Closure: The Reward of Understanding
So many today are tormented and on edge because they’ve never received closure. I’ve seen it tear people apart—marriages, friendships, ministries. Some have spiraled into depression, witchcraft, manipulation, and even cyberattacks—trying to control or destroy what they couldn’t understand. Others have tried to ruin reputations and relationships because they couldn’t make peace with the end of a chapter. But closure isn’t always something man can give. Sometimes, only God can close a thing the right way.
God gave us a picture of closure in the Garden. When He removed Eve from Adam, Scripture says, “And the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a woman…and he closed up the flesh instead thereof” (Genesis 2:21). God didn’t leave Adam open. He closed him up. That’s what real closure looks like—when God Himself heals the wound and seals what was opened.
One of the greatest causes of heartbreak is misunderstanding. Proverbs 3:19 says, “The Lord by wisdom founded the earth; by understanding He established the heavens.” Understanding establishes things. When I was walking through the brokenness of my previous marriage, I asked God for that—understanding. I didn’t just need to be right; I needed to be healed.
In that season, God gave me two weapons: mercy and truth. Proverbs 3:3–4 says, “Let not mercy and truth forsake thee: bind them about thy neck; write them upon the table of thine heart: so shalt thou find favor and good understanding in the sight of God and man.”
Mercy became my plow—it softened the hard places in my heart. Truth became my ornament—it kept me anchored in what was real, even when emotions tried to deceive me. Proverbs 16:6 says, “By mercy and truth iniquity is purged: and by the fear of the Lord men depart from evil.” These two weapons became the keys to my deliverance.
But the more I prayed, the worse things got. I didn’t realize then that I had been promoted into generational warfare. Like in every video game, each new level comes with stronger opposition. New levels truly bring new devils. The Lord began to show me that I wasn’t just fighting for my marriage—I was fighting for my bloodline.
The enemy always challenges what God ordains because he wants to continue the pattern of brokenness. Scripture says the iniquity of the fathers visits to the third and fourth generation. When God raises up a deliverer to break the cycle, hell studies your weaknesses. Your weakness is an indicator of your Goliath—but it’s also proof of your assignment. The enemy wants to label you a failure, but God wants to make you a living example of what He can do through one surrendered life.
So if you feel abandoned, overlooked, rejected, or used—if you’ve given your all to someone or something and you’re standing at the edge ready to give up—this word is for you. I know that edge. I’ve stood there before, ready to quit. But I also know the voice of God that pulled me back and reminded me that I am never without help, never without purpose, and never without weapons.
Today, God wants to give you closure, favor, and good understanding. But you must first pick up your weapons—mercy and truth. They don’t just protect your heart; they rebuild your life. When man can’t or doesn’t believe you deserve closure, God will. Just as He closed up Adam’s flesh, He will close your wounds. He will seal what was once bleeding and give you peace that passes all understanding.
When God initiates a season, a relationship, a lesson, or a transformation, He will give the clarity, conclusion, and closure necessary to move forward.
Confusion comes from people.
Closure comes from God.