don’t run from the exams. Don’t change seats. Don’t leave when it gets hard. Stay present. Stay teachable. Stay rooted in the truth that God is love, and His love never fails even if he doesn’t call your name. Love will call you again.

Walk it out

Walk It Out: Trusting God in the Sacrifice

“The fire and wood are here,” Isaac said, “but where is the lamb for the burnt offering?” — Genesis 22:7

When we reflect on Abraham’s test on Mount Moriah, it’s easy to focus on the drama of the sacrifice. But tucked inside that story is a deeper truth: Abraham’s obedience itself was worship. Worship is more than songs we sing on Sunday—it’s surrendering to God when the cost feels unbearable.

Abraham didn’t know how the story would end when God asked for Isaac. He simply obeyed. For three long days, he walked without answers, until finally he lifted his eyes and saw the mountain from afar. That moment matters: God didn’t show him the destination until he was already walking in obedience. The revelation came step by step, not all at once.

That’s how God leads us too. We crave the whole map, but He often only gives us the next step. And as we keep moving forward in trust, He reveals what we could not see before.

The Test of Obedience

Isaac wasn’t just Abraham’s son; he was the promise fulfilled—the miracle child born after 25 years of waiting, praying, and believing. To lay Isaac on the altar meant handing back the very thing Abraham had wept for, rejoiced over, and cherished.

Sometimes God asks us for what we treasure most. It can feel cruel, like He’s stripping away the very thing He gave us. But His intent is never destruction—it’s revelation. He was preparing to reveal Himself as Jehovah Jireh, the God who provides.

Hebrews 11 tells us Abraham believed that even if Isaac died, God could raise him back to life. That’s radical obedience: trusting the outcome to God when His request makes no sense.

Isaac’s Perspective

We rarely pause to consider Isaac’s side of the story. He noticed something was missing: “Where is the lamb?” And when it became clear that he was the sacrifice, fear and confusion must have overwhelmed him. Yet Isaac submitted—not just to his father, but ultimately to God.

Like Isaac, many of us have been placed on an altar we didn’t choose. Maybe it was through the decisions of parents, leaders, or circumstances beyond our control. It hurt, it felt unfair, maybe even destructive. But even there, God meets us. Those moments aren’t the end—they become the place where we personally discover God’s provision.

On Mount Moriah, Isaac came to know God not only through Abraham’s faith, but through his own encounter with the God who provides.

Modern Parallels

Maybe you’ve been there. You’ve fought for something you believed in, only to face restrictions or setbacks that made no sense. I’ve walked through seasons where I felt like Isaac—like the sacrifice on the altar of someone else’s obedience.

But here’s what I want every wife or future wife to know: you are not the sacrifice. Jesus is and always will be. Just as God provided a ram for Abraham, He will provide for you. Your obedience, your waiting, your surrender—it has not been in vain. God didn’t bring you this far to leave you. He will keep His promises to you and to your Abraham.

God doesn’t use delays or tests to punish us but to shape us. He’s building trust, stretching faith, and positioning us for revelation. At the right moment, the ram will appear.

A Message for the Isaacs and the Abrahams

• To the Isaacs: The test you’re facing is not meant to consume you, but to reveal God’s faithfulness. You are not the burnt offering. You are an heir to the promise.

• To the Abrahams: Your obedience matters. The people walking with you—your spouse, your children, your team—are not the sacrifice. They are part of the inheritance God is safeguarding.

Both Abraham and Isaac had to walk it out. Both had to trust God in the unknown. And both discovered that God’s plan was greater than their fear.

The Lord Will Provide

Genesis 22 ends with hope: “Abraham looked up, and there in a thicket he saw a ram caught by its horns.” Abraham called that place The Lord Will Provide.

That’s not just his story—it’s ours. Whatever altar you’re standing before today, keep walking. Trust God with the promise. What feels like it’s about to be destroyed is the very thing God intends to preserve.

Fear is not your future. Provision is. Keep walking it out, and watch God reveal Himself as Jehovah Jireh.

