Dying to Live again

I truly love, to truly become one in marriage, we must first learn to die to ourselves. The Word says, though our outward man is perishing every day, inwardly we are being renewed day by day. God builds us and increases us first from the inside out. So many are getting it wrong when it comes to dating. God is love. He placed within the heart of man the desire for love, yet so many of us seek it in the wrong places. Eventually, we come broken, like children who have shattered their favorite toy, hoping our Father can put it back together again. But, what about going to Him first, the one who is love.

I have learned, as someone who has never dated in the traditional sense, that love is not about grand gestures or picture-perfect moments. I have never been wooed, wined, and dined. I have no memories or photos of extravagant vacations with the love of my life, not even from my first marriage. We didn’t celebrate our first anniversary. I have no Valentine’s Day pictures, never danced all night, never stayed on the phone as a teenager whispering, "You hang up first." Yet, I have dreamed of a love that lasts forever—a love that endures all things, believes all things, and conquers all things.

Every since I accepted Christ in my life, I have been dying to live again. Jesus said that whoever finds their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for His sake will find it. I have poured out my life as an offering, believing that God will fill it with the life He always intended for me. William McDowell has a song called Empty Me, where he expresses the desire to be emptied so that God can pour in something greater. In the same way, when we have done whatever Jesus has commanded us to do, He will flood our lives with the new wine—the wine that makes dying to live again worth the sacrifice.

Couples often spend their courtship intoxicated by romance and oxytocin, but real love is built on sacrifice. When you spend the foundation of your relationship laying down your life for one another, discussing the hard topics, and planning with an awareness that every past and present decision will affect your future together, then you begin to understand why you must die to live again. Love, marriage, and unity require the death of self so that something greater can be born. Its about laying your lives down to fulfill your kingdom assignment together.

So many couples struggle because they are unwilling to die to themselves. They hold tightly to their independence, their desires, their way of doing things, and they resist the transformation that love requires. Yet, marriage calls us to surrender—to release selfishness and embrace oneness. It requires forgiveness, humility, and an unwavering commitment to growth. Without dying to self, there can be no true unity.

The breaking, the stretching, and the surrender are not in vain. They prepare us for something greater. When two people willingly die to themselves for the sake of love, they are resurrected into a union that is stronger, deeper, and more beautiful than anything they could have achieved alone. In Christ, in love, and in marriage, we must die to live again.

Hidden in Plain sight

Title: Hidden in Plain Sight for Purpose: Waiting to Be Revealed

In a world where visibility is often mistaken for value, it’s easy to wonder why your gifts seem unnoticed, your prayers unanswered, or your purpose delayed. But what if you're not overlooked… just hidden in plain sight? What if your current obscurity is the evidence of God’s intentionality—not a punishment, but a preparation?

God hides what is holy—even in plain view.
He conceals what carries weight—until the time is right to carry it.
He shields what is necessary—until the moment it must be revealed.

Look at Katherine Johnson from Hidden Figures—a brilliant mathematician, a Black woman quietly solving equations that would carry a man into orbit and bring him home alive. Her mind was unmatched, her calculations critical. Yet, she was tucked away behind the curtain of history, working in silence while others took the spotlight. Hidden? Yes. But not forgotten. She was hidden in plain sight—until history needed what only she could offer.

The same is true of you.

You may be overlooked by people, but never by purpose. You may feel tucked behind the scenes, but heaven is watching every move. Just like the intricate math that ensured reentry from space, your life is being aligned with supernatural precision. Every detail—your timing, your training, your tears—is being calculated by the One who knows the end from the beginning.

You are not invisible. You are intentionally undisclosed.

Scripture gives us another glimpse of this divine pattern. In 2 Kings 11, Joash—the rightful king—was hidden in the temple for six years. He wasn’t lost; he was preserved. While chaos reigned under Athaliah, God had tucked away the true heir, raising him in secret until the time of coronation. He, too, was hidden in plain sight for a purpose.

This same divine strategy applies to relationships.

When God ordains a union for kingdom impact—whether in marriage, ministry, or mission—He often hides both parties from each other and premature exposure. Why? Because what they carry together is too weighty to be mishandled by immature timing or spiritual sabotage. What seems like a delay is divine calculations.

Divine relationships are not built on impulse—they are authored by instruction.
They don’t emerge from convenience—they rise from covenant.

Just as John Glenn refused to launch without Katherine’s confirmation, God is waiting for everything to align before revealing what’s been hidden. One wrong move, and the mission fails. Enter too soon, and the relationship burns in reentry. So God hides. And watches. And waits.

So if you feel unseen—like Katherine working in shadows, or Joash sheltered in silence—take heart. You are not buried; you are planted. You are not forgotten; you are being formed. You are not denied; you are being destined.

You are hidden in plain sight for a purpose.
You are necessary to the assignment.
You are waiting to be revealed, right on time.

Every unanswered prayer, every delay, every detour is a part of the divine equation. And when the moment comes, the world will see what heaven already knows:

That you were created on purpose, for purpose, and hidden in plain sight to be revealed in glory.

Wait with confidence. Grow in grace. Trust the God who sees when no one else does. Because the One who hides you… is the same One who will unveil you.

Protecting Hearts and Building Legacy

The Battle Against Provocation

Have you ever felt provoked—not just by those around you but by Satan himself? If we’re honest, many of us have faced moments where the enemy sought to provoke us into actions that could derail our purpose. But as Scripture says, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). What resides in our hearts will manifest when pressure arises.

This truth was revealed in my own life during a dark season when I was tempted to respond to hurt with bitterness and evil. I will never forget a pivotal moment when a prophet called me out and declared that I was at a crossroads—a choice to surrender my whole heart to God or allow the enemy to use my pain for destruction. God, in His mercy, exposed my heart and drew me back to Him before I could fall into self-sabotage.

Likewise, David’s heart was exposed when Satan provoked him to number the people of Israel, an act rooted in pride and self-reliance. This moment reminds us that leadership demands humility, self-awareness, and submission to God. Provocation is inevitable, but how we respond determines the course of our lives and those we influence.

Guarding Against Pride and Self-Sabotage

David’s decision to number Israel in 1 Chronicles 21 was a tragic example of pride overtaking purpose. His focus shifted from God to his own achievements, much like how today’s leaders may obsess over social media followers, public accolades, or worldly success. These distractions can lead us to measure our worth by external validation rather than God’s approval.

As leaders, parents, and entrepreneurs, we must guard against this trap. The applause of man can never replace the presence of God. David’s failure shows us the cost of misplaced priorities—God’s displeasure and suffering for the people under his leadership.

We must ask ourselves: Are we leading for God’s glory or our own? Are we prioritizing the well-being of those we serve, or are we building platforms that exalt ourselves? Like David, we are accountable for our decisions, and their ripple effects extend to our families, teams, and communities.

The Weight of Leadership

The consequences of David’s pride were devastating. Though God forgave him, seventy thousand lives were lost because of his decision. This sobering reality reminds us that leadership carries generational weight. Our choices today impact not only us but also those who come after us.

As we lead, we must continually seek God’s wisdom and weigh the cost of our decisions. We cannot afford to act impulsively or selfishly. Instead, we must humble ourselves and trust God with the lives, relationships, and businesses He has entrusted to our care.

David’s plea to fall into God’s hands rather than man’s shows us an important truth: God’s mercy is great, even when we fall short. But the story also warns us that the consequences of sin, even forgiven sin, can be far-reaching.

Resisting the Enemy’s Agenda

Satan’s agenda is clear—to provoke, deceive, and destroy. He seeks to exploit our weaknesses, distort our motives, and lead us into pride and self-sabotage. But God calls us to resist the enemy’s schemes by staying rooted in His Word, remaining self-aware, and trusting Him with our hearts and responsibilities.

In my family’s history, I have seen how God can take what the enemy meant for evil and use it for His glory. My great-grandfather, the world remembers as the Honorable Elijah Muhammad, became one of the most influential leaders of his time, using his gift of influence to build a platform that impacted countless lives. However, pride distorted the purpose of that platform, leading to teachings that elevated man above God. This serves as a cautionary tale of how easily influence can be misused when we seek the approval of man over God’s truth.

As leaders, we must remain vigilant, ensuring that our platforms, relationships, and businesses reflect God’s glory rather than our own agendas. Success is not measured by the size of our following or the rooms we enter but by our faithfulness to God’s calling and the condition of our hearts.

Protecting Hearts and Building Legacy

The “issues of life” flow from our hearts (Proverbs 4:23), and as leaders, parents, and spouses, we must guard our hearts diligently. When we allow bitterness, pride, or fear to take root, it affects not only us but also those we are called to serve and protect. As we steward our relationships and responsibilities, we must protect the hearts of those under our care, just as God protects ours.

David’s story teaches us the importance of humility, repentance, and reliance on God. As we move forward, let us proceed with caution, recognizing the weight of our decisions and trusting God to guide us.

Great men and women are born for the times they are needed most. To be effective in our purpose, we must remain humble, self-aware, and submitted to God’s will. Let us decrease so that He may increase, shining His light through us as living epistles read by all men. Only then can we fulfill our calling and leave a legacy that glorifies God and blesses future generations.

