Dying to Live again

Dying to Live Again: The True Call of Love and Marriage

I’ve come to understand that to truly become one in marriage, we must first learn to die to ourselves. The Word reminds us that though our outward man is perishing every day, inwardly we are being renewed day by day. God always builds from the inside out. Before He brings increase, He brings transformation—and transformation often begins with surrender.

So many people are getting it wrong when it comes to love and dating. God is love. He placed the desire for love within the heart of man, but too often we chase after what was meant to be received through Him. We pour ourselves out trying to make something work, and when it all falls apart, we come to God broken—like children holding the pieces of a shattered toy, hoping our Father can fix what’s been destroyed. But what if we went to Him first? What if, instead of chasing love, we allowed Love Himself to prepare us for it?

As someone who has never dated in the traditional sense, I’ve learned that love isn’t about grand gestures or picture-perfect moments. I have never been wined, dined, or swept off my feet with flowers and candlelight dinners. I don’t have romantic anniversary pictures or memories of extravagant vacations. Even in my first marriage, we didn’t celebrate our first anniversary. I never had Valentine’s Day surprises or those sweet teenage nights whispering, “You hang up first.”

Yet despite all that, I’ve carried within me a vision of love that lasts forever—a love that endures all things, believes all things, and conquers all things. A love rooted not in the world’s idea of romance but in God’s unshakable truth.

Ever since I accepted Christ, I’ve been dying to live again. Jesus said, “Whoever finds their life will lose it, but whoever loses their life for My sake will find it.” Those words have become the melody of my soul. I’ve poured myself out as an offering, believing that God will fill me with the life He always intended.

There’s a song by William McDowell called “Empty Me.” It speaks of the desire to be emptied so God can pour in something greater. That’s exactly what this journey has been for me. I’ve had to let go of my own ideas, my own timing, my own dreams of what love should look like. And in exchange, God has been pouring in His kind of love—pure, refining, and lasting. When we do whatever Jesus commands, He fills our lives with new wine—the kind that makes every sacrifice worth it.

Many couples enter relationships intoxicated by romance and feelings, but real love is built on sacrifice. The foundation of any lasting relationship is laid when two people are willing to die to themselves. It’s in the late-night conversations about faith, purpose, and destiny. It’s in the courage to face hard truths, to forgive quickly, and to love deeply.

Love and marriage are not about self-preservation—they’re about self-surrender. To walk in unity, you must let go of the need to always be right, to control, or to win. You must learn to yield to one another, to God, and to the purpose He has for your union. Without dying to self, there can be no true unity.

The breaking, the stretching, and the surrender are not wasted. They are the very tools God uses to prepare us for something greater. When two hearts willingly die to themselves for the sake of love, they are resurrected into a union that reflects heaven on earth.

In Christ, in love, and in marriage—death always precedes life. To truly live again, we must first die.

Hidden in Plain sight

Hidden in Plain Sight for Purpose: Waiting to Be Revealed

In a world where visibility is often mistaken for value, it’s easy to wonder why your gifts seem unnoticed, your prayers unanswered, or your purpose delayed. But what if you’re not overlooked—just hidden in plain sight? What if your current obscurity is not punishment but preparation?

God hides what is holy—even in plain view.

He conceals what carries weight—until it’s strong enough to carry it.

He shields what is necessary—until the moment it must be revealed.

Think about Katherine Johnson from Hidden Figures—a brilliant Black mathematician who quietly solved equations that carried men into orbit and brought them home alive. Her mind was unmatched, her work essential, yet she was tucked away behind the curtain of history while others took the spotlight. Hidden? Yes. Forgotten? Never. She was hidden in plain sight—until history needed what only she could offer.

The same is true of you.

You may be overlooked by people, but never by purpose. You may feel tucked behind the scenes, but heaven is watching every move. Just like the intricate math that ensured reentry from space, your life is being aligned with supernatural precision. Every detail—your timing, your training, your tears—is being calculated by the One who knows the end from the beginning.

You are not invisible. You are intentionally undisclosed.

Scripture gives us this same divine pattern. In 2 Kings 11, Joash—the rightful king—was hidden in the temple for six years. He wasn’t lost; he was preserved. While chaos reigned under Athaliah, God tucked away the true heir, raising him in secret until the time of coronation. He, too, was hidden in plain sight—for a purpose.

This same principle applies to divine relationships. When God ordains a union for kingdom impact—whether in marriage, ministry, or mission—He often hides both parties from premature exposure. Why? Because what they carry together is too weighty to be mishandled by immature timing or spiritual sabotage. What seems like a delay is divine calculation.

Divine relationships aren’t built on impulse—they are authored by instruction.

They don’t emerge from convenience—they rise from covenant.

Just as John Glenn refused to launch without Katherine’s confirmation, God is waiting for everything to align before revealing what’s been hidden. One wrong move, and the mission fails. Enter too soon, and the relationship burns in reentry. So God hides. And watches. And waits.

So if you feel unseen—like Katherine working in shadows or Joash sheltered in silence—take heart. You are not buried; you are planted. You are not forgotten; you are being formed. You are not denied; you are being destined.

You are hidden in plain sight for a purpose.

You are necessary to the assignment.

You are waiting to be revealed—right on time.

Every unanswered prayer, every delay, every detour is part of the divine equation. And when the moment comes, the world will see what heaven already knows:

You were created on purpose, for purpose, and hidden in plain sight to be revealed in glory.

Wait with confidence. Grow in grace. Trust the God who sees when no one else does.

Because the One who hides you… is the same One who will unveil you.

Protecting Hearts and Building Legacy

The Battle Against Provocation

Have you ever felt provoked—not just by people, but by Satan himself? The enemy studies us. He knows our triggers, our wounds, and our weaknesses. His goal is to provoke us into actions that could derail our purpose. But Scripture reminds us, “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?” (Jeremiah 17:9). What’s hidden in the heart will surface when pressure comes.