🎶 My Greatest Hits: A Prayer Strategy for Marriage Preparation

🎶 My Greatest Hits: A Prayer Strategy for Marriage Preparation

In music, some of the most iconic artists release a Greatest Hits album—songs that define their journey, the ones that still resonate years later. In relationships, we can think of our experiences the same way. Every heartbreak, disappointment, and lesson learned becomes part of our own greatest hits collection. Some songs remind us of pain, but others remind us of the growth that pain produced.

I’ve learned that the blows of past relationships didn’t come to make me bitter—they came to make me better. Adversity is God’s training ground, and every “hit” I’ve taken has become a stepping stone toward the covenant marriage I’m praying for. Today, I look back and realize: I don’t just have scars, I have strategy.

Here are 🎶 My Greatest Hits: A Prayer Strategy for Marriage Preparation.

Hit #1: Submission to Godly Counsel

Scripture: “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” (Proverbs 15:22)

Lesson learned: A spouse who resists godly counsel will struggle to lead in covenant.

Prayer: Lord, align my spouse’s heart with humility. Surround him with wise voices, and let him be quick to obey You when You reveal me to him.

🎶 Song Pair: “For You I Will” – Monica

Hit #2: Purity of Heart & Clarity of Vision

Scripture: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” (Matthew 5:8)

Lesson learned: A pure heart sees clearly. Clouded hearts lead to confusion and rejection in love.

Prayer: Father, purify my spouse’s heart. Remove distractions, deception, and wounds that blur his vision. Let him see me through Your eyes.

🎶 Song Pair: “You mean that much to me” – Chrisette Michele

Hit #3: God’s Love First, Spouse’s Love Next

Scripture: “We love Him because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

Lesson learned: No one can love well until they’ve been filled with God’s love and they love themselves first.

Prayer: Lord, reveal to my spouse the depth of Your love. May his love for me overflow from his revelation of how much you love him.

🎶 Song Pair: “A Couple of Forevers” – Chrisette Michele

Hit #4: Validation from God, Not People

Scripture: “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God?” (Galatians 1:10)

Lesson learned: A secure spouse isn’t shaken by applause—or the lack of it.

Prayer: Father, let my spouse rest in Your approval. Keep him steady even when human affirmation feels scarce.

🎶 Song Pair: “Give Myself” – Jennifer Hudson

Hit #5: Freedom from Soul Ties & Boundaries in Place

Scripture: “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:36)

Lesson learned: Ungodly soul ties suffocate intimacy. Healthy boundaries guard it.

Prayer: Lord, deliver my spouse from every unhealthy tie. Protect our relationship from distractions and ungodly counsel that would influence him to divide us. Help me to not personalize his struggles but to pray and fast for him to overcome them until he is free to be the man you called him to be.

🎶 Song Pair: “Stickwitu” – Pussycat Dolls

Hit #6: God-Conscious & Word-Rooted

Scripture: “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only.” (James 1:22)

Lesson learned: Knowing Scripture isn’t enough—it has to be applied to be transformative.

Prayer: Father, let my spouse be rooted in Your Word. May he not just hear it, but do it, aligning his convictions with mine.

🎶 Song Pair: “Primetime” – Janelle Monáe (feat. Miguel)

Hit #7: Unity of Vision & Purpose

Scripture: “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3)

Lesson learned: We have to continue to grow together. Challenge each other even when the truth is hard and cuts and believe that differences aren’t deficits and unity isn’t uniformity. It’s harmony.

Prayer: Lord, align our callings. Merge our visions. May we walk together in agreement and divine alignment.

🎶 Song Pair: “What I Needed”-Chandler Moore and “Made for me”-Muni Long

Hit #8: Identity & Recognition Without Striving

Scripture: “Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.’” (Genesis 2:23)

Lesson learned: The right spouse recognizes you with Gods revelation knowledge.

Prayer: Father, let my spouse recognize me as Adam recognized Eve. May I never shrink to fit insecurity, but flourish in who You’ve called me to be.

🎶 Song Pair: “For You” – Kenny Lattimore

Hit #9: The Weight of Obedience

Scripture: “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:15–16)

Lesson learned: Every decision in marriage carries weight—obedience isn’t just personal, it’s generational.