Restoring Hope to Foster Children: A Nehemiah Vision for Rebuilding Generations

Restoring Hope to Foster Children: A Nehemiah Vision for Rebuilding Generations

In the story of Nehemiah, his burden for the broken walls of Jerusalem is a powerful illustration of divine purpose, compassion, and transformation. Despite 400 years of destruction and neglect, Nehemiah was willing to stand in the gap, weep before God, and act on his burden that led to rebuilding the city walls—a task no one else had attempted with such resolve. This is also my burden, resolve and call. I have stood in the gap for years weeping that God would do the same with my organization. His story reminds us that when God stirs a heart with a burden, He also provides the favor, resources, and strength to accomplish the task, even in the face of adversity.

Our vision will address the ashes left by the systemic failures of foster care is a modern reflection of Nehemiah’s work. Like Jerusalem’s walls, the foundation of care and support for foster children has crumbled, leaving generations vulnerable to cycles of pain and hopelessness. But, as Nehemiah rebuilt the walls to restore security and identity to his people, our vision and organization will restore hope and purpose to foster children through housing, resources, and a new paradigm of care.

Providing Housing and Resources: Rebuilding Lives and Restoring Hope

The first step in rebuilding the broken “walls” of foster care is to create a foundation of stability. Foster children often lack the basic necessities of safety, consistency, and support, leaving them emotionally and spiritually adrift. By providing housing and resources, your organization can act as a "repairer of the breach," creating a space where foster children can heal, grow, and dream again.

  1. Safe and Stable Housing
    Housing offers more than a roof over their heads; it provides security, dignity, and a sense of belonging. For children who have experienced displacement and neglect, a stable home becomes a place of refuge where they can begin to process their trauma and rebuild their trust in others.

  2. Comprehensive Resources
    Beyond housing, access to counseling, education, mentorship, and life skills training is essential. These resources equip foster children to break free from the cycle of poverty, abuse, and neglect. By addressing their emotional, spiritual, and physical needs, your organization empowers them to dream beyond survival and envision a future of purpose.

  3. A Supportive Community
    Foster children often feel isolated and forgotten. Building a supportive community where they feel seen, valued, and loved restores their sense of identity and self-worth. It also teaches them the value of relationships and the power of belonging to something greater than themselves.

Children Are the Future: Investing in Generations

The Bible is clear that children are a gift from God and the stewards of the future. Psalm 127:3 reminds us, “Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him.” If we are to invest in a brighter future, we must begin by healing the children of today.

Foster children, in particular, carry the potential to become the leaders, innovators, and visionaries of tomorrow—if we are willing to invest in their healing and growth. By restoring their sense of identity and purpose, we will fulfill the promise of Isaiah 58:12, becoming “repairers of the breach” and “restorers of paths to dwell in.” Each child healed represents a foundation rebuilt, a generation strengthened, and a community transformed.

A New Paradigm: Addressing a Broken System

The current foster care system often perpetuates cycles of brokenness due to overburdened systems, lack of resources, and insufficient support for both children and caregivers. A new paradigm is needed—one that prioritizes:

  • Holistic Care: Addressing the mental, emotional, physical, and spiritual needs of foster children.

  • Family Reunification and Support: Where possible, helping to restore and strengthen families to prevent future trauma.

  • Mentorship and Role Models: Providing positive influences who can guide and inspire foster children as they navigate life.

  • Community Collaboration: Partnering with churches, nonprofits, and businesses to create a network of care and resources.

Biblical Encouragement for the Mission

Our vision to rebuild the lives of foster children mirrors the call of Isaiah 58:12:

“And they that shall be of thee shall build the old waste places: thou shalt raise up the foundations of many generations; and thou shalt be called, The repairer of the breach, The restorer of paths to dwell in.”

This verse speaks to the power of restoration—not just for individuals, but for generations. By addressing the needs of foster children, we are laying the foundation for a new legacy, one that transforms not only their lives but also the communities they will impact.

Hope in the Face of Adversity

Just as Nehemiah faced opposition from adversaries who sought to thwart his mission, your organization may encounter challenges in changing the foster care system and addressing deeply rooted social ills. However, Nehemiah’s unwavering faith and reliance on God’s favor remind us that no task is too great when God is in the midst of it. With prayer, strategic planning, and a community of support, we can accomplish what others have deemed impossible.

Conclusion: Healing Children, Restoring Generations

When we help heal children, we are not only changing their lives but also shaping the future. By providing housing, resources, and a new paradigm of care, our organization will stand in the gap for foster children, much like Nehemiah did for Jerusalem. In doing so, we will fulfill the call to be “repairers of the breach” and “restorers of paths to dwell in,” leaving a legacy of hope, healing, and transformation for generations to come.

Through this mission, we will build more than homes—we will build futures. We will not just be providing resources—we will be restoring lives. And by choosing to stand in the gap, we are fulfilling God’s purpose to bring beauty from ashes and rebuild the foundations of many generations.

Happy Mother's Day: Push again

Push Again

Motherhood is a journey of stretching, breaking, and becoming. From the moment we conceive, our bodies, minds, and hearts begin to shift. We adjust our routines, our sleep, and even our sense of self. As that baby grows inside of us, we expand—sometimes painfully—beyond what we ever imagined. And then, when it’s time to bring life into the world, we are asked to do the impossible: to push.

We push when we are exhausted. We push when we feel we have nothing left. We push through the pain, the fear, and the uncertainty, until that long-awaited child is placed in our arms. And in that moment, the struggle fades in the joy of the promise fulfilled.

But what no one prepares us for is that pushing doesn’t end in the delivery room.

That same child, once fragile and dependent, will grow and stretch us again in ways we never anticipated. The sleepless nights return—but now for different reasons. The tears we once wiped from their tiny faces turn into prayers we cry in secret. We will feel empty, drained, and ready to give up.

Then, just like in labor, when we think we cannot do it anymore, the Spirit of God whispers: Push again.

Push past the heartbreak.
Push past the disappointment.
Push past the pain of watching them struggle.
Push past the fear that you’ve failed them.

Motherhood is a cross we carry, but it is also a joy set before us. Just as Jesus endured the cross for the joy ahead, so do we. There is purpose in our pain, and though we may feel like the sacrifice, God has not forgotten us.

So to every mother who has labored—who has stretched, broken, and bled for her children—know this: God is still perfecting the things that concern you. Your labor is not in vain. The same God who gave you strength to push before will give you the strength to push again.

Restoration is coming.
Joy is coming.
Morning is coming.

Happy Mother’s Day. Keep pushing. God is not finished with your story. There shall be glory after this.

Hope in the Wreckage

The Titanic: A Marvel of Its Age

In the early 20th century, the Titanic was the epitome of modern achievement—a grand, unsinkable ship symbolizing wealth, progress, and human ingenuity. Its size, luxury, and technological advancements were unparalleled, offering passengers an unprecedented experience. It carried the promise of safety, comfort, and speed, drawing people from all walks of life, united by the allure of new possibilities.

Like the Titanic, a relationship that begins with promise and excitement can feel invincible, full of potential and beauty. The ship’s grand dining halls, lavish cabins, and state-of-the-art engineering can be likened to the euphoric early stages of love—a time when everything seems perfect, unbreakable, and full of hope.

The Dangers of Rushing Ahead

Despite its grandeur, the Titanic’s tragic end was a stark reminder of the dangers of overconfidence and neglect. It was built with the latest innovations, but its creators were so certain of its invincibility that they failed to prepare adequately for unforeseen dangers. Lifeboats were insufficient, and warnings of icebergs were ignored as the ship steamed full speed ahead into dangerous waters.

In relationships, a similar fate can occur when couples rush ahead without taking the time to build a solid foundation. The excitement of new love can overshadow the need for clear communication, emotional depth, and mutual understanding. Just as the Titanic’s builders neglected to account for the potential risks, people often overlook warning signs, assuming that love alone is enough to sustain a relationship. But love, like a ship, needs more than beauty and promise—it needs preparation, humility, and a willingness to navigate challenges.

Chance, Time, and Opportunity

The Titanic’s story also illustrates how chance and timing can shape our destinies. For those who boarded, it was an opportunity to pursue dreams, reunite with loved ones, or start anew. The ship represented a chance for freedom, adventure, and upward mobility.

Similarly, relationships are often born out of chance encounters and moments of connection. The excitement of meeting someone new and embarking on a shared journey can feel like boarding a magnificent ship destined for greatness. Yet, just as the Titanic’s passengers couldn’t foresee the iceberg ahead, couples can’t predict every challenge they will face. Time and effort are necessary to ensure the relationship is strong enough to weather storms.

The Risk of Overconfidence

The Titanic carried passengers of all classes, each with dreams and aspirations. Yet, the very thing that made it desirable—its claim of being “unsinkable”—became its downfall. The ship’s builders believed it was too advanced to fail, and this overconfidence led to a lack of preparation. When disaster struck, the ship’s inadequacies were laid bare.