I remember walking through a dark season when I was tempted to respond to pain with bitterness. My heart was heavy with anger, and I wanted justice my way. But in His mercy, God sent a prophet who told me I was standing at a crossroads—to surrender my heart fully to God or allow the enemy to use my pain for destruction. That moment broke me. God exposed what was hiding in my heart before it could sabotage my purpose.

David faced a similar test. In 1 Chronicles 21, Satan provoked him to number the people—an act rooted in pride and self-reliance. What seemed harmless revealed the posture of his heart. David’s focus shifted from trusting God to counting his own strength. And that one decision cost seventy thousand lives. Leadership always reveals the heart.

Pride and provocation are silent assassins. They whisper, “You deserve more. You’ve done enough. You can handle this.” But God calls us to humility, to dependence, to surrender. David’s story reminds us that leadership—whether in the home, in business, or in ministry—requires a heart that bows before God, not one that seeks validation from people.

Today, many are falling into the same trap. We measure our worth by followers, applause, and recognition. We want to be seen more than we want to be sanctified. But the applause of man can never replace the approval of God. Every platform, every position, every influence is a stewardship. We must ask ourselves daily: Am I building for God’s glory, or my own?

Leadership carries generational weight. Our decisions don’t just affect us—they shape destinies. David repented, but the consequence still touched his people. That truth humbles me as a mother, a leader, and a daughter of legacy. My great-grandfather, the Honorable Elijah Muhammad, was one of the most influential voices of his time. His gift of leadership built a movement that impacted millions. Yet pride can distort purpose when man begins to take credit for what only God can do. His life reminds me that influence without humility is dangerous, and purpose without surrender can lead to deception.

Satan’s agenda has never changed—to provoke, to divide, and to destroy. But God’s call remains the same—to resist, to submit, and to guard our hearts. The Word says, “Keep thy heart with all diligence, for out of it flow the issues of life.” (Proverbs 4:23) The heart is the battlefield where legacy is won or lost.

As leaders, parents, and believers, we are called to protect not just our own hearts but the hearts of those we influence. To walk in humility, to repent quickly, and to trust God’s wisdom above our own understanding. Greatness is not measured by how many follow us, but by how faithfully we follow Him.

God is raising men and women who will lead with clean hands and pure hearts—those who cannot be provoked out of purpose. Let us be those vessels. Let us decrease so that He may increase, shining His light through us as living epistles read by all men.

Because in the end, the battle against provocation is not won by reaction—but by surrender.

Restoring Hope to Families: A Nehemiah Vision for Rebuilding Generations

In the story of Nehemiah, one man’s burden became a blueprint for transformation. When he heard that the walls of Jerusalem were in ruins, he didn’t just mourn what was broken—he moved with compassion to rebuild. His tears turned into strategy. His prayers became plans. And what had been in shambles for generations was restored through obedience, unity, and faith.

That same spirit is rising again. God is stirring a Nehemiah Generation—a people who see the brokenness in our children, our families, and our communities and refuse to stand by while the walls remain in ruins. This is my burden, my call, and my guard: to weep, to war, and to work until families are restored and the next generation is healed.

We are witnessing an epidemic of broken identity, fragmented families, and wounded children trying to find stability in unstable systems. Yet, just as God used Nehemiah to rebuild what others had abandoned, He is raising modern rebuilders to restore the walls of home, hope, and heart.

Rebuilding the Walls: Restoring Hope and Identity

The first wall that must be rebuilt is stability. Many homes have become battlegrounds instead of sanctuaries. Children are searching for consistency, and parents are running on empty. God is calling us to rebuild safe spaces—places where faith, love, and discipline coexist; where peace becomes the culture again.

The second wall is hope. Generational trauma has convinced too many families that survival is all they can achieve. But God never designed families to simply survive—He called them to thrive. Through mentorship, education, counseling, and spiritual renewal, we can help families rediscover their purpose and break free from the cycles of pain that have defined them.

The third wall is identity. When families don’t know who they are, children grow up searching for belonging everywhere but home. Restoration begins when mothers, fathers, and guardians understand their divine assignment—to build altars, not just houses; to raise sons and daughters who know who they are in God.

Investing in Generations: Healing Homes, Transforming Futures

Psalm 127:3 declares, “Children are a heritage from the Lord.” But children can’t flourish apart from family. Strong families are the foundation of strong nations. When we invest in the spiritual and emotional health of families, we strengthen the entire structure of society.

Isaiah 58:12 speaks of those who “shall raise up the foundations of many generations.” That is the call of this moment—to become repairers of the breach and restorers of paths to dwell in. Every restored home becomes a wall rebuilt. Every healed parent becomes a gatekeeper protecting legacy. Every whole child becomes a seed of revival.

The Nehemiah Generation: Builders of Hope

Like Nehemiah, we may face opposition. But we build with prayer in one hand and purpose in the other. We build knowing God’s favor is on this mission.

When we rebuild families, we are not just fixing homes—we are reshaping the future. We are creating legacies of healing, stability, and faith that will echo for generations.

This is the vision: to raise a Nehemiah Generation of parents, children, and leaders who will restore what was lost, rebuild what was broken, and repair what sin and systems have torn down. Together, we will see beauty rise from ashes and the foundations of many generations made strong again.

Happy Mother's Day: Push again

Push Again

Motherhood is a journey of stretching, breaking, and becoming. From the moment we conceive, our bodies, minds, and hearts begin to shift. We adjust our routines, our sleep, and even our sense of self. As that baby grows inside of us, we expand—sometimes painfully—beyond what we ever imagined. And then, when it’s time to bring life into the world, we are asked to do the impossible: to push.

We push when we are exhausted. We push when we feel we have nothing left. We push through the pain, the fear, and the uncertainty, until that long-awaited child is placed in our arms. And in that moment, the struggle fades in the joy of the promise fulfilled.

But what no one prepares us for is that pushing doesn’t end in the delivery room.