Prayer: Lord, let my spouse walk worthy of his calling. May he understand the gravity of obedience, knowing each choice impacts our covenant now and in the future.

🎶 Song Pair: “Yes, No Questions” – Coco

Hit #10: A Vessel of Honor

Scripture: “Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, he will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work.” (2 Timothy 2:21)

Lesson learned: A man who prepares himself for God’s use will willing allow God to separate himself to protect us and his future from outside threats to prepare to lead in marriage.

Prayer: Father, shape my spouse into a vessel of honor. Set him apart for Your use, equipping him to carry our assignment faithfully.

🎶 Song Pair: “I Do” – Muni Long & ToosI

Hit #11: Valuing the Work of God Over Worldly Status

Scripture: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)

Lesson learned: True worth isn’t in money, titles, or degrees—it’s in God’s work within us.

Prayer: Lord, may my spouse treasure the work You’ve done in me above worldly measures of success. Let him see the value of virtue over possessions.

🎶 Song Pair: “You Are” – Ash B

Hit #12: Covenant Love That Endures

Scripture: “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Mark 10:9)

Lesson learned: Love in marriage must endure seasons, not just moments.

Prayer: Father, give us a love that is steadfast, resilient, and unshakeable. May our bond reflect Your covenant faithfulness.

🎶 Song Pair: “Never Gonna Let You Go” – Faith, “Still” – Tamia, “Stay Together” – Ledisi & Jaheim

Hit #13: Present & Intentional Love

Scripture: “Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.” (Ruth 1:16)

Lesson learned: Love is about showing up, being present, and choosing each other daily.

Prayer: Lord, let my spouse be intentional in love, present in companionship, and steady in devotion. May our love reflect the loyalty of Ruth and Boaz.

🎶 Song Pair: “Where You Are” – Leela James, “Here for You” – Junetober

Hit #14: A Safe Place Called Home

Scripture: “My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.” (Isaiah 32:18)

Lesson learned: Marriage should feel like home—a safe refuge filled with peace.

Prayer: Father, Let our marriage be a home where love dwells, where rest is found, and where Your presence makes us whole.

🎶 Song Pair: “Home” – Syleena Johnson, “Better with You in It” – MAJOR.

Hit #15: A Love That Mirrors God’s Crazy Grace

Scripture: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8)

Lesson learned: True love forgives, covers, and holds on even in imperfection.

Prayer: Lord, may our love carry the passion, forgiveness, and grace that mirrors Yours. Keep us rooted in a love that never gives up.

🎶 Song Pair: “Crazy Love” – Brian McKnight, “The One He Kept for Me” – Maurette Brown Clark, “First Time” – TEEKS, “I Love You Too” – Ledisi

Every heartbreak once felt like a broken record on repeat, but God has turned them into a playlist of hope and strategy. These prayers are my greatest hits—born from lessons, matured through loss, and sharpened in waiting.

Love, Betrayal, and Restoration

Love, Betrayal, and Restoration: Jesus and Peter as a Picture of Marriage

When we look at Peter’s relationship with Jesus, it mirrors the same highs and lows we often see in marriage.

Think of how Jesus first encountered Peter. He didn’t find him successful or thriving — He found him weary, sitting in a boat after a long night of fishing with nothing to show for it. No success, no breakthrough, just empty nets. Then Jesus stepped into his world and gave him a net-breaking miracle — so many fish that Peter had to call other boats to help. That moment changed Peter’s life. He left behind his boat, his job, his old identity, to follow the One who had awakened something in him.

That’s like a woman saying yes to a man who believes in her when she has no bag to bring. He sees her potential, invests in her, and gives her a future. Jesus didn’t just bless Peter with fish — He developed him into a leader, entrusted him with vision, and drew him into the most intimate places of His life: the Mount of Transfiguration, the raising of Jairus’ daughter, and even the Garden of Gethsemane. Peter wasn’t just one of many; he was part of the inner circle.

