🎶 My Greatest Hits: A Prayer Strategy for Marriage Preparation

In music, some of the most iconic artists release a Greatest Hits album—songs that define their journey, the ones that still resonate years later. In relationships, we can think of our experiences the same way. Every heartbreak, disappointment, and lesson learned becomes part of our own greatest hits collection. Some songs remind us of pain, but others remind us of the growth that pain produced.

I’ve learned that the blows of past relationships didn’t come to make me bitter—they came to make me better. Adversity is God’s training ground, and every “hit” I’ve taken has become a stepping stone toward the covenant marriage I’m praying for. Today, I look back and realize: I don’t just have scars, I have strategy.

Here are 🎶 My Greatest Hits: A Prayer Strategy for Marriage Preparation.

Hit #1: Submission to Godly Counsel

Scripture: “Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers they succeed.” (Proverbs 15:22)

Lesson learned: A spouse who resists godly counsel will struggle to lead in covenant.

Prayer: Lord, align my spouse’s heart with humility. Surround him with wise voices, and let him be quick to obey You when You reveal me to him.

🎶 Song Pair: “For You I Will” – Monica

Hit #2: Purity of Heart & Clarity of Vision

Scripture: “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” (Matthew 5:8)

Lesson learned: A pure heart sees clearly. Clouded hearts lead to confusion and rejection in love.

Prayer: Father, purify my spouse’s heart. Remove distractions, deception, and wounds that blur his vision. Let him see me through Your eyes.

🎶 Song Pair: “You mean that much to me” – Chrisette Michele

Hit #3: God’s Love First, Spouse’s Love Next

Scripture: “We love Him because He first loved us.” (1 John 4:19)

Lesson learned: No one can love well until they’ve been filled with God’s love and they love themselves first.

Prayer: Lord, reveal to my spouse the depth of Your love. May his love for me overflow from his revelation of how much you love him.

🎶 Song Pair: “A Couple of Forevers” – Chrisette Michele

Hit #4: Validation from God, Not People

Scripture: “For am I now seeking the approval of man, or of God?” (Galatians 1:10)

Lesson learned: A secure spouse isn’t shaken by applause—or the lack of it.

Prayer: Father, let my spouse rest in Your approval. Keep him steady even when human affirmation feels scarce.

🎶 Song Pair: “Give Myself” – Jennifer Hudson

Hit #5: Freedom from Soul Ties & Boundaries in Place

Scripture: “So if the Son sets you free, you will be free indeed.” (John 8:36)

Lesson learned: Ungodly soul ties suffocate intimacy. Healthy boundaries guard it.

Prayer: Lord, deliver my spouse from every unhealthy tie. Protect our relationship from distractions and ungodly counsel that would influence him to divide us. Help me to not personalize his struggles but to pray and fast for him to overcome them until he is free to be the man you called him to be.

🎶 Song Pair: “Stickwitu” – Pussycat Dolls

Hit #6: God-Conscious & Word-Rooted

Scripture: “But be doers of the word, and not hearers only.” (James 1:22)

Lesson learned: Knowing Scripture isn’t enough—it has to be applied to be transformative.

Prayer: Father, let my spouse be rooted in Your Word. May he not just hear it, but do it, aligning his convictions with mine.

🎶 Song Pair: “Primetime” – Janelle Monáe (feat. Miguel)

Hit #7: Unity of Vision & Purpose

Scripture: “Can two walk together, except they be agreed?” (Amos 3:3)

Lesson learned: We have to continue to grow together. Challenge each other even when the truth is hard and cuts and believe that differences aren’t deficits and unity isn’t uniformity. It’s harmony.

Prayer: Lord, align our callings. Merge our visions. May we walk together in agreement and divine alignment.

🎶 Song Pair: “What I Needed”-Chandler Moore and “Made for me”-Muni Long

Hit #8: Identity & Recognition Without Striving

Scripture: “Then the man said, ‘This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.’” (Genesis 2:23)

Lesson learned: The right spouse recognizes you with Gods revelation knowledge.

Prayer: Father, let my spouse recognize me as Adam recognized Eve. May I never shrink to fit insecurity, but flourish in who You’ve called me to be.

🎶 Song Pair: “For You” – Kenny Lattimore

Hit #9: The Weight of Obedience

Scripture: “See then that you walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, redeeming the time, because the days are evil.” (Ephesians 5:15–16)

Lesson learned: Every decision in marriage carries weight—obedience isn’t just personal, it’s generational.

Prayer: Lord, let my spouse walk worthy of his calling. May he understand the gravity of obedience, knowing each choice impacts our covenant now and in the future.

🎶 Song Pair: “Yes, No Questions” – Coco

Hit #10: A Vessel of Honor

Scripture: “Therefore, if anyone cleanses himself from what is dishonorable, he will be a vessel for honorable use, set apart as holy, useful to the master of the house, ready for every good work.” (2 Timothy 2:21)

Lesson learned: A man who prepares himself for God’s use will willing allow God to separate himself to protect us and his future from outside threats to prepared to lead in marriage.

Prayer: Father, shape my spouse into a vessel of honor. Set him apart for Your use, equipping him to carry our assignment faithfully.

🎶 Song Pair: “I Do” – Muni Long & ToosI

Hit #11: Valuing the Work of God Over Worldly Status

Scripture: “Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.” (Proverbs 31:30)

Lesson learned: True worth isn’t in money, titles, or degrees—it’s in God’s work within us.

Prayer: Lord, may my spouse treasure the work You’ve done in me above worldly measures of success. Let him see the value of virtue over possessions.

🎶 Song Pair: “You Are” – Ash B

Hit #12: Covenant Love That Endures

Scripture: “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate.” (Mark 10:9)

Lesson learned: Love in marriage must endure seasons, not just moments.

Prayer: Father, give us a love that is steadfast, resilient, and unshakeable. May our bond reflect Your covenant faithfulness.

🎶 Song Pair: “Never Gonna Let You Go” – Faith, “Still” – Tamia, “Stay Together” – Ledisi & Jaheim

Hit #13: Present & Intentional Love

Scripture: “Where you go I will go, and where you stay I will stay.” (Ruth 1:16)

Lesson learned: Love is about showing up, being present, and choosing each other daily.

Prayer: Lord, let my spouse be intentional in love, present in companionship, and steady in devotion. May our love reflect the loyalty of Ruth and Boaz.

🎶 Song Pair: “Where You Are” – Leela James, “Here for You” – Junetober

Hit #14: A Safe Place Called Home

Scripture: “My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.” (Isaiah 32:18)

Lesson learned: Marriage should feel like home—a safe refuge filled with peace.

Prayer: Father, Let our marriage be a home where love dwells, where rest is found, and where Your presence makes us whole.

🎶 Song Pair: “Home” – Syleena Johnson, “Better with You in It” – MAJOR.

Hit #15: A Love That Mirrors God’s Crazy Grace

Scripture: “Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers a multitude of sins.” (1 Peter 4:8)

Lesson learned: True love forgives, covers, and holds on even in imperfection.

Prayer: Lord, may our love carry the passion, forgiveness, and grace that mirrors Yours. Keep us rooted in a love that never gives up.

🎶 Song Pair: “Crazy Love” – Brian McKnight, “The One He Kept for Me” – Maurette Brown Clark, “First Time” – TEEKS, “I Love You Too” – Ledisi

Every heartbreak once felt like a broken record on repeat, but God has turned them into a playlist of hope and strategy. These prayers are my greatest hits—born from lessons, matured through loss, and sharpened in waiting.