That same child, once fragile and dependent, will grow and stretch us again in ways we never anticipated. The sleepless nights return—but now for different reasons. The tears we once wiped from their tiny faces turn into prayers we cry in secret. We will feel empty, drained, and ready to give up.

Then, just like in labor, when we think we cannot do it anymore, the Spirit of God whispers: Push again.

Push past the heartbreak.
Push past the disappointment.
Push past the pain of watching them struggle.
Push past the fear that you’ve failed them.

Motherhood is a cross we carry, but it is also a joy set before us. Just as Jesus endured the cross for the joy ahead, so do we. There is purpose in our pain, and though we may feel like the sacrifice, God has not forgotten us.

So to every mother who has labored—who has stretched, broken, and bled for her children—know this: God is still perfecting the things that concern you. Your labor is not in vain. The same God who gave you strength to push before will give you the strength to push again.

Restoration is coming.
Joy is coming.
Morning is coming.

Happy Mother’s Day. Keep pushing. God is not finished with your story. There shall be glory after this.

Hope in the Wreckage

The Titanic: A Marvel of Its Age

In the early 20th century, the Titanic was the epitome of modern achievement—a grand, unsinkable ship symbolizing wealth, progress, and human ingenuity. Its size, luxury, and technological advancements were unparalleled, offering passengers an unprecedented experience. It carried the promise of safety, comfort, and speed, drawing people from all walks of life, united by the allure of new possibilities.

Like the Titanic, a relationship that begins with promise and excitement can feel invincible, full of potential and beauty. The ship’s grand dining halls, lavish cabins, and state-of-the-art engineering can be likened to the euphoric early stages of love—a time when everything seems perfect, unbreakable, and full of hope.

The Dangers of Rushing Ahead

Despite its grandeur, the Titanic’s tragic end was a stark reminder of the dangers of overconfidence and neglect. It was built with the latest innovations, but its creators were so certain of its invincibility that they failed to prepare adequately for unforeseen dangers. Lifeboats were insufficient, and warnings of icebergs were ignored as the ship steamed full speed ahead into dangerous waters.

In relationships, a similar fate can occur when couples rush ahead without taking the time to build a solid foundation. The excitement of new love can overshadow the need for clear communication, emotional depth, and mutual understanding. Just as the Titanic’s builders neglected to account for the potential risks, people often overlook warning signs, assuming that love alone is enough to sustain a relationship. But love, like a ship, needs more than beauty and promise—it needs preparation, humility, and a willingness to navigate challenges.

Chance, Time, and Opportunity

The Titanic’s story also illustrates how chance and timing can shape our destinies. For those who boarded, it was an opportunity to pursue dreams, reunite with loved ones, or start anew. The ship represented a chance for freedom, adventure, and upward mobility.

Similarly, relationships are often born out of chance encounters and moments of connection. The excitement of meeting someone new and embarking on a shared journey can feel like boarding a magnificent ship destined for greatness. Yet, just as the Titanic’s passengers couldn’t foresee the iceberg ahead, couples can’t predict every challenge they will face. Time and effort are necessary to ensure the relationship is strong enough to weather storms.

The Risk of Overconfidence

The Titanic carried passengers of all classes, each with dreams and aspirations. Yet, the very thing that made it desirable—its claim of being “unsinkable”—became its downfall. The ship’s builders believed it was too advanced to fail, and this overconfidence led to a lack of preparation. When disaster struck, the ship’s inadequacies were laid bare.

In love, overconfidence can be equally dangerous. Assuming that a relationship is unbreakable without investing in its growth can lead to neglect. The illusion of security can make people complacent, failing to address underlying issues or take precautions for the future. A healthy relationship, like a well-built ship, requires attention, maintenance, and humility to navigate life’s uncertainties.

The Heart of the Ocean: A Woman’s Heart

The Titanic’s fictional love story, depicted in the movie, centers around the "Heart of the Ocean," a rare and priceless blue diamond. This gem serves as a metaphor for a woman’s heart—valuable, mysterious, and capable of holding immense beauty and depth. In the story, the diamond represents love, sacrifice, and the enduring power of memories.

A woman’s heart, like the Heart of the Ocean, must be treasured and handled with care. It holds the strength to nurture, heal, and inspire, but it can also be fragile. Just as the diamond was lost to the depths of the sea, a woman’s heart can be deeply wounded when neglected, mishandled, or taken for granted.

The Tragic End: Lessons for Relationships

The Titanic’s sinking was a result of human error, overconfidence, and a failure to heed warnings. It reminds us that even the grandest structures can fall if their foundation is flawed. In relationships, the same principle applies. When couples neglect the small, seemingly insignificant details—honest communication, shared values, breaking ungodly soul ties and mutual respect—they risk facing their own “icebergs.”

The Titanic’s passengers had limited lifeboats, and many perished because there wasn’t enough preparation for disaster. In relationships, the “lifeboats” are the tools we build to survive challenges—patience, forgiveness, trust, and a willingness to adapt. Without these, even the strongest love can falter.

Hope in the Wreckage

Though the Titanic’s story ended in tragedy, it also serves as a powerful lesson. It teaches us the importance of preparation, humility, and cherishing what truly matters. Relationships, like ships, must be carefully built, navigated with wisdom, and equipped to withstand life’s unpredictable waters.

For those who take the time to build their relationship on a strong foundation—anchored in mutual respect, love, and faith—the journey can be one of beauty and fulfillment. Unlike the Titanic, a well-prepared relationship can survive the storms, reach its destination, and become a legacy that inspires others for generations to come. Although, the titanic sank, our ship won’t sink.

Dear future husband: If love were a book

📖 If Love Were a Book: A Journey Through Its Pages

Love is often likened to many things—a journey, a flame, a dance. But what if love were a book? Not just any book, but one that invites you to read it over and over, each time uncovering new depths and meanings.

Imagine holding this book in your hands. The cover may be worn, the pages dog-eared, but it's yours—a testament to the experiences, lessons, and emotions that love has brought into your life.

Take another glance.
Turn to the next chapter called Second Chance.
Read the words like an invitation to dance.