In marriage terms, it’s like a man opening his world fully to his future bride. He’s bought the home, given her the ring, shared his secrets and dreams, and entrusted her with his heart.

But then comes betrayal. For Peter, it was denial. On the very night Jesus needed him most, Peter swore three times that he didn’t even know Him. For a man, that’s like discovering the woman you love has broken trust — maybe she’s still entertaining someone she swore was in the past, maybe it’s financial dishonesty, or maybe she simply didn’t show up when you needed her most. Betrayal cuts deeply because it’s not from a stranger, but from the one you invested your all into.

Most men would have walked away. They’d say, “I gave you everything, and you failed me — I’m done.” But Jesus didn’t treat Peter that way. After the resurrection, He met him on the shoreline and asked him three times, “Do you love Me?” — the same number of times Peter denied Him. Each “yes” became a healing balm for every “I don’t know Him.” Jesus wasn’t humiliating Peter; He was restoring him, reinstating him, and preparing him for purpose.

We see the same kind of love earlier in Scripture through Joseph, Mary’s husband. Imagine his position — the woman he loved is pregnant, and he knows the child isn’t his. Any man would feel betrayed. Joseph, being honorable, planned to put her away quietly. Most men would have walked away, and no one would have blamed him. But God stepped in and told him, “Do not be afraid to take Mary as your wife, for what is conceived in her is of the Holy Spirit.” Joseph chose obedience over pride. He stayed when most would have left, and in doing so, he aligned himself with destiny.

Both Joseph and Jesus reveal the heart of covenant love. Ephesians 5 calls men to love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself for her. That means covering her flaws, praying for her faith not to fail, restoring her when she stumbles, and preparing her to stand in her calling.

Covenant love is not weak. It doesn’t walk away at the first sign of betrayal or misunderstandings. It restores, renews, and looks beyond present pain to future purpose. It says, “I see you and will agree with God even if I don’t fully understand the assignment and what you are carrying from God. I will protect and guard what you are birthing because heaven trust you.”

That is the love Christ modeled with Peter. That is the love Joseph modeled with Mary. And that is the love God calls us to in marriage — a love that endures, restores, and redeems.

The question is, Are you ready to love like this?

Blessed

Loving Like Jesus: How to Lead When She’s Doubting

When Jesus heard Thomas express doubt, He didn’t rebuke him.

He didn’t shame him.
He didn’t withdraw His love.
He didn’t say, “After everything I’ve done for you?”
Instead… He came back — just for him.

Thomas missed the first resurrection appearance. And when the other disciples told him Jesus was alive, he couldn’t receive it. His heart was too broken. His faith too fragile. His words were raw:

“Unless I see the nail marks in His hands… I will not believe.” (John 20:25)

Eight days later, Jesus returns — and walks straight toward Thomas.

“Put your finger here. See My hands. Reach out your hand and put it into My side. Stop doubting and believe.” (John 20:27)

Jesus didn’t dismiss Thomas’s pain — He honored it with presence.
He didn’t retaliate for the doubt — He responded with compassion.
He didn’t ask Thomas to earn trust — He extended it, again.

Now let’s talk relationships.

Every man who desires to love his wife like Christ loves the Church must learn to lead through her moments of uncertainty — just like Jesus did.

Sometimes she’s not doubting you — she’s doubting if love like this can be real. She’s doubting if she’s safe. If she’s covered. If she can trust again. Especially if she’s lived through betrayal, abuse, rejection, or silence before.

When you see doubt in her — don’t take it personal. Take it as an invitation to show up.

Because love doesn’t just preach — it proves.
It doesn’t just quote Scripture — it lives it.

Jesus Was Still Wounded — But He Was Healed

Jesus didn’t hide His scars. He said “See them. Touch them.”

So brothers — you don’t have to pretend to be perfect. But can you be healed enough to offer your scars without shame? Healed enough to say, “I’ve been through something too — but I’m here to cover you.”

When your wife or partner is doubting, can you:

• Offer presence instead of punishment?

• Speak peace instead of proving a point?

• Remind her of what’s true — not what’s broken?

