We live in a world today where technology has advanced to the point that people can design and order a robot companion. Artificial intelligence has created machines that can cook, clean, and mimic human behavior to the point of feeling almost real. Some of these robots are even designed for sexual use, simulating intimacy in a way that many believe can replace human connection. But no matter how advanced technology becomes, a robot cannot replace the divine design of marriage. A wife is not something you can assemble like a robot from a box or order online; she is a gift from God.
When God created Adam, He did not give him multiple women to choose from. He gave him one woman, Eve, divinely fashioned for his life and his assignment in the earth. The next level of favor in a man’s life is connected to the wife he chooses. Scripture says, “He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord” (Proverbs 18:22). That favor is not attached to just anyone—it is connected to the one God has ordained.
Today, men may feel like they have endless options, but the Garden of Eden shows us God’s original intent. It was not about variety or preference; it was about destiny. Eve was designed for Adam, and Adam had to recognize her, receive her, and call her what God created her to be. God created and built Eve with a womb—not only a natural womb for children but also a spiritual capacity to carry, nurture, and multiply what was entrusted to Adam. In the same way, the one God has chosen for a man’s assignment will be built and divinely aligned for that assignment.
I recently heard a podcast where the guest made a profound statement: “When you choose someone that is not your person, you automatically create a void of inadequacy and tramua in that person.” This is powerful. When a man chooses outside of God’s will, he not only hinders his own destiny, but he also wounds the woman who was never called to carry that assignment. Misaligned choices create cycles of brokenness, disappointment, and striving, because the relationship was never rooted in divine purpose.
This brings us to the question of calling and predestination. Scripture says, “Many are called, but few are chosen” (Matthew 22:14). To me, this means many are called to assignments, but only those who prepare themselves through separation, obedience, and maturity are chosen to walk in them. In every house, there are vessels of honor and vessels of dishonor. Judas, called the son of perdition, had a role to play even though his purpose was to betray. Yet, Jesus still loved him. Peter, on the other hand, was prayed for, restored, and became a vessel of honor. The difference wasn’t that one was loved and the other wasn’t—it was that one surrendered to transformation and the other did not.
The same applies in relationships. A man cannot simply order a wife to his liking, assembling qualities as if from a catalog. Nor can he replace her with a robot that simulates intimacy. Artificial connections may offer safety, but they can never produce covenant.
Adam named Eve—not God—because Adam recognized she would become “the mother of all living.” Men today must ask themselves: are you able to recognize the woman God has presented to you? Can you call her what heaven has destined her to be in your life?
This is a call back to God’s design. Men are called to love not with inordinate affection or shallow desire, but with the love of Christ—the love that sacrifices, nurtures, and protects. Women are not toys, nor replacements for loneliness. They are God’s creation, divinely aligned with a man’s purpose.
The question is not whether God has called you—He has. The question is: have you prepared yourself to be chosen?