In love, overconfidence can be equally dangerous. Assuming that a relationship is unbreakable without investing in its growth can lead to neglect. The illusion of security can make people complacent, failing to address underlying issues or take precautions for the future. A healthy relationship, like a well-built ship, requires attention, maintenance, and humility to navigate life’s uncertainties.

The Heart of the Ocean: A Woman’s Heart

The Titanic’s fictional love story, depicted in the movie, centers around the "Heart of the Ocean," a rare and priceless blue diamond. This gem serves as a metaphor for a woman’s heart—valuable, mysterious, and capable of holding immense beauty and depth. In the story, the diamond represents love, sacrifice, and the enduring power of memories.

A woman’s heart, like the Heart of the Ocean, must be treasured and handled with care. It holds the strength to nurture, heal, and inspire, but it can also be fragile. Just as the diamond was lost to the depths of the sea, a woman’s heart can be deeply wounded when neglected, mishandled, or taken for granted.

The Tragic End: Lessons for Relationships

The Titanic’s sinking was a result of human error, overconfidence, and a failure to heed warnings. It reminds us that even the grandest structures can fall if their foundation is flawed. In relationships, the same principle applies. When couples neglect the small, seemingly insignificant details—honest communication, shared values, breaking ungodly soul ties and mutual respect—they risk facing their own “icebergs.”

The Titanic’s passengers had limited lifeboats, and many perished because there wasn’t enough preparation for disaster. In relationships, the “lifeboats” are the tools we build to survive challenges—patience, forgiveness, trust, and a willingness to adapt. Without these, even the strongest love can falter.

Hope in the Wreckage

Though the Titanic’s story ended in tragedy, it also serves as a powerful lesson. It teaches us the importance of preparation, humility, and cherishing what truly matters. Relationships, like ships, must be carefully built, navigated with wisdom, and equipped to withstand life’s unpredictable waters.

For those who take the time to build their relationship on a strong foundation—anchored in mutual respect, love, and faith—the journey can be one of beauty and fulfillment. Unlike the Titanic, a well-prepared relationship can survive the storms, reach its destination, and become a legacy that inspires others for generations to come. Although, the titanic sank, our ship won’t sink.

Dear future husband: If love were a book

📖 If Love Were a Book: A Journey Through Its Pages

Love is often likened to many things—a journey, a flame, a dance. But what if love were a book? Not just any book, but one that invites you to read it over and over, each time uncovering new depths and meanings.

Imagine holding this book in your hands. The cover may be worn, the pages dog-eared, but it's yours—a testament to the experiences, lessons, and emotions that love has brought into your life.

Take another glance.
Turn to the next chapter called Second Chance.
Read the words like an invitation to dance.

Love, like a cherished book, beckons us to return. To re-experience its joys and sorrows, to learn from its lessons, and to grow alongside its characters. It's in these re-readings that we find clarity, understanding, and the courage to continue the story.

I’ll acknowledge you and say thank you.
You didn’t give up—read that again—because you didn’t let it end.

These words resonate deeply, reminding us of the strength it takes to persevere in love. To choose to stay, to fight for connection, and to believe in the possibility of renewal. It's a testament to the resilience of the human heart and the transformative power of forgiveness.

I’d say read it again and again,
Until you understand the content within.
Until you can quote the lines,
Until you can see without the highlights it still shines.

Repetition here isn't redundancy; it's reinforcement. By rereading, we internalize the lessons, cherish the memories, and recognize the growth that love fosters within us.

When the words are not as clear,
And you are uncomfortable and fear,
Until the words leap off the pages
And escort you to places and stages
You thought you’d never stand.

Love challenges us. It pushes us into unfamiliar territories, urging us to confront our fears and embrace vulnerability. It's in these moments that we find strength and resilience we never knew we had.

Until there is no distance between your heart and my hand.
Until you run out of periods and question marks.
Until you are no longer bleeding and out swam all the sharks.

These metaphors speak to the trials and tribulations that love can entail. Yet, through perseverance and mutual support, love can heal wounds and bridge divides.

Read between the lines until you can hear what wasn't said,
When the words are still in my head.

Communication in love isn't solely about spoken words. It's about understanding the unspoken, sensing the emotions that words fail to capture, and being attuned to each other's inner worlds.

If love is as a book,
I’d say open it and take a second look.
Remember every story is not the same,
And every author is not seeking fame.

Every love story is unique, penned by its own set of authors with distinct voices and experiences. Recognizing this individuality allows us to appreciate the diversity and depth of love's manifestations.

Love comes sometimes to reveal your name,
To heal and to restore, to bring honor and expel shame.
Love comes to rewrite history and change the game.

Love has the transformative power to redefine our narratives, to turn past pains into sources of strength, and to illuminate paths previously shrouded in darkness.

Love comes to remind you to take it off the shelf,
To uncover, discover, and recover your best self.

In the hustle of daily life, we might sideline love, letting it gather dust. But revisiting it can reignite passions, rekindle connections, and rejuvenate our spirits.

So if you ever forget why love came,
Read it again and remember my name.

This closing sentiment serves as a gentle reminder: when doubts arise or memories fade, returning to the story of love can rekindle its warmth and reaffirm its presence in our lives and why it was worth giving it another chance.

The Ultimate T.H.U.G (Totally Humbled Under God)

Jesus responded to the hate directed at Him with total humility under God. In doing so, He embodied what it means to be “Totally Humbled Under God” (T.H.U.G.). He displayed the greatest act of strength and surrender when He revealed to His disciples that He could call twelve legions of angels to rescue Him, yet He chose the cross to fulfill Scripture. Jesus understood that His journey wasn’t just personal—it was for everyone who would come after Him through His sacrifice.

For three years, Jesus ministered and taught about the kingdom of heaven, revealing its nature and preparing us to receive it. He declared that He was one with God, the King establishing His kingdom. Yet, as He hung on the cross—bleeding, beaten, and seemingly defeated—it appeared as though everything He had taught was contradicted.

This can mirror our own experiences. There are seasons in life when everything feels contrary to what God has promised. Even Peter, one of Jesus' closest disciples, tried to dissuade Him from enduring the suffering of the cross. But Jesus knew the wisdom and power hidden in His crucifixion. He understood that once He gave up the ghost, the Holy Spirit would come, empowering us to destroy the works of the flesh and live as overcomers.

The Cross: A Necessary Process

Jesus told us to take up our cross daily and deny ourselves. This is a reminder that we cannot avoid the process God has for us, no matter how painful it may be. Like Jesus, we must endure and trust that there is divine purpose in the pain.

Many of us have experienced betrayal and hate—seasons where the same people who celebrated us one day turned against us the next. Just as Jesus heard "Hosanna!" from the crowd before they cried "Crucify Him!" we too may face public disgrace and private shame. Yet, even in His suffering, Jesus looked down from the cross and said, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing."

Our own crucifixion moments—when we are mocked, judged, or misunderstood—can feel unbearable. But these moments are part of God’s greater plan. Just as Jesus’ crucifixion was necessary for His resurrection and the salvation of many, our process often serves those who come after us.

Perspective in Pain

Pastor Dharius Daniels preached a message called Look Again, emphasizing that sometimes God changes our perspective even if He doesn’t change our circumstances. This principle is seen in Joseph’s story in Genesis 50:20:
"As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today."

Joseph endured years of betrayal, slavery, and imprisonment, yet God gave him a new perspective on his suffering. Similarly, Jesus tried to teach His disciples that “it is finished” would only be true after the crucifixion.

Becoming a THUG for God

To follow Jesus, we must become THUGs—Totally Humbled Under God. This means trusting God even when others misjudge us or question why we endure suffering. They may call us desperate or weak for staying faithful, but like Jesus, we are not submitting to the crowd; but to God.

Sometimes, staying in position—remaining on our “cross”—requires wisdom and calculated strength. Jesus trusted God to vindicate Him and refused to let the crowd’s noise or the pain of betrayal pull Him out of position. Many of us receive a word from God, but when betrayal or hardship comes, we are tempted to abandon our cross. Yet, God’s hidden wisdom and power are revealed in the process. There is wisdom in every wound. Don’t let your suffering be in vain.

Wisdom to Outsmart the Enemy

God desires to give us the same wisdom He hid in the cross. In the movie Columbiana, the protagonist outsmarts her enemies with precision and strategy. What captivated me about the film wasn’t the revenge but her ability to stay steps ahead of her adversaries. Similarly, God gives us the wisdom to navigate spiritual battles and defeat the enemy.

We must trust the process and remain steadfast. Like Jesus, our crucifixion moments are not the end—they are the path to resurrection and the fulfillment of God’s plan.

The Kindness in God's "No"

At some point in life, every child will accuse their parent of being cruel. The restrictions we place, the limits we set, and the discipline we enforce often feel like punishment to them. But as parents, we know something they don’t—our no is often the greatest act of kindness we can give.

Just as a loving parent must say no to protect their child, so does God. His correction can feel paradoxical, even cruel, yet it is always an act of love. "Where there is no vision, the people cast off restraint" (Proverbs 29:18). Without guidance, without boundaries, destruction is inevitable. That’s why God, in His wisdom, sometimes tells us no—not to punish us, but to protect us.