Love, like a cherished book, beckons us to return. To re-experience its joys and sorrows, to learn from its lessons, and to grow alongside its characters. It's in these re-readings that we find clarity, understanding, and the courage to continue the story.

I’ll acknowledge you and say thank you.
You didn’t give up—read that again—because you didn’t let it end.

These words resonate deeply, reminding us of the strength it takes to persevere in love. To choose to stay, to fight for connection, and to believe in the possibility of renewal. It's a testament to the resilience of the human heart and the transformative power of forgiveness.

I’d say read it again and again,
Until you understand the content within.
Until you can quote the lines,
Until you can see without the highlights it still shines.

Repetition here isn't redundancy; it's reinforcement. By rereading, we internalize the lessons, cherish the memories, and recognize the growth that love fosters within us.

When the words are not as clear,
And you are uncomfortable and fear,
Until the words leap off the pages
And escort you to places and stages
You thought you’d never stand.

Love challenges us. It pushes us into unfamiliar territories, urging us to confront our fears and embrace vulnerability. It's in these moments that we find strength and resilience we never knew we had.

Until there is no distance between your heart and my hand.
Until you run out of periods and question marks.
Until you are no longer bleeding and out swam all the sharks.

These metaphors speak to the trials and tribulations that love can entail. Yet, through perseverance and mutual support, love can heal wounds and bridge divides.

Read between the lines until you can hear what wasn't said,
When the words are still in my head.

Communication in love isn't solely about spoken words. It's about understanding the unspoken, sensing the emotions that words fail to capture, and being attuned to each other's inner worlds.

If love is as a book,
I’d say open it and take a second look.
Remember every story is not the same,
And every author is not seeking fame.

Every love story is unique, penned by its own set of authors with distinct voices and experiences. Recognizing this individuality allows us to appreciate the diversity and depth of love's manifestations.

Love comes sometimes to reveal your name,
To heal and to restore, to bring honor and expel shame.
Love comes to rewrite history and change the game.

Love has the transformative power to redefine our narratives, to turn past pains into sources of strength, and to illuminate paths previously shrouded in darkness.

Love comes to remind you to take it off the shelf,
To uncover, discover, and recover your best self.

In the hustle of daily life, we might sideline love, letting it gather dust. But revisiting it can reignite passions, rekindle connections, and rejuvenate our spirits.

So if you ever forget why love came,
Read it again and remember my name.

This closing sentiment serves as a gentle reminder: when doubts arise or memories fade, returning to the story of love can rekindle its warmth and reaffirm its presence in our lives and why it was worth giving it another chance.

The Ultimate T.H.U.G (Totally Humbled Under God)

Jesus responded to the hate directed at Him with total humility under God. In doing so, He embodied what it means to be “Totally Humbled Under God” (T.H.U.G.). He displayed the greatest act of strength and surrender when He revealed to His disciples that He could call twelve legions of angels to rescue Him, yet He chose the cross to fulfill Scripture. Jesus understood that His journey wasn’t just personal—it was for everyone who would come after Him through His sacrifice.

For three years, Jesus ministered and taught about the kingdom of heaven, revealing its nature and preparing us to receive it. He declared that He was one with God, the King establishing His kingdom. Yet, as He hung on the cross—bleeding, beaten, and seemingly defeated—it appeared as though everything He had taught was contradicted.

This can mirror our own experiences. There are seasons in life when everything feels contrary to what God has promised. Even Peter, one of Jesus' closest disciples, tried to dissuade Him from enduring the suffering of the cross. But Jesus knew the wisdom and power hidden in His crucifixion. He understood that once He gave up the ghost, the Holy Spirit would come, empowering us to destroy the works of the flesh and live as overcomers.

The Cross: A Necessary Process

Jesus told us to take up our cross daily and deny ourselves. This is a reminder that we cannot avoid the process God has for us, no matter how painful it may be. Like Jesus, we must endure and trust that there is divine purpose in the pain.

Many of us have experienced betrayal and hate—seasons where the same people who celebrated us one day turned against us the next. Just as Jesus heard "Hosanna!" from the crowd before they cried "Crucify Him!" we too may face public disgrace and private shame. Yet, even in His suffering, Jesus looked down from the cross and said, "Father, forgive them, for they know not what they are doing."

Our own crucifixion moments—when we are mocked, judged, or misunderstood—can feel unbearable. But these moments are part of God’s greater plan. Just as Jesus’ crucifixion was necessary for His resurrection and the salvation of many, our process often serves those who come after us.

Perspective in Pain

Pastor Dharius Daniels preached a message called Look Again, emphasizing that sometimes God changes our perspective even if He doesn’t change our circumstances. This principle is seen in Joseph’s story in Genesis 50:20:
"As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant it for good, to bring it about that many people should be kept alive, as they are today."

Joseph endured years of betrayal, slavery, and imprisonment, yet God gave him a new perspective on his suffering. Similarly, Jesus tried to teach His disciples that “it is finished” would only be true after the crucifixion.

Becoming a THUG for God

To follow Jesus, we must become THUGs—Totally Humbled Under God. This means trusting God even when others misjudge us or question why we endure suffering. They may call us desperate or weak for staying faithful, but like Jesus, we are not submitting to the crowd; but to God.

Sometimes, staying in position—remaining on our “cross”—requires wisdom and calculated strength. Jesus trusted God to vindicate Him and refused to let the crowd’s noise or the pain of betrayal pull Him out of position. Many of us receive a word from God, but when betrayal or hardship comes, we are tempted to abandon our cross. Yet, God’s hidden wisdom and power are revealed in the process. There is wisdom in every wound. Don’t let your suffering be in vain.

Wisdom to Outsmart the Enemy

God desires to give us the same wisdom He hid in the cross. In the movie Columbiana, the protagonist outsmarts her enemies with precision and strategy. What captivated me about the film wasn’t the revenge but her ability to stay steps ahead of her adversaries. Similarly, God gives us the wisdom to navigate spiritual battles and defeat the enemy.

