Loving Like Jesus: How to Lead When She’s Doubting
When Jesus heard Thomas express doubt, He didn’t rebuke him.
He didn’t shame him.
He didn’t withdraw His love.
He didn’t say, “After everything I’ve done for you?”
Instead… He came back — just for him.
Thomas missed the first resurrection appearance. And when the other disciples told him Jesus was alive, he couldn’t receive it. His heart was too broken. His faith too fragile. His words were raw:
“Unless I see the nail marks in His hands… I will not believe.” (John 20:25)
Eight days later, Jesus returns — and walks straight toward Thomas.
“Put your finger here. See My hands. Reach out your hand and put it into My side. Stop doubting and believe.” (John 20:27)
Jesus didn’t dismiss Thomas’s pain — He honored it with presence.
He didn’t retaliate for the doubt — He responded with compassion.
He didn’t ask Thomas to earn trust — He extended it, again.
Now let’s talk relationships.
Every man who desires to love his wife like Christ loves the Church must learn to lead through her moments of uncertainty — just like Jesus did.
Sometimes she’s not doubting you — she’s doubting if love like this can be real. She’s doubting if she’s safe. If she’s covered. If she can trust again. Especially if she’s lived through betrayal, abuse, rejection, or silence before.
When you see doubt in her — don’t take it personal. Take it as an invitation to show up.
Because love doesn’t just preach — it proves.
It doesn’t just quote Scripture — it lives it.
Jesus Was Still Wounded — But He Was Healed
Jesus didn’t hide His scars. He said “See them. Touch them.”
So brothers — you don’t have to pretend to be perfect. But can you be healed enough to offer your scars without shame? Healed enough to say, “I’ve been through something too — but I’m here to cover you.”
When your wife or partner is doubting, can you:
Offer presence instead of punishment?
Speak peace instead of proving a point?
Remind her of what’s true — not what’s broken?
Paul wrote, “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself up for her…” (Ephesians 5:25)
That means sacrifice. That means leadership rooted in humility. That means loving her in weakness — not waiting for her to be strong.
Gentle Doesn’t Mean Weak — It Means Christlike
You don't have to raise your voice to prove you're a man.
You don’t have to withdraw to teach her a lesson.
You don’t have to retaliate to feel respected.
Love her anyway. Cover her anyway. Pursue her anyway.
Because Jesus met Thomas in his doubt — and called him blessed.