I remember a time when I had to exercise this tough love with my own son. He was 17, and unknown to me, he had been sneaking out at night, taking my truck, and drinking. I was working on my master’s degree at the time and rarely stayed up late to do my coursework. But one night, Jesus woke me up. I argued with myself about whether I needed to get up, but something in my spirit urged me to obey.

I worked for exactly 45 minutes before heading to turn off the living room light. And just as I reached for the switch, in walks my son—bloodshot eyes, tipsy, and holding my truck keys.

I wasn’t even angry. I was grateful. Grateful that he made it home safely, that he didn’t hurt himself or someone else. My first and only question was, “How long have you been doing this?” Without hesitation, he admitted, “About nine months.”

That was it. The keys were now mine, permanently. From that moment forward, neither he nor his younger brothers would ever have the chance of stealing my car keys and gaining access to my vehicle. My no was not an act of cruelty—it was an act of kindness. I never wanted to risk him driving drunk again, never wanted to test how many more times God’s mercy would cover his reckless decisions.

God’s Correction: A Paradox of Love

God’s discipline can feel like a contradiction, just as Shakespeare captured in Hamlet when the prince said, “I must be cruel to be kind.” On the surface, these words don’t make sense. How can cruelty be an act of kindness? But when you look deeper, you understand the truth: sometimes, the greatest kindness requires temporary pain.

We see this in God's dealings with us. His “no” may disappoint us in the moment, but it spares us from long-term destruction. He may withhold something we desperately want, not because He is cruel, but because He knows that having it too soon, or at all, could destroy us. He may discipline us, not to break us, but to build us into who He has called us to be.

“For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son whom He receives” (Hebrews 12:6).

To the child, discipline feels unfair. To the developing believer, God’s correction may feel harsh. But from a place of wisdom, we come to understand that every restriction He places, every door He closes, and every painful lesson He allows is rooted in His unfailing love.

So, when God tells you no, when He blocks a path you were determined to take, when He removes something from your life that you desperately wanted to keep—trust Him. It may only be a season where delay is not denial, it is divine development. It’s not cruelty. It’s kindness.

What have you done?

What Have You Done?

I will never forget the regret I felt at 17 years old, allowing my mother to take me to an abortion clinic. She insisted I abort my nine-and-a-half-week-old fetus—a baby I had already begun to nurture—because she changed her mind about supporting me. She made the appointment. I was deceived into believing abortion was the answer, but it wasn’t the answer then, and it isn’t now.

I am grateful that Roe v. Wade was overturned, though I know many disagree. Like millions of other young women, I was deceived, much like Eve in the Garden of Eden when Satan lied to her. Abortion is a lie—a theft of God-given authority and dominion over life. God gave Eve a promise that her seed would crush the serpent’s head, yet through abortion, the enemy has stolen the lives of countless children and silenced their futures.

Some women, like me, were deceived. Others, fully aware, chose to disobey. Laws now requiring ultrasounds and listening to a baby’s heartbeat have revealed the undeniable truth: it’s not just tissue—it’s a life.

Statics:

  • In the U.S., the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reported approximately 620,000 abortions in 2020 (based on data from 49 reporting areas). The Guttmacher Institute, which collects data independently, estimated about 930,000 abortions in 2020.

  • The U.S. abortion rate in recent years has been around 14.4 per 1,000 women aged 15–44.

The Development of a 9½-Week-Old Fetus

I discovered in detail how developed my baby was at 9½ weeks:

Development of Fetal Body Parts Before 9½ Weeks

1. Head and Brain

  • 5–6 weeks:

    • The head is disproportionately large due to rapid brain development.

    • The brain's three primary regions (forebrain, midbrain, hindbrain) begin forming.

  • 7–8 weeks:

    • Facial features like nostrils, mouth, and eye pits become distinct.

  • By 9 weeks:

    • The brain

This was a life separate from me and just like I didn’t have the right to shed innocent blood, we don’t today through abortion. God wants to right this wrong and give America a chance to repent and get it right in this hour!

God’s Question: "What Have You Done?"

God asked Cain, "Where is your brother?" When Cain denied responsibility, God said, "Your brother’s blood cries out to Me from the ground." Just as He held Cain accountable, God holds us accountable for the innocent blood of aborted babies. He is asking us, “What have you done?”

Through my brokenness and repentance, I found my life’s passion. At 17, I began to understand the weight of my decision. Years later, in 2013, Apostle John Eckhardt prophesied over me, confirming what I already knew:

  • “You will mother them, prophesy to them, minister deliverance, and love young women. It will take more than spiritual support—you will need resources to help single moms and those who have had abortions and God is going to give you the resources to support them.”

I wanted to create a ministry to support young women—those who had abortions and those who might feel forced to choose it due to lack of resources. In 2023, the vision became clear: my ministry, Ruth’s Vineyard, will serve foster girls only—those in the system and those who have aged out—so they can keep their children with support.

From Pain to Purpose

Out of the brokenness of my own pain, God birthed my life’s passion. Ruth’s Vineyard will be a refuge for foster young women, helping them keep their children and avoid the pain I experienced. This ministry is one of the ways God is restoring what the enemy has stolen and avenging the innocent blood of my child and millions of others.

God sees, remembers, and restores. What the cankerworm and locust have eaten, He will repay. This mission is part of His justice and redemption.

Final Reflections

God is calling us to repent and correct the wrongs of the past. My story is one of redemption and purpose, and I hope to be a voice for young women who feel lost or deceived. Just as God gave Eve the promise that her seed would crush the serpent’s head, we must reclaim our authority and defend the lives of the innocent.

God has not forgotten them, and He has not forgotten us.

 

Dear future husband: The most wanted

Love has a way of eluding us, slipping through our fingers like a fugitive on the run. Many of us have chased after it, only to find it fleeting, leaving behind wounds, questions, and a past archived with heartbreak. But what happens when love, once a shadow in our imagination, becomes real—when it is no longer a fugitive, but a force that apprehends us in the most profound way?

The Investigation of the Heart

Before true love enters, we often go through a deep interrogation of the soul. Every scar, every disappointment, every fractured hope is laid bare. We reevaluate our past, question our worth, must face our fears and sometimes hesitate to believe in love again. But healing requires exposure—acknowledging the wounds so they can be closed for good.

This process is not about artificial connections or rushed emotions or force. It is about divine implantation—love that is pure, intentional, and transformative from God.

Wanted for the Crime of Love

When love arrives, it doesn’t ask for permission; it invades, trespassing into the places we thought were too broken to be touched. It lingers in corridors of our hearts that were blocked and guarded and at times we turn around and wonder how that person got there.  It steals our time, rewrites our story, and breaks the chains that once bound us to solitude.

Love is a heist of the soul, a breaking-in, a transformation that arrests our fears and replaces them with something deeper, something permanent. The one who loves you becomes the most wanted—guilty of unlocking what was long forgotten, of seeing you when others overlooked you, of whispering words that rebuild your reality.

Sentenced to a Lifetime of Love

The irony of love is that while we often run from it, it was always meant to capture us. When love finally catches up, there is no more hiding, no more running. It crowns us—not as victims, but as victors, no longer haunted by the past but healed and made whole.

To be "Most Wanted" in love is to be seen, pursued, and captured—not by fear or fleeting passion, but by a love that is intentional and eternal.

So, if you find yourself caught in the grip of love, don’t resist. Be arrested. Surrender. Be transformed. Be crowned.


The Most Wanted

After a full comprehensive investigation—

An interrogation of my soul,

Every wound, every hole,

Reexamined, exposed,

and disposed,

In the archives of my past,

Where love was always a fugitive, that never really last.

Dedication. Elevation. Evaluation.

No more hesitation. No artificial insemination— Only divine implantation.

You are being summoned, Into a covenant with love and penetration.

Subpoenaed by heaven’s highest courts,

Your name written in sacred reports.

No longer a shadow in my imagination,

Transformation,

Under arrest to change a nation,

A whole generation.

You are on the Most Wanted List

For the spiritual heist of my mind,

For making me see where I was once blind,

For trespassing into my pain,

For enrolling in “You” university in my brain,

And breaking the chain,

That kept me bound To a life without love.

Lost and now found.

Your crime? Stealing my time.

As one of the most wanted,

For blunted,

Force trauma

Requiring me to be whole,

Taking control.

Inducing, deducing,

and producing,

A friend. A wife. A lover.

The Most Wanted and Haunted,

Charged with invading my space,

A trophy of grace.

Whispering words that reshaped my reality—

Guilty of unlocking what was long forgotten in me.

On Heaven’s radar,

For raising the bar, —

No more delay,

You are on full display,

Your face plastered on love’s billboard,

As your love now becomes my reward.

As a poster child for redemption.

No longer held in suspension.

For robbing me of my heart,

dissecting every part,

A fugitive now caught,

For high jacking into loves vault,

You will be stroked, soaked, and yoked, to me forever,

Together.

With evidence uncovered, discovered, And recovered.