Paul wrote, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her…” (Ephesians 5:25)

That means sacrifice. That means leadership rooted in humility. That means loving her in weakness — not waiting for her to be strong.

Gentle Doesn’t Mean Weak — It Means Christlike

You don't have to raise your voice to prove you're a man.
You don’t have to withdraw to teach her a lesson.
You don’t have to retaliate to feel respected.

Love her anyway. Cover her anyway. Pursue her anyway.

Because Jesus met Thomas in his doubt — and called him blessed.

When Consecration Costs: The Lessons of Samson for a Self-Exalted Age

There are moments in prayer when heaven presses a story into your spirit so deeply that it feels as though the text itself breathes. Recently, as I lingered before the Lord, He led me into the life of Samson—a man chosen, consecrated, and set apart, yet undone by compromise.

The Scriptures tell us: “They gouged out his eyes and made sport of him.” Those words are not just about physical blindness; they represent the tragedy of squandered destiny. Samson was no ordinary man. He was born after forty years of Israel’s oppression, announced by an angel, and consecrated from the womb. His very existence was heaven’s answer to a national cry. Samson wasn’t just gifted—he was sent. Yet, though consecrated, he lived carelessly with what was sacred.

Again and again, Samson relied on the residue of past encounters with the Spirit, shaking himself as though the anointing were his personal possession. But there came a day when he rose to fight, and the Word declares: “He did not know that the Lord had departed from him.” That line pierces me still. How often do we treat lightly what heaven has required of us, assuming grace will cover what obedience was meant to secure?

Samson’s final act in the temple of Dagon is often celebrated—“he killed more in his death than in his life.” Yet was that really victory? His death was dramatic, yes, but it was not fulfillment. He was called to deliver Israel, not simply to collapse with his enemies. His incomplete obedience left a nation vulnerable. One man’s inability to honor the cost of his calling had generational consequences.

Even in his brokenness, Samson prayed, “Lord, remember me.” But his prayer was not for Israel’s deliverance—it was for personal vengeance. He asked a little boy to place him between the pillars, never realizing that the boy’s simple act of support would also seal his own fate. How many lives were lost that day because of one man’s self-seeking act? Samson’s story is sobering: calling is not about us, and our failures affect more than ourselves.

And yet—does this not mirror our culture today? In 2025, we live in a world that exalts self above surrender. We brand disobedience as freedom, call self-promotion destiny, and measure worth by applause rather than alignment. We love to boast, “My flex is that God never took his hand off of me” or “everything attached to me wins”—but is that truly the testimony of consecration? Jesus said plainly: “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself, take up his cross daily, and follow me. For whoever does not is not worthy of me.”

The truth is sobering: our lives are not our own. When God sets us apart, we no longer get to live casually. There are places we cannot go, relationships we can’t be entangled with, and shortcuts we cannot take—not because God is cruel, but because destiny requires consecration. To whom much is given, much is required. Samson forgot that. We must not.

If Samson teaches us anything, it is this: the call of God is holy, and to treat it lightly is to invite ruin. May we not die with unfulfilled purpose. May we not confuse grace for permission. And may we, above all, embrace the cost of our calling—because obedience, not self, is the true mark of power.

✊✋✌️ Rock, Paper, Scissors — and the Blueprint That Still Stands

Choosing Purpose Over Peace in Marriage

In the children’s game Rock, Paper, Scissors, each move beats something and loses to something else. Paper covers rock. Rock crushes scissors. Scissors cut paper.

But in God’s kingdom, when it comes to building marriage and family, there’s only one winning move: the Rock.

Not the rock of stubbornness. Not the rock of “my way or no way.”

The Rock that Jesus spoke of when He told Peter:

“Upon this rock I will build My church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.” (Matthew 16:18)

That rock was revelation from the Father. Not feelings. Not cultural trends. Not even the desire to “just keep the peace.”

🪨 Rock — Building on Purpose & Revelation

In Genesis, Adam recognized Eve not through trial and error or dating compatibility tests, but through a God-given revelation:

“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” (Genesis 2:23)

God’s blueprint for marriage has always been purpose + revelation. Adam and Eve were created to walk in dominion, multiply, and steward God’s creation — not just to meet each other’s emotional needs.