We must trust the process and remain steadfast. Like Jesus, our crucifixion moments are not the end—they are the path to resurrection and the fulfillment of God’s plan.

The Kindness in God's "No"

At some point in life, every child will accuse their parent of being cruel. The restrictions we place, the limits we set, and the discipline we enforce often feel like punishment to them. But as parents, we know something they don’t—our no is often the greatest act of kindness we can give.

Just as a loving parent must say no to protect their child, so does God. His correction can feel paradoxical, even cruel, yet it is always an act of love. "Where there is no vision, the people cast off restraint" (Proverbs 29:18). Without guidance, without boundaries, destruction is inevitable. That’s why God, in His wisdom, sometimes tells us no—not to punish us, but to protect us.

I remember a time when I had to exercise this tough love with my own son. He was 17, and unknown to me, he had been sneaking out at night, taking my truck, and drinking. I was working on my master’s degree at the time and rarely stayed up late to do my coursework. But one night, Jesus woke me up. I argued with myself about whether I needed to get up, but something in my spirit urged me to obey.

I worked for exactly 45 minutes before heading to turn off the living room light. And just as I reached for the switch, in walks my son—bloodshot eyes, tipsy, and holding my truck keys.

I wasn’t even angry. I was grateful. Grateful that he made it home safely, that he didn’t hurt himself or someone else. My first and only question was, “How long have you been doing this?” Without hesitation, he admitted, “About nine months.”

That was it. The keys were now mine, permanently. From that moment forward, neither he nor his younger brothers would ever have the chance of stealing my car keys and gaining access to my vehicle. My no was not an act of cruelty—it was an act of kindness. I never wanted to risk him driving drunk again, never wanted to test how many more times God’s mercy would cover his reckless decisions.

God’s Correction: A Paradox of Love

God’s discipline can feel like a contradiction, just as Shakespeare captured in Hamlet when the prince said, “I must be cruel to be kind.” On the surface, these words don’t make sense. How can cruelty be an act of kindness? But when you look deeper, you understand the truth: sometimes, the greatest kindness requires temporary pain.

We see this in God's dealings with us. His “no” may disappoint us in the moment, but it spares us from long-term destruction. He may withhold something we desperately want, not because He is cruel, but because He knows that having it too soon, or at all, could destroy us. He may discipline us, not to break us, but to build us into who He has called us to be.

“For the Lord disciplines the one He loves, and He chastises every son whom He receives” (Hebrews 12:6).

To the child, discipline feels unfair. To the developing believer, God’s correction may feel harsh. But from a place of wisdom, we come to understand that every restriction He places, every door He closes, and every painful lesson He allows is rooted in His unfailing love.

So, when God tells you no, when He blocks a path you were determined to take, when He removes something from your life that you desperately wanted to keep—trust Him. It may only be a season where delay is not denial, it is divine development. It’s not cruelty. It’s kindness.

“What have you done? The cost of aborting destiny”

So many have aborted portions of their destiny — not just naturally, but spiritually. Fear of the unknown, fear of failure, fear of what others will say — all of it has caused many to terminate what God was trying to birth through them. Even in the embryonic stage of relationships, ministries, and assignments, the enemy rushes in with his instruments of doubt and confusion, trying to cut away the promise before it breathes its first breath.

I know this warfare intimately. At seventeen, I endured a natural abortion — but years later I realized the deeper lesson: the enemy’s goal wasn’t just to take a child; it was to silence a voice that would one day carry healing for others. Since then, I’ve come to see that spiritual abortions happen every day. Many have been carrying dreams from God, visions conceived in faith, but somewhere between conception and manifestation, fear spoke louder than faith.

Earlier this year, I came across a prophetic word from Nate Johnston (May 5, 2025) that struck me to my core. It was a divine confirmation of the warfare many of us have faced — that sudden wave of discouragement, that pressure to give up, those voices whispering, “You must have heard wrong.”

He wrote, “Sounds textbook for what the enemy does in a birthing season.”

That line pierced me. Because it’s true — when you’re on the brink of birthing something new, the enemy intensifies the attack. He can’t kill what God has placed inside of you, but he will send distractions, fear, mockery, and fatigue to make you abort it yourself.

Nate shared how God is birthing “unusual ministries and movements” that don’t fit the traditional mold — and how many are being labeled rebellious simply because they don’t look like the old system. That resonated deeply. Because I, too, have been misunderstood for stepping out in faith, for doing what God told me to do when others said it didn’t look legitimate. But obedience often looks like rebellion to those who’ve never walked by faith.

He said something else that burned in my spirit: “God gives you the seed, not the whole blueprint.”

That’s the place many of us find ourselves in — walking with only a word, not a map. But that’s how faith grows. If God gave us the full picture, we’d run ahead of Him or invite the wrong people into the birthing room. Some things must remain hidden until it’s time to deliver.

Nate described a dream where the Lord said, “In the birthing season, you must protect what you’re carrying.”

That’s been the warning in my own spirit — to guard the womb of purpose. Not everyone can be allowed in the room when God is bringing something forth. The enemy sends “spies” disguised as concerned voices, people who may mean well but carry seeds of doubt and control. They come to talk you out of what God has called you to carry.

But this is not the time to compromise. This is not the season to dilute the assignment to make it more palatable or “church-friendly.” The Lord is saying, “Do not take the abortion pill.”

Don’t trade your authenticity for acceptance. Don’t water down your message to fit someone else’s mold. Protect the promise. Guard the vision. What God placed in you is pure, holy, and powerful — and it doesn’t have to look like anything that came before it.

You’re not rebellious; you’re pregnant with a movement. So shut the door, silence the noise, and fix your eyes on the One who authored the seed within you.

It’s time to bring it forth.

Dear future husband: The most wanted

Love has a way of eluding us, slipping through our fingers like a fugitive on the run. Many of us have chased after it, only to find it fleeting, leaving behind wounds, questions, and a past archived with heartbreak. But what happens when love, once a shadow in our imagination, becomes real—when it is no longer a fugitive, but a force that apprehends us in the most profound way?