You are guilty for making me your puppet of love,

Escaped from above,

And now incentivized with tips,

For making me talk like a ventriloquist,

Without moving my lips,

Placing you most wanted on the list,

For committing subliminal,

Criminal,

Temple invasions.

Not factored into the equations,

As the most wanted,

flaunted,

Vaunted,

And taunted,

In the face of the enemy,

As the remedy,

Captured as a rare specimen,

After enduring a grueling regimen,

Of being marred, Scarred,

And now ready to defend your guard.

Love.

For rewriting my story,

Taking every scar and turning it into an image of glory.

No longer a fugitive No longer daunted,

No longer hunted—

Now wanted.

Captured by love, Sentenced to life,

crowned as my king and me as your wife.

Hope in the wreckage

The Titanic: A Marvel of Its Age

In the early 20th century, the Titanic was the epitome of modern achievement—a grand, unsinkable ship symbolizing wealth, progress, and human ingenuity. Its size, luxury, and technological advancements were unparalleled, offering passengers an unprecedented experience. It carried the promise of safety, comfort, and speed, drawing people from all walks of life, united by the allure of new possibilities.

Like the Titanic, a relationship that begins with promise and excitement can feel invincible, full of potential and beauty. The ship’s grand dining halls, lavish cabins, and state-of-the-art engineering can be likened to the euphoric early stages of love—a time when everything seems perfect, unbreakable, and full of hope.

The Dangers of Rushing Ahead

Despite its grandeur, the Titanic’s tragic end was a stark reminder of the dangers of overconfidence and neglect. It was built with the latest innovations, but its creators were so certain of its invincibility that they failed to prepare adequately for unforeseen dangers. Lifeboats were insufficient, and warnings of icebergs were ignored as the ship steamed full speed ahead into dangerous waters.

In relationships, a similar fate can occur when couples rush ahead without taking the time to build a solid foundation. The excitement of new love can overshadow the need for clear communication, emotional depth, and mutual understanding. Just as the Titanic’s builders neglected to account for the potential risks, people often overlook warning signs, assuming that love alone is enough to sustain a relationship. But love, like a ship, needs more than beauty and promise—it needs preparation, humility, and a willingness to navigate challenges.

Chance, Time, and Opportunity

The Titanic’s story also illustrates how chance and timing can shape our destinies. For those who boarded, it was an opportunity to pursue dreams, reunite with loved ones, or start anew. The ship represented a chance for freedom, adventure, and upward mobility.

Similarly, relationships are often born out of chance encounters and moments of connection. The excitement of meeting someone new and embarking on a shared journey can feel like boarding a magnificent ship destined for greatness. Yet, just as the Titanic’s passengers couldn’t foresee the iceberg ahead, couples can’t predict every challenge they will face. Time and effort are necessary to ensure the relationship is strong enough to weather storms.

The Risk of Overconfidence

The Titanic carried passengers of all classes, each with dreams and aspirations. Yet, the very thing that made it desirable—its claim of being “unsinkable”—became its downfall. The ship’s builders believed it was too advanced to fail, and this overconfidence led to a lack of preparation. When disaster struck, the ship’s inadequacies were laid bare.

In love, overconfidence can be equally dangerous. Assuming that a relationship is unbreakable without investing in its growth can lead to neglect. The illusion of security can make people complacent, failing to address underlying issues or take precautions for the future. A healthy relationship, like a well-built ship, requires attention, maintenance, and humility to navigate life’s uncertainties.

The Heart of the Ocean: A Woman’s Heart

The Titanic’s fictional love story, depicted in the movie, centers around the "Heart of the Ocean," a rare and priceless blue diamond. This gem serves as a metaphor for a woman’s heart—valuable, mysterious, and capable of holding immense beauty and depth. In the story, the diamond represents love, sacrifice, and the enduring power of memories.

A woman’s heart, like the Heart of the Ocean, must be treasured and handled with care. It holds the strength to nurture, heal, and inspire, but it can also be fragile. Just as the diamond was lost to the depths of the sea, a woman’s heart can be deeply wounded when neglected, mishandled, or taken for granted.

The Tragic End: Lessons for Relationships

The Titanic’s sinking was a result of human error, overconfidence, and a failure to heed warnings. It reminds us that even the grandest structures can fall if their foundation is flawed. In relationships, the same principle applies. When couples neglect the small, seemingly insignificant details—honest communication, shared values, and mutual respect—they risk facing their own “icebergs.”

The Titanic’s passengers had limited lifeboats, and many perished because there wasn’t enough preparation for disaster. In relationships, the “lifeboats” are the tools we build to survive challenges—patience, forgiveness, trust, and a willingness to adapt. Without these, even the strongest love can falter.

Hope in the Wreckage

Though the Titanic’s story ended in tragedy, it also serves as a powerful lesson. It teaches us the importance of preparation, humility, and cherishing what truly matters. Relationships, like ships, must be carefully built, navigated with wisdom, and equipped to withstand life’s unpredictable waters.

For those who take the time to build their relationship on a strong foundation—anchored in mutual respect, love, and faith—the journey can be one of beauty and fulfillment. Unlike the Titanic, a well-prepared relationship can survive the storms, reach its destination, and become a legacy that inspires others for generations to come. Although, the titanic sank, our ship won’t sink.

God Uses Desperation to Birth Greatness

Rachel and Jacob: Misplaced Anger and Frustration

Rachel, deeply loved by Jacob, was barren while her sister Leah bore many children (Genesis 30:1-2). Rachel’s pain and jealousy consumed her to the point of desperation, leading her to confront Jacob and cry out, “Give me children, or else I die!” Jacob’s anger was kindled as he responded, “Am I in God’s stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?”

This exchange highlights two key points:

  1. Misplaced Expectations: Rachel expected Jacob to solve a problem that only God could address. In relationships, this mirrors how we sometimes place unrealistic expectations on our partners, friends, or leaders to fulfill our deepest needs. Like Jacob, they may be unable to meet those needs because only God has the power to address the root of our desires.

  2. God’s Timing: Jacob recognized that Rachel’s barrenness was not something he could control. Often, what feels like a delay or denial is God’s perfect timing at work. Rachel’s desire for a child was fulfilled later when God “remembered her” and she gave birth to Joseph, a child destined for greatness.

Hannah: Turning to God in Desperation

In contrast to Rachel, Hannah provides a powerful example of faith and intercession. Deeply grieved by her barrenness and tormented by her rival, Peninnah, Hannah wept bitterly. Instead of turning to her husband, Elkanah, she brought her anguish directly to the Lord (1 Samuel 1:10-11).

The Power of Prayer

Hannah’s prayer was specific, heartfelt, and full of faith. She vowed to dedicate her child to the Lord if He would grant her a son. This act of surrender shows the transformative power of prayer:

  • Surrendering Control: Hannah didn’t demand or manipulate her husband to meet her need. Instead, she acknowledged that only God could fulfill the desire of her heart.

  • God’s Response to Faith: God honored Hannah’s prayer, and she gave birth to Samuel, one of Israel’s greatest prophets, who would anoint kings and lead the nation spiritually.

Lessons from Rachel and Hannah: Knowing When to Go to God

  1. Understanding the Source of Fulfillment: Rachel’s story reminds us that no human being can fulfill the deepest desires of our hearts. Whether it’s a spouse, a leader, or a friend, people are limited in their ability to meet our needs. Only God can fully satisfy us and give us what we need in His perfect timing.

  2. The Role of Intercession: Hannah’s story highlights the power of intercession. When we bring our desperation to God, He not only meets our needs but often births something far greater than we could imagine. Samuel wasn’t just a son to Hannah; he was a prophet who shaped the destiny of a nation.

  3. The Importance of Perspective: Jacob’s response to Rachel, though harsh, was a reminder that barrenness was not a punishment but part of God’s sovereign plan. Like Rachel, we must learn to trust God’s perspective over our own, even when the waiting feels unbearable.

God Uses Desperation to Birth Greatness

When women bring their deepest longings to God, He often uses those moments of desperation to birth greatness. Hannah’s heartfelt prayer resulted in a child who became a spiritual leader. Rachel’s eventual faith led to the birth of Joseph, who saved nations.

Desperation drives us to our knees, but it’s in that posture of surrender that God meets us, transforms us, and uses our pain for His glory. Relationships, whether in marriage, family, or community, should reflect this trust in God. When we stop looking to man for what only God can provide, we position ourselves to experience His miraculous provision.

Conclusion: Trusting God in Relationships

Both Rachel and Hannah teach us that our deepest longings are best entrusted to God. In relationships, this means recognizing the limitations of others and leaning into God’s unlimited power. Whether the need is for a child, financial provision, spiritual growth, or healing, desperation should lead us to the One who can truly fulfill our hearts.

Through intercession, God births greatness out of barrenness, transforms pain into purpose, and uses our waiting to prepare us for His plans. As we trust Him, we can rest assured that He is working all things together for our good and His glory.

 

The long route

The Long Route: Trusting God’s Timing

God knows exactly where we are and how to bring us to our expected end, even if He has to take us the long way. His promises are generational, and He is faithful to keep every word spoken. In Genesis 15:13-16, God made a promise to Abraham:
"Know for certain that for four hundred years your descendants will be strangers in a country not their own and that they will be enslaved and mistreated there. But I will punish the nation they serve as slaves, and afterward they will come out with great possessions..."