When you build your marriage on the Rock (Christ and His word), storms can beat against it, but it will stand (Matthew 7:24-25).

📄 Paper — The Illusion of Peace

In the game, paper covers rock — and in life, paper-thin peace can temporarily cover cracks in a relationship.

But Jesus warned us:

“Do not think that I came to bring peace; I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. A man’s enemies will be members of his own household.” (Matthew 10:34-36)

Choosing peace over purpose can look noble but is often dangerous. Peace without truth is fragile — it folds under pressure. The sword Jesus brings is His word, cutting between truth and falsehood, purpose and pretense.

A marriage built only on keeping the peace will crumble when conflict tests it.

✂️ Scissors — Cutting with Emotions & Realism

Scissors represent the sharp, reactive choices we make out of hurt, fear, or so-called “realism.”

Emotions are powerful, but they are not the foundation. Realism can help you plan, but it cannot reveal God’s purpose. Peter didn’t figure out Jesus’ identity with logic or emotion — he received revelation from the Father.

If scissors become your go-to move in marriage — always cutting away when things get hard — you may sever what God joined together.

🔑 The Winning Move in Life and Marriage

If marriage is Rock, Paper, Scissors, the blueprint of God’s kingdom flips the rules: The Rock always wins.

• Paper peace without purpose? The Rock still stands.

• Scissor emotions trying to cut covenant? The Rock still stands.

• Culture’s redefinitions? The Rock still stands.

Like Noah, we must build exactly according to God’s instructions — even when people laugh, misunderstand, or walk away. Because when the floods come, only the marriage built on the Rock will remain.

🕊️The blueprint still stands — and Heaven still backs what it designed.

When the Story Doesn’t End the Way You Thought

Are you the one?

There’s a heartbreak many of us don’t talk about — when the ending we hoped for never comes.

John the Baptist knew Jesus. Not just from a distance — he was family. He leapt in the womb when Mary walked in the room. He heard God say, “The one you see the Spirit descend on — that’s the One.” He baptized Jesus. He saw heaven open. He declared, “Behold the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world.”

John knew.

I knew.

But later, locked in a prison cell, with death around the corner and no miracle in sight, John the Baptist sends his disciples to ask Jesus: “Are you the one, or should we look for another?”

"Did I miss God?"
"Was this ever real?"
"Why would He let the story end like this?"

Wait… what?

How do you go from being the forerunner of Christ to questioning everything you believed?

Because the story didn’t end the way he thought it would.

And maybe that’s where you are. You knew God spoke. You were sure God promised. You thought they were “the one.” You poured into a relationship, a marriage, a ministry — only for it to end in betrayal, abandonment, or silence. You labored, supported, and stood in faith… only for them to marry someone else, walk away, or leave you wondering if it was all in vain.

You were certain that God said it — so why didn’t He rescue it?

That’s what John was wrestling with. He had done everything right. He prepared the way. He fulfilled his calling. Yet Jesus didn’t show up to rescue him from prison. No open doors. No dramatic deliverance. Just silence.

And in that silence, doubt crept in.

But here’s what Jesus does in response — He doesn’t rebuke John’s doubt. He honors his faith.

He tells the messengers: “Go back and tell John what you’ve seen — the blind see, the lame walk, the dead are raised, and the gospel is preached to the poor. And blessed is the one who is not offended by Me.”

Translation: “Yes, John. I’m still the One. Even if I don’t come get you.”

Friend, even if the story didn’t end how you thought… even if they walked away… even if the promise didn’t come wrapped the way you imagined — God is still who He said He is.

Don’t let the heartbreak cause you to doubt the promise.

Don’t let the silence make you question what you heard in the Spirit.

Jesus didn’t fail John — and He hasn’t failed you. His ways are higher. His timing is perfect.

Because just like John, even if the story ended — it didn’t end without purpose.

Trust God with the outcome.

Because He sees the full story — and He’s still writing yours.