The Investigation of the Heart

Before true love enters, we often go through a deep interrogation of the soul. Every scar, every disappointment, every fractured hope is laid bare. We reevaluate our past, question our worth, must face our fears and sometimes hesitate to believe in love again. But healing requires exposure—acknowledging the wounds so they can be closed for good.

This process is not about artificial connections or rushed emotions or force. It is about divine implantation—love that is pure, intentional, and transformative from God.

Wanted for the Crime of Love

When love arrives, it doesn’t ask for permission; it invades, trespassing into the places we thought were too broken to be touched. It lingers in corridors of our hearts that were blocked and guarded and at times we turn around and wonder how that person got there.  It steals our time, rewrites our story, and breaks the chains that once bound us to solitude.

Love is a heist of the soul, a breaking-in, a transformation that arrests our fears and replaces them with something deeper, something permanent. The one who loves you becomes the most wanted—guilty of unlocking what was long forgotten, of seeing you when others overlooked you, of whispering words that rebuild your reality.

Sentenced to a Lifetime of Love

The irony of love is that while we often run from it, it was always meant to capture us. When love finally catches up, there is no more hiding, no more running. It crowns us—not as victims, but as victors, no longer haunted by the past but healed and made whole.

To be "Most Wanted" in love is to be seen, pursued, and captured—not by fear or fleeting passion, but by a love that is intentional and eternal.

So, if you find yourself caught in the grip of love, don’t resist. Be arrested. Surrender. Be transformed. Be crowned.

Hope in the wreckage

The Titanic: A Marvel of Its Age

In the early 20th century, the Titanic was the epitome of modern achievement—a grand, unsinkable ship symbolizing wealth, progress, and human ingenuity. Its size, luxury, and technological advancements were unparalleled, offering passengers an unprecedented experience. It carried the promise of safety, comfort, and speed, drawing people from all walks of life, united by the allure of new possibilities.

Like the Titanic, a relationship that begins with promise and excitement can feel invincible, full of potential and beauty. The ship’s grand dining halls, lavish cabins, and state-of-the-art engineering can be likened to the euphoric early stages of love—a time when everything seems perfect, unbreakable, and full of hope.

The Dangers of Rushing Ahead

Despite its grandeur, the Titanic’s tragic end was a stark reminder of the dangers of overconfidence and neglect. It was built with the latest innovations, but its creators were so certain of its invincibility that they failed to prepare adequately for unforeseen dangers. Lifeboats were insufficient, and warnings of icebergs were ignored as the ship steamed full speed ahead into dangerous waters.

In relationships, a similar fate can occur when couples rush ahead without taking the time to build a solid foundation. The excitement of new love can overshadow the need for clear communication, emotional depth, and mutual understanding. Just as the Titanic’s builders neglected to account for the potential risks, people often overlook warning signs, assuming that love alone is enough to sustain a relationship. But love, like a ship, needs more than beauty and promise—it needs preparation, humility, and a willingness to navigate challenges.

Chance, Time, and Opportunity

The Titanic’s story also illustrates how chance and timing can shape our destinies. For those who boarded, it was an opportunity to pursue dreams, reunite with loved ones, or start anew. The ship represented a chance for freedom, adventure, and upward mobility.

Similarly, relationships are often born out of chance encounters and moments of connection. The excitement of meeting someone new and embarking on a shared journey can feel like boarding a magnificent ship destined for greatness. Yet, just as the Titanic’s passengers couldn’t foresee the iceberg ahead, couples can’t predict every challenge they will face. Time and effort are necessary to ensure the relationship is strong enough to weather storms.

The Risk of Overconfidence

The Titanic carried passengers of all classes, each with dreams and aspirations. Yet, the very thing that made it desirable—its claim of being “unsinkable”—became its downfall. The ship’s builders believed it was too advanced to fail, and this overconfidence led to a lack of preparation. When disaster struck, the ship’s inadequacies were laid bare.

In love, overconfidence can be equally dangerous. Assuming that a relationship is unbreakable without investing in its growth can lead to neglect. The illusion of security can make people complacent, failing to address underlying issues or take precautions for the future. A healthy relationship, like a well-built ship, requires attention, maintenance, and humility to navigate life’s uncertainties.

The Heart of the Ocean: A Woman’s Heart

The Titanic’s fictional love story, depicted in the movie, centers around the "Heart of the Ocean," a rare and priceless blue diamond. This gem serves as a metaphor for a woman’s heart—valuable, mysterious, and capable of holding immense beauty and depth. In the story, the diamond represents love, sacrifice, and the enduring power of memories.

A woman’s heart, like the Heart of the Ocean, must be treasured and handled with care. It holds the strength to nurture, heal, and inspire, but it can also be fragile. Just as the diamond was lost to the depths of the sea, a woman’s heart can be deeply wounded when neglected, mishandled, or taken for granted.

The Tragic End: Lessons for Relationships

The Titanic’s sinking was a result of human error, overconfidence, and a failure to heed warnings. It reminds us that even the grandest structures can fall if their foundation is flawed. In relationships, the same principle applies. When couples neglect the small, seemingly insignificant details—honest communication, shared values, and mutual respect—they risk facing their own “icebergs.”

The Titanic’s passengers had limited lifeboats, and many perished because there wasn’t enough preparation for disaster. In relationships, the “lifeboats” are the tools we build to survive challenges—patience, forgiveness, trust, and a willingness to adapt. Without these, even the strongest love can falter.

Hope in the Wreckage

Though the Titanic’s story ended in tragedy, it also serves as a powerful lesson. It teaches us the importance of preparation, humility, and cherishing what truly matters. Relationships, like ships, must be carefully built, navigated with wisdom, and equipped to withstand life’s unpredictable waters.

