I recently came across a post that sounded emotionally intelligent and deeply reflective. It said men today are choosing singleness not out of immaturity or fear, but out of self-awareness and healing. It claimed that healed men aren’t avoiding love — they’re avoiding losing themselves again. That they’re not scared of commitment but unwilling to sign up for “forever” without peace, respect, and shared purpose. His conclusion? When a man delays marriage, it’s not fear; it’s focus.
At face value, that sounds balanced, wise, and emotionally healthy. But when you look deeper, it’s not rooted in biblical theology — it’s cultural psychology dressed in spiritual language.
Here’s the problem: this framework makes man the source of his own completeness. Yet in Genesis, it wasn’t Adam who decided he needed companionship — it was God. “It is not good for man to be alone.” Adam didn’t ask God for Eve. He didn’t say, “Lord, I feel lonely.” He was fully occupied naming the animals, walking with God in the cool of the day, and living healed and whole. Still, God looked at that wholeness and said, “Not good.”
Then God did something profound. He put Adam into a deep sleep — a divine coma — and performed the first surgery in human history. He opened Adam’s side, removed a rib, and formed Eve. God took her out of him. That means before Eve ever stood beside Adam, she already existed within him.
Why does Scripture mention that God “closed up his flesh”? Because closure matters. God sealed Adam’s wound so he couldn’t go searching for what was already finished. God wanted Adam to know she came from Him — not from Adam’s imagination, not from his loneliness, and not from his personal preference. And when Adam woke up, he didn’t need confirmation from a prophet or a post. Revelation recognized revelation. He said, “This is now bone of my bone and flesh of my flesh.”
He didn’t question her source because he knew it. God presented her to him — the same way He still presents divine unions today.
I know this intimately. God sent me. I presented myself. I was patient. I carried the kind of love described in 1 Corinthians 13 — patient, kind, not envious, not boastful or proud. I didn’t dishonor. I wasn’t self-seeking. I kept no record of wrongs. I protected, trusted, hoped, and persevered. I believed love would never fail.
You promised to make room and choose me this year. I waited through every season, believing in divine timing, thinking our separate journeys were preparing us to finally walk together. But one day, without warning, you got engaged.
As I slowly began to accept the truth, one morning I woke as usual, it felt ordinary, but heaven had an appointment with me. As I prayed, I kept hearing, “Thy Kingdom come, Thy will be done, on earth as it is in heaven.”
And then — God met me like He met Moses. As I wept, He began to remind me how He took Moses back to the beginning and revealed Genesis by revealing his hind parts. He hid me in the cleft of the rock and let His goodness pass before me. In that moment, He settled the issue in my heart and what was already settled in heaven. What I always knew from the beginning of our journey. I didn’t need another comment, another picture, another song, or another letter. God Himself became the closure. He was the one that presented me and prepared me.
He dried my tears, erased my fears, filled every void, quieted my spirit and sealed my heart with His eternal love — the love we shared before time began.
I understand: nothing can separate me from the love of God. The mystery of you was always Him in you. I wasn’t just waiting to be somebody’s “you.” I was already chosen and eternally loved.
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