This promise wasn’t fulfilled in Abraham’s lifetime—it was for his great-grandchildren, the fourth generation. God had already planned a deliverer, Moses, to lead the children of Israel out of Egypt into a land flowing with milk and honey.

But there was something God didn’t tell them. He didn’t mention the giants in the promised land or that they would have to fight to possess what He had given them.

When the Promise Requires a Fight

How often do we give up on relationships, businesses, dreams, or other promises because we have to fight? The children of Israel faced the same temptation. After their miraculous escape through the Red Sea, God didn’t lead them on the shortest route to their destination. Instead, as Exodus 13:17-18 explains, He took them the long way:
"For God said, 'If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt.' So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea."

God knew they weren’t ready for the battles ahead. The wilderness was His preparation ground to humble and test them, as Deuteronomy 8:2 states:
"Remember how the Lord your God led you all the way in the wilderness these forty years, to humble and test you in order to know what was in your heart, whether or not you would keep his commands."

Waiting for the Promise

In 2000, God gave me a glimpse of my future, just as He allowed the children of Israel to spy out the promised land. It felt so real that I believed it would happen immediately. But just as Abraham waited 25 years for Isaac, I have waited nearly 25 years for the fulfillment of prophecies spoken over my life since I was 18.

At the end of 2024, I found myself saddened, wondering why I hadn’t yet received what I believed would come in 2023. Yet, God reminded me of a prophetic word from April 2021: "You will enter your great harvest in 2025."

This journey has been humbling. Through delays, I’ve learned that delay is not denial. The Bible says, "Hope deferred makes the heart sick" (Proverbs 13:12), and there were times my heart felt heavy. But God is faithful. He has used this process to heal me, test me, and prepare me for the desires of my heart.

Refined Through the Fire

Recently, I received confirmation through a prophetic word from Prophet Tomi Arayomi and the RIG Nation prophetic team. They shared that I had passed through the fires, endured the tests, and come out as pure gold. This was not just for me—it was for others.

Every trial we endure is part of God’s eternal equation for our destiny. Just as He took the children of Israel the long route, He allowed me to experience a prolonged journey to strengthen my faith, deepen my roots, and prepare me for the fight ahead.

God’s Faithfulness Across Generations

God’s promises extend beyond us. What He spoke to Abraham wasn’t just for him—it was for his descendants. And just as He fulfilled His promise to Abraham, He will fulfill His promises to us, even if it takes longer than we expect.

Be encouraged if you find yourself on the long route. God is not done unfolding your story. The delays and tests are not wasted—they are part of His preparation. He is humbling you, strengthening you, and equipping you to possess the promises He has already given you.

Get ready to receive everything God has spoken over your life and your generations. His timing is perfect, and His faithfulness endures.

Dream Again: The Power of Reaching

Andy was growing up, outgrowing toys and childhood habits—but not his deep connection to Woody. Woody was his favorite, and Andy was Woody’s. As summer approached, Andy eagerly prepared for camp, just as he had done for years, never leaving Woody behind. With excitement, he grabbed Woody, swinging him high in the air, celebrating their tradition.

But in an instant, their joy turned into heartbreak. A tear. Woody’s arm ripped, and just like that, Andy’s excitement shifted. He placed Woody on a shelf, leaving him behind as he rushed off to camp without him.

It’s a moment that mirrors real life. How often do we find ourselves reaching for something we love, only for it to tear apart in our hands? A relationship. A business deal. A long-held dream. The pain of unexpected separation can leave us feeling discarded, forgotten, or even betrayed.

In Psalm 126, the people of Israel spoke of a time when they had lost everything, yet God restored them:

"We were like those who dreamed again."

They were torn from their land and captivity had stolen their hope, just as life’s disappointments can make us afraid to dream again. But God specializes in restoration. He promises to mend the tear.

Healing the Tear

Sometimes, we hurt one another without fully realizing the depth of the wound. Like Andy unintentionally tearing Woody’s arm, people unintentionally—or even intentionally—cause harm. Instead of doing the work to repair the damage, some choose to walk away. Others, like Woody, are left on a shelf, feeling abandoned and broken.

I know what that feels like. I once had a business deal that could have made me a multimillionaire, but betrayal cost me the opportunity. I’ve felt the sting of rejection in relationships. I’ve experienced the devastation of an adulterous affair in my previous marriage. Each of these situations left a tear—one that only God could heal.

And He did.

God’s promise is not just to comfort but to restore—to fix the tear so we can reach again.

Reaching Inspires Others

Yesterday, I was grocery shopping when I spotted my favorite black bean tamales on the very top shelf. They were just out of reach, but I was determined. I stepped up into the freezer section, stretched as far as I could, and grabbed them.

A man nearby had been watching me closely. As I stepped down, he said, “Had you not reached up there, I would have never looked that high to see those.”

That moment struck me. When we reach for what God has for us—even when it seems impossible—we inspire others to reach, too.

If life has placed you on a shelf, if past wounds have made you afraid to try again, God is calling you to dream again. The pain may be real, but so is the healing. The tear may have happened, but God is restoring you to reach again—not just for yourself, but for those who will follow your lead.

So reach. Stretch beyond the hurt. Go after what God has for you. And as you do, you’ll inspire someone else to dream again.

Love will leave it's mark

Last week, I was mindlessly scrolling through Instagram when I stumbled upon a post that unexpectedly captured my attention. It was a young woman, a new mother, standing confidently in a sports bra and panties, holding her newborn just a few weeks old. But this wasn’t just another sweet mother-and-child moment; it was something much deeper. She went beyond the polished smiles and the carefully curated postpartum pictures that flood social media. She was raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic. She bared not just her body, but her truth—a truth many of us know but rarely speak about.

The comments section was split. Some applauded her bravery, while others criticized her for showing too much. But she was unbothered, standing in her vulnerability with a bandage still covering her second C-section incision. Her belly, darkened by the aftermath of birth, bore fresh stretch marks that told the silent yet profound story of her journey. Her body was a canvas of love—a testament to the stretching, scarring, and sacrifices required to bring forth life.

I couldn’t help but relate. I have undergone four C-sections myself, yet I would never have had the courage to take such a picture. Still, as I look down at my own scars, I am forever reminded of the immense stretching I endured not just physically, but in every way possible—to birth my children one by one.

God, in His divine design of a woman, intricately wove within us the ability for our cervix to stretch ten times its normal size to bring forth life. Yet, for mothers like this young woman and myself, medical necessity required a different kind of opening, a different kind of stretching. Where others could quickly recover and return to their pre-pregnancy bodies, we were left with incisions, with scars, with reminders of the cost of love.

And isn’t love always like that? Whether in motherhood, relationships, or marriage, love will stretch you, reshape you, and leave its marks. It requires you to change—your sleeping habits, your diet, your lifestyle, your budget, your mindset. It forces you to grow in ways you never imagined. It is uncomfortable, often painful, and sometimes requires being cut open, exposing your deepest vulnerabilities. But just as childbirth brings forth something beautiful, so does love.

Love is not just the euphoria of passion, the glow of romance, or the dreamy ideals we hold. It is labor. It is sacrifice. It is stretching beyond what we think we can endure. It is counting it all joy, even when it hurts. Because in the end, the scars and the stretch marks are not just reminders of pain—they are proof that we gave everything we had to bring forth something worth loving.

Dear future husband: Happy Valentines day- Life is but a dream

At 19, I stood at a crossroads, facing challenges that tested my faith. The enemy’s pursuit was relentless, but God’s call was louder. I will never forget that December night in 1991 when Prophet Kevin Leal called me out. He sang a prophetic song over me, declaring that God had not called me to “a bunch of mess, but to the joy of the Lord in His holiness.” He told me I would prophesy, minister His Word, and teach spiritual warfare. And then, he delivered God’s promise: if I did it God’s way, He would bless me with happiness beyond my wildest dreams.

If my life were a fairytale, it would be called Life Is But a Dream. Because you, my love, are my happiness beyond my wildest dreams. Despite every twist and turn, God aligned our steps perfectly, just as we knew He would.

Albert Einstein said, “Adversity introduces a man to himself.” Through every trial, we grew closer to becoming the versions of ourselves God intended. Our story reflects the themes of the fairytales I’ve cherished, each one offering glimpses of God’s divine hand at work in our lives.

Cinderella

The pumpkin at midnight reminds me of God’s divine timing, aligning me to discover you on your birthday. It shows the impermanence of His providence, and the courage required when life shifts suddenly. The glass slipper symbolizes my destiny—uniquely designed for me, signifying that I was always the one chosen to walk this path. Like Cinderella, my past didn’t disqualify me from marrying the prince—you.

Sleeping Beauty

The curse of darkness and stagnation echoes the trials I faced. But just as Sleeping Beauty’s curse was broken by a kiss, my heart was awakened by your words. Without physical connection, your words captured my heart and honored our covenant with God. It was one word—love—that breathed life into my spirit, proving the power of words over actions.