For those who take the time to build their relationship on a strong foundation—anchored in mutual respect, love, and faith—the journey can be one of beauty and fulfillment. Unlike the Titanic, a well-prepared relationship can survive the storms, reach its destination, and become a legacy that inspires others for generations to come. Although, the titanic sank, our ship won’t sink.

God Uses Desperation to Birth Greatness

Rachel and Jacob: Misplaced Anger and Frustration

Rachel, deeply loved by Jacob, was barren while her sister Leah bore many children (Genesis 30:1-2). Rachel’s pain and jealousy consumed her to the point of desperation, leading her to confront Jacob and cry out, “Give me children, or else I die!” Jacob’s anger was kindled as he responded, “Am I in God’s stead, who hath withheld from thee the fruit of the womb?”

This exchange highlights two key points:

1. Misplaced Expectations: Rachel expected Jacob to solve a problem that only God could address. In relationships, this mirrors how we sometimes place unrealistic expectations on our partners, friends, or leaders to fulfill our deepest needs. Like Jacob, they may be unable to meet those needs because only God has the power to address the root of our desires.

2. God’s Timing: Jacob recognized that Rachel’s barrenness was not something he could control. Often, what feels like a delay or denial is God’s perfect timing at work. Rachel’s desire for a child was fulfilled later when God “remembered her” and she gave birth to Joseph, a child destined for greatness.

Hannah: Turning to God in Desperation

In contrast to Rachel, Hannah provides a powerful example of faith and intercession. Deeply grieved by her barrenness and tormented by her rival, Peninnah, Hannah wept bitterly. Instead of turning to her husband, Elkanah, she brought her anguish directly to the Lord (1 Samuel 1:10-11).

The Power of Prayer

Hannah’s prayer was specific, heartfelt, and full of faith. She vowed to dedicate her child to the Lord if He would grant her a son. This act of surrender shows the transformative power of prayer:

• Surrendering Control: Hannah didn’t demand or manipulate her husband to meet her need. Instead, she acknowledged that only God could fulfill the desire of her heart.

• God’s Response to Faith: God honored Hannah’s prayer, and she gave birth to Samuel, one of Israel’s greatest prophets, who would anoint kings and lead the nation spiritually.

Lessons from Rachel and Hannah: Knowing When to Go to God

1. Understanding the Source of Fulfillment: Rachel’s story reminds us that no human being can fulfill the deepest desires of our hearts. Whether it’s a spouse, a leader, or a friend, people are limited in their ability to meet our needs. Only God can fully satisfy us and give us what we need in His perfect timing.

2. The Role of Intercession: Hannah’s story highlights the power of intercession. When we bring our desperation to God, He not only meets our needs but often births something far greater than we could imagine. Samuel wasn’t just a son to Hannah; he was a prophet who shaped the destiny of a nation.

3. The Importance of Perspective: Jacob’s response to Rachel, though harsh, was a reminder that barrenness was not a punishment but part of God’s sovereign plan. Like Rachel, we must learn to trust God’s perspective over our own, even when the waiting feels unbearable.

God Uses Desperation to Birth Greatness

When women bring their deepest longings to God, He often uses those moments of desperation to birth greatness. Hannah’s heartfelt prayer resulted in a child who became a spiritual leader. Rachel’s eventual faith led to the birth of Joseph, who saved nations.

Desperation drives us to our knees, but it’s in that posture of surrender that God meets us, transforms us, and uses our pain for His glory. Relationships, whether in marriage, family, or community, should reflect this trust in God. When we stop looking to man for what only God can provide, we position ourselves to experience His miraculous provision.

Conclusion: Trusting God in Relationships

Both Rachel and Hannah teach us that our deepest longings are best entrusted to God. In relationships, this means recognizing the limitations of others and leaning into God’s unlimited power. Whether the need is for a child, financial provision, spiritual growth, or healing, desperation should lead us to the One who can truly fulfill our hearts.

Through intercession, God births greatness out of barrenness, transforms pain into purpose, and uses our waiting to prepare us for His plans. As we trust Him, we can rest assured that He is working all things together for our good and His glory.

The long route

The Long Route: Trusting God’s Timing

God knows exactly where we are and how to bring us to our expected end — even if He takes us the long way around. His promises are generational, His word is sure, and His timing is never off. In Genesis 15:13–16, God told Abraham:

“Know for certain that for four hundred years your descendants will be strangers in a country not their own and that they will be enslaved and mistreated there. But I will punish the nation they serve as slaves, and afterward they will come out with great possessions.”

That promise wasn’t for Abraham alone. It stretched four generations forward. By the time the children of Israel came out of Egypt with Moses, they were walking in something God had spoken long before they were born.

What God didn’t tell them, though, was that there would be giants in the promised land. He didn’t tell them they’d have to fight to possess what He had already given.

When the Promise Requires a Fight

We often celebrate the promise but forget that possession requires process — and sometimes a fight. How many of us have walked away from relationships, businesses, or dreams simply because the journey got hard?

The Israelites faced the same temptation. After God split the Red Sea and delivered them with miracles, He didn’t take them on the shortest route to Canaan. Instead, Exodus 13:17–18 says,

“For God said, ‘If they face war, they might change their minds and return to Egypt.’ So God led the people around by the desert road toward the Red Sea.”

God knew they weren’t ready. The wilderness was His training ground — a place to humble, test, and reveal what was really in their hearts (Deuteronomy 8:2). It wasn’t punishment. It was preparation.

Waiting for the Promise

In the year 2000, God gave me a glimpse of my future — much like He allowed the Israelites to spy out the promised land. It was so vivid that I believed it would happen immediately. But, like Abraham who waited twenty-five years for Isaac, I’ve spent nearly that long waiting on prophecies spoken over my life since I was eighteen.

At the close of 2024, I found myself wrestling with disappointment. I had believed that 2023 was the year my promise would finally manifest — yet it hadn’t. In that moment of questioning, God gently reminded me of a prophetic word I received back in April 2021:

“You will enter your great harvest in 2025.”

Suddenly, it made sense. The waiting wasn’t wasted — it was womb time. God wasn’t denying me; He was developing me.

There have been moments where hope felt deferred, and my heart grew weary. But through every delay, I’ve learned that delay is not denial. God has been refining my faith, healing my heart, and preparing me for what I once thought I was ready for.

Refined Through the Fire

Recently, I received confirmation through a prophetic word from Prophet Tomi Arayomi and the RIG Nation prophetic team. They spoke that I had been through the fire, endured the tests, and come out as pure gold. That word hit my spirit — because I knew it wasn’t just about me.

This season of refinement wasn’t just for my breakthrough; it was for those I’m called to help break through. Every detour, delay, and disappointment has been part of God’s equation for destiny.

Just as He took Israel the long way to strengthen their faith, He allowed me to walk through a prolonged journey to deepen my roots and mature my trust.

God’s Faithfulness Across Generations

God’s promises don’t die with delay — they stretch through generations. What He spoke to Abraham, He fulfilled through Isaac, Jacob, and Joseph. And the same God who kept His word then is still faithful now.

So if you find yourself on the long route, take heart. God hasn’t forgotten you. The waiting is not wasted. The testing is not punishment. It’s preparation.

You’re being humbled, strengthened, and equipped to carry the very promise you’ve been praying for.

Hold on — because the long route is still leading you home. And when you arrive, you won’t come empty-handed. You’ll come out with power, wisdom, and great possessions.

God’s timing is perfect. His word never returns void. And His faithfulness doesn’t skip generations — it continues through them.

Dream Again: The Power of Reaching

Andy was growing up, outgrowing toys and childhood habits—but not his deep connection to Woody. Woody was his favorite, and Andy was Woody’s. As summer approached, Andy eagerly prepared for camp, just as he had done for years, never leaving Woody behind. With excitement, he grabbed Woody, swinging him high in the air, celebrating their tradition.

But in an instant, their joy turned into heartbreak. A tear. Woody’s arm ripped, and just like that, Andy’s excitement shifted. He placed Woody on a shelf, leaving him behind as he rushed off to camp without him.

It’s a moment that mirrors real life. How often do we find ourselves reaching for something we love, only for it to tear apart in our hands? A relationship. A business deal. A long-held dream. The pain of unexpected separation can leave us feeling discarded, forgotten, or even betrayed.

In Psalm 126, the people of Israel spoke of a time when they had lost everything, yet God restored them:

"We were like those who dreamed again."

They were torn from their land and captivity had stolen their hope, just as life’s disappointments can make us afraid to dream again. But God specializes in restoration. He promises to mend the tear.

Healing the Tear

Sometimes, we hurt one another without fully realizing the depth of the wound. Like Andy unintentionally tearing Woody’s arm, people unintentionally—or even intentionally—cause harm. Instead of doing the work to repair the damage, some choose to walk away. Others, like Woody, are left on a shelf, feeling abandoned and broken.

I know what that feels like. I once had a business deal that could have made me a multimillionaire, but betrayal cost me the opportunity. I’ve felt the sting of rejection in relationships. I’ve experienced the devastation of an adulterous affair in my previous marriage. Each of these situations left a tear—one that only God could heal.

And He did.

God’s promise is not just to comfort but to restore—to fix the tear so we can reach again.

Reaching Inspires Others

Yesterday, I was grocery shopping when I spotted my favorite black bean tamales on the very top shelf. They were just out of reach, but I was determined. I stepped up into the freezer section, stretched as far as I could, and grabbed them.

A man nearby had been watching me closely. As I stepped down, he said, “Had you not reached up there, I would have never looked that high to see those.”

That moment struck me. When we reach for what God has for us—even when it seems impossible—we inspire others to reach, too.

If life has placed you on a shelf, if past wounds have made you afraid to try again, God is calling you to dream again. The pain may be real, but so is the healing. The tear may have happened, but God is restoring you to reach again—not just for yourself, but for those who will follow your lead.

So reach. Stretch beyond the hurt. Go after what God has for you. And as you do, you’ll inspire someone else to dream again.

Love will leave it’s mark

Last week, I was mindlessly scrolling through Instagram when I stumbled upon a post that unexpectedly captured my attention. It was a young woman, a new mother, standing confidently in a sports bra and panties, holding her newborn just a few weeks old. But this wasn’t just another sweet mother-and-child moment; it was something much deeper. She went beyond the polished smiles and the carefully curated postpartum pictures that flood social media. She was raw, unfiltered, and unapologetic. She bared not just her body, but her truth—a truth many of us know but rarely speak about.

The comments section was split. Some applauded her bravery, while others criticized her for showing too much. But she was unbothered, standing in her vulnerability with a bandage still covering her second C-section incision. Her belly, darkened by the aftermath of birth, bore fresh stretch marks that told the silent yet profound story of her journey. Her body was a canvas of love—a testament to the stretching, scarring, and sacrifices required to bring forth life.

I couldn’t help but relate. I have undergone four C-sections myself, yet I would never have had the courage to take such a picture. Still, as I look down at my own scars, I am forever reminded of the immense stretching I endured not just physically, but in every way possible—to birth my children one by one.

God, in His divine design of a woman, intricately wove within us the ability for our cervix to stretch ten times its normal size to bring forth life. Yet, for mothers like this young woman and myself, medical necessity required a different kind of opening, a different kind of stretching. Where others could quickly recover and return to their pre-pregnancy bodies, we were left with incisions, with scars, with reminders of the cost of love.

And isn’t love always like that? Whether in motherhood, relationships, or marriage, love will stretch you, reshape you, and leave its marks. It requires you to change—your sleeping habits, your diet, your lifestyle, your budget, your mindset. It forces you to grow in ways you never imagined. It is uncomfortable, often painful, and sometimes requires being cut open, exposing your deepest vulnerabilities. But just as childbirth brings forth something beautiful, so does love.

Love is not just the euphoria of passion, the glow of romance, or the dreamy ideals we hold. It is labor. It is sacrifice. It is stretching beyond what