Toy Story

Woody’s determination to reunite with Andy symbolizes loyalty and purpose. Like Woody, I was determined to show you that you had a friend in me. Through every setback, I was your Jessie—steadfast, supportive, and full of hope. Even when we lost our way, God renewed and strengthened our bond, restored our connection and resurrected our love.

 Finding Nemo

The trench and jellyfish represent trials that seemed insurmountable. Like Marlin, we had to learn to trust each other. I was your Dory, encouraging you to “just keep swimming” in our darkest times. Marlin’s release of control inside the whale resonates deeply—when he saw Dory’s scar, he learned to trust and let go. Though we were taken off course, God guided us to exactly where we needed to be. Together, we endured the worst and emerged stronger.

 Beauty and the Beast

Belle’s sacrifice for her father mirrors my own journey of selflessness and love. Like Belle, I learned to see beyond the surface—to the truth beneath. Through love and courage, the curse was broken. God’s restoration brought us into our rightful destinies. He built us to last, rebuilding not just us, but the miracle of everything around us, releasing his divine power of restoration for generations to come.

Frozen

Elsa’s journey to control her powers mirrors my own journey of self-acceptance. Her decision to use her gifts for good, rather than harm, reflects the maturity I’ve gained. Winter was my coldest season, and for a time, we were freezing. Yet, the tears I wept in past seasons reminded me of the love we shared in eternity. Even then, we chose to win—and we did. God has perfected our love.

 

Each of these stories reminds me of the lessons we’ve lived—perseverance, love, and transformation through trials. God is the ultimate author, the finisher of our faith, and just as He wrote my story, He is writing yours. Be encouraged, because life is but a dream—a dream crafted by God Himself.

So, keep hope alive and never stop dreaming. For you are God’s dream, and He isn’t finished with you yet.

 

Poetic Justice

 We are one of the greatest fairytales to ever behold,

To ever unfold, 

To ever be told, 

the pendulum was not broke,

when you woke, 

and the clock struck twelve but there was no pumpkin or carriage,

Only a letter,

That told me, ooh child things are going to get better,

Dating while Christian

With interviews of love and marriage, 

I fit the shoe, 

Divinely arranged,

and changed,

I do.

 

We are one of the greatest poems that could ever be spit,

grit, 

never quit,

keep it lit,

Poetry in motion,

Devotion, 

It’s not over.

 

How befitting it would be that I get the ring,

and the king, 

without a kiss,

Capturing my heart with words that came to life with bliss,  

Dreaming but awaken,

overlooked and mistaken,

Don’t settle 

We won.

The prize

My beautiful surprise,

God heard our cries,

And broke the curse,

We made it through better and the worse.

 

Stopped pretending,

got to healing,

I was there on the other side,

to ride, 

like Jessie,

I am your bestie,

Remember you have a friend inside,

Don’t hide,

You had to find your way back, 

To get us on track,

We are home.

Settle down,

Look at what we found,

Renewed love,

Sent from above.

 

 Lost in me like Marlin

You are going to have to change my name to H2O,

Afraid to go, 

through the trench 

And trust

A must

Instead, we went through the jellies

Scarred and stung,

You came back

Forever sprung,

Swallowed by a whale,

Creating our own fairytale, 

 hanging on his tongue,

Steady love

Ready 

Built to last

“Just keep swimming”

Believing we would arrive,

Survive, 

Thrive,

and stay alive.

  

The one that would have to love, 

in spite of,

To break the spell,

To go behind the veil,

To see beyond the pain, 

To remain, 

To prevail against the gates of hell,

To bring everything back into divine order,

as your supporter,

Forbidden into your secret lair,

Not always wanting me there,

Miracle of restoration 

I saw the real you,

This love is so true.

  

It all started in the spring, and you hit me like a breeze,

we made it through the fires and your falls but when we got to the winter, I kept hoping we didn’t freeze,

Learning to forgive 

Perfected Love,

Let it go, let it go, letting go of, 

not always understanding the distance,

And resistance,

The rejection and confusion,

Was cold,

on hold,

Warring between dualities,

multiple realities,

Revelation, delusion,

and illusion

of love unrequited,

Passion reignited,

Focus undivided,

Excited,

 Finally 

reunited.

Dear Future Husband: The power of your love

The power to resurrect.

The room was still. Silence hung in the air and in this quiet moment, God pulled back heaven’s curtain, I could feel your presence not just hear it. It wasn't the kind of silence that feels empty or hollow, but one filled with expectation, as if the universe were holding its breath with me, waiting for something to happen. In the stillness, I could hear the whisper of a truth that had long been buried—the power of your love.

It wasn’t just any love. This love was something deeper, something transcendent. The love I was learning about was the kind that could unravel the tightly wounded forget me knots of my heart. The kind that was making me forget about wounds that ever existed and every moment I was ever forgotten. Your love reminded me God did not forget me. The love that had been there all along, waiting for me to open my eyes and my heart to it when I found you. See you loved me before I ever met you. And when I did, everything shifted in a moment.

The Silence of Love

God’s love has a unique ability to lift us. It has the power to silence every destructive voice that has ever echoed in my mind. The voices that once told me I wasn’t enough, that I would never be loved, that my past would forever define me—these voices were drowned out, not by noise or argument, but by the profound silence of God’s love. It’s as if, when He speaks, the world itself stops to listen. His words aren’t heard with the ears but felt in the soul. And suddenly, all the clamor of negative thoughts and painful memories fades away, replaced by a peace that passes all understanding.

Breaking Down the Walls

Each negative word that had been spoken over me, whether by my father, mother, or an ex-lover, had built a wall around my heart. Over time, these walls became my protection, but they also kept me from experiencing the fullness of love. But God’s love—true and unwavering—was powerful enough to tear these walls down, brick by brick. I could feel it, even as it was happening. It wasn’t just a process; it was a confrontation, a battle where every lie I had believed was exposed for what it was.

With each lie that fell, the walls crumbled a little more, until there was nothing left but the raw, open space of vulnerability. And in that space, God’s love poured in, filling every crack and crevice.

The Transformation

And then came you. In this journey of healing, I imagined you—my partner, my equal, my love. You were not just a man, but a catalyst for the transformation I had been waiting for. The moment you touched me with your words, I could feel your presence like a gentle force, like someone who had the power to not only heal but to remake me. The power of your touch was more than emotional in those moments I could even feel you physically; it was a spiritual renewal.

As your words touched me in places your hands could never reach miles away, I could feel the shift, the transformation. You weren’t just leaving fingerprints on my skin; you were leaving marks on my soul. Each touch redefined who I was. Your love was filling in all the blanks. It was as though you were rewriting my story, erasing the pain of my past and replacing it with something infinitely more beautiful.

Music of the Heart

There were moments when I could feel the music of our connection. It was not the kind of music that could be heard with our ears alone, but something felt in the very rhythm of our hearts. The way you moved, the way you spoke, it was as if every part of you was attuned to the melody of my soul. We could hear each other in a whisper miles away. You played me like an instrument, and together we created a symphony of love, healing, and hope.

With every note you struck, I rose and still I rise. Where I had once been crippled by shame and fear, I now stood tall. Every part of me that had once known defeat was resurrected in your love. Shame was drowned and although you have never seen me naked, there is not a part of me you have not seen. My strength returned; my confidence restored. And in this new rhythm, we danced together, moving to the beat of God’s grace, waiting to stand face to face.

You didn’t just play me like an instrument; you helped me tune myself to a higher frequency. You taught me how to listen to the music of life, how to follow the notes that God had written for me all along. With you, I discovered a rhythm I had long forgotten—one that was slow and steady, one that encouraged me to rise stronger where I’ve fallen in past times, to dance when I had been still for too long. In your love, I found my voice again. I found the strength to stand tall where I had once been bent low by shame and guilt, your love covered me. You helped me find my place in the symphony of life, and together, we created a song that was uniquely ours. A song that declared, "We are whole. We are healed. We are free."

A New Vision

When I looked into your eyes, I saw not just love, but a future—our future. A future where we faced the challenges of life side by side, hand in hand, knowing that love would guide us through. We didn’t need to have all the answers. We didn’t need to know exactly what the future held. All we needed was each other, and the love that God had placed between us.

You are the light that illuminates the path before me, the voice that called me out of hiding. With you, I am not afraid to walk through the unknown. Together, we will find joy in the journey, knowing that each step we take is a step in God’s favor. We will never suffocate again, for we are no longer bound by fear. We will laugh, love, and live in His presence, always.

The Power of Love to Set Us Free

It is love that sets us free. The love that God gives us is not bound by time, space, or circumstance. It is a love that has the power to heal, to resurrect, to make whole again. And in this love, we find the freedom to be who we truly are—not defined by our past, but by the potential of our future.

In this love, I am free. Free to love you. Free to love myself. Free to live a life that reflects the beauty of God’s grace. And in that freedom, we will find our true purpose—together, living a life that is marked by love, hope, and redemption.

The power of love

The power of your love,

You are the one I’m thinking of,

The only man on my mind,

As we become intertwined,

I imagine you whisper in my ear,

And it’s as if I become deaf and I can’t hear.

God’s love,

has the power to silence the voices and choices in my head of,

Every negative thing, my father, mother, or ex-lover every spoke,

It’s powerful enough to knock down every wall down,

That was ever built,

And strong enough to heal what was broke,

And to rescue me from the shame and guilt,

of my past.

When you lay hands on me,

You will leave your fingerprints and will be charged with the crime,

Of changing my name and stealing my time,

while causing my life to be redefined.

I imagine you will have the skills to play me like an instrument.

To rhythmically follow your notes

And heartbeat,

To arise in every area of my life that I have known defeat,

And to empower me to stand on my feet,

Where I was once crippled and lamed,

devastated, and blamed.

When I look into your eyes, I can see my dream,

Believing we will make it no matter what things seem.

You are a light to my way,

That gives me hope each day,

A voice in the wilderness that has paved a path,

So, we can live in his favor and laugh.

We will never suffocate again because we can’t come near,

No more fear,

For I need you to resuscitate me,

Your love has the power to set you free.

One in a million

You Are One in a Million

From the moment you left the loins of your father, your pursuit for me began. It didn’t start the day we found each other—it began the very moment you entered the greatest race you would ever run. With intention, focus, and perseverance, you pressed forward, navigating uncertainty and overcoming impossible odds to win. You were chosen to win because you were ordained to find me.

Imagine the journey: a single sperm, among hundreds of millions, fighting against the currents, bypassing obstacles, and racing toward one singular target—the egg prepared for you. It wasn’t random. It was purpose. It was destiny. You weren’t just running a biological race; you were running the course of a divine calling. You didn’t just stumble into my life; your pursuit of me began even then.

Just as God told Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you; before you were born, I set you apart.” God had already orchestrated our love story. Like Adam, you were created with purpose. Like Eve, I was fashioned with intentionality. And just as Adam and Eve were brought together for a greater plan, so were we.

A Love Rooted in Eternity

Our love story didn’t begin the day you were born. It didn’t even start the day our paths crossed, and we found each other. No, it was written long before time itself—etched in eternity. From the moment you were created, with the same sacred intention and fervor that sent you into the world, your words broke the hymn of my heart. They pierced through, guiding you into the innermost chamber reserved only for the bridegroom. You knew the assignment; you always understood.

When we finally found each other, it wasn’t a beginning—it was a reunion. It wasn’t new; it was familiar. The moment you recognized my love; you cherished it with the same purpose and focus you had carried from the start. In that instant, we both saw it clearly—the connection we had always shared. It was safe. It was home. It was us.

 This love isn’t accidental. It was predestined in the foreknowledge of God. It’s eternal. It’s a love born in the heart of God and woven into the fabric of time.

Born on Purpose, for a Purpose

You and I were born on purpose, for a purpose. You didn’t just happen, and neither did I. We were designed to complement each other. There is no me without you.

God sent me ahead of you—not to overshadow you, but to prepare the way. Like Joseph, I went ahead to fight battles, to intercede for our tomorrow, and to ensure that the path was clear for us to walk together. And when the time came, you didn’t settle. Out of the millions, you pressed forward, because without you, there could never be me because I came out of you.

Intentional Love

We aren’t just friends or soon-to-be lovers. We are soulmates. From the very beginning, we chose each other then. In eternity, we decided that no matter the challenges, we would always find our way back. You are intentional. You don’t just love me on the surface—you love my soul and I love yours. You see my soul, and I see yours.

The Journey of Sacrifice

I’ve endured my own cross for us and so are you. I’ve wept in my Gethsemane, cried out in silence, and carried the weight of what was yet to come. We’ve prayed for each other when we didnt know each other, interceded when it felt like we were alone, and we stood in faith, knowing that God’s plan would unfold.

You have been my David—facing your Goliaths with courage, pressing through the challenges, and trusting God every step of the way. And now, God has brought us together for this season, for this purpose.

A Love Worth Fighting For

You are one in a million. No one else would ever do. From the very beginning, God ordained us and set us apart from our mother’s wombs. He divinely connected the dots long before we could see the bigger picture.

To infinity and beyond is how long I will always love you. We didn’t settle for anything less than God’s perfect will. There is no plan B and now, here we are—ready to fulfill the purpose God has for us as one.

You are my one in a million.

 

I choose us

I Choose Us – A Reflection on Marriage, Family, and Faith

In my favorite movie The Family Man (2000), Jack Campbell (played by Nicolas Cage) is a wealthy, career-driven bachelor who gets a glimpse of what his life could have been if he had chosen love and family over ambition. This glimpse is offered by a supernatural intervention that places him in an alternate reality, married to his college sweetheart, Kate Reynolds (played by Téa Leoni). The phrase “I choose us” is a powerful and transformative declaration Kate makes in two pivotal scenes, encapsulating the movie’s central theme: love and family are worth choosing above material success or fleeting ambitions.

The Two Scenes Featuring "I Choose Us"

  1. The First Scene – The Closet Argument
    In this scene, Jack, struggling to reconcile his current high-powered lifestyle with the simpler, family-oriented life in this alternate reality, suggests that Kate should move with him to the city so he can pursue his ambitious career. She passionately pushes back, emphasizing the life they've built together and what truly matters. Kate says, “Maybe I was wrong. Maybe we can’t have it all. But I choose us. I choose the life we have here, our family, and our love.”

    • Epiphany for Jack: This moment forces Jack to confront the sacrifices required for love and family. It challenges his perception of success, revealing that true fulfillment comes not from material wealth but from relationships and shared purpose.

  2. The Second Scene – The Airport Farewell
    At the end of the movie, in a moment of clarity and deep emotional connection, Jack pleads with Kate not to leave. He tells her that he now understands what he was missing all along. Kate responds with the same heartfelt conviction, “I choose us.” This marks the culmination of their journey, where both characters realize that love and commitment require prioritizing each other over personal ambitions.

    • Epiphany for Both: Here, they recognize that true happiness isn’t about “having it all” in the way society defines it. Instead, it’s about building a life together where sacrifices are made for the greater good of the family.

Biblical Standards in Marriage

The movie’s themes align with biblical principles of marriage, emphasizing selflessness, commitment, and sacrificial love. Scriptures like Ephesians 5:25-33 call for husbands to love their wives as Christ loves the church, laying down their lives for them. Similarly, wives are called to respect and honor their husbands, creating a partnership rooted in mutual submission and love.

The traditional marriage vows—“to have and to hold, for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”—echo these principles. They remind us that marriage is a covenant, not just a contract, where both partners commit to prioritizing their union above all else.

Today's Culture: Career vs. Family

In our modern, fast-paced world, the tension between career ambitions and family life has become more pronounced. Social media glorifies individual achievements, material wealth, and personal freedom, often at the expense of relationships. Many young adults prioritize careers over marriage, citing financial instability, fear of commitment, or the belief that marriage will hinder personal growth. Additionally, dating apps and hookup culture have commodified relationships, making it harder for people to form deep, lasting connections.

How Men and Women Are Compromising

  1. Men: Many men are consumed by the pressure to succeed professionally, believing they must achieve financial security before pursuing marriage or children. This often leads to delayed commitments or the neglect of family responsibilities for career advancement.

  2. Women: Women face societal pressures to “have it all,” balancing career aspirations with family expectations. In many cases, the desire for independence or fear of losing autonomy leads to delayed or avoided commitments to marriage and family.

Choosing “Us” in Today’s World

To counter these trends, we must return to biblical principles that value relationships, selflessness, and commitment:

  1. Prioritize Covenant Over Culture
    Marriage is a sacred covenant. Couples should focus on building a strong foundation rooted in faith, not societal expectations. As the Bible says in Matthew 19:6, “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.”

  2. Redefine Success
    True success is not measured by wealth or career achievements but by the legacy of love, faith, and family we leave behind. As Kate says in The Family Man, “We may not have it all, but we have enough.”

  3. Value Sacrifice
    Both partners must be willing to lay down their personal ambitions for the greater good of the family, reflecting Christ’s sacrificial love. This doesn’t mean abandoning dreams, but integrating them into a shared vision for the family’s future.

  4. Reclaim Dating for Marriage
    Dating should be a means of discerning lifelong partnership, not a casual or temporary arrangement. By setting clear intentions and maintaining biblical values, couples can build stronger, more meaningful relationships.

  5. Teach the Next Generation
    Parents, mentors, and churches must instill the value of marriage and family in the next generation, encouraging them to see these as blessings rather than burdens.

A Call to Action

The Family Man reminds us that we don’t have to sacrifice love or family to achieve our dreams. Instead, we can build a life that honors both, rooted in God’s design for marriage. In a culture that often prioritizes individualism and fleeting success, we must choose “us” daily—just as Christ chose us by laying down His life.

Whether you’re married, dating, or preparing for the future, let this be a reminder to prioritize relationships, live with intentionality, and trust God’s plan for your life. After all, the greatest legacy you can leave is one of love, faith, and family. You will have both and never have to choose between one or the other. I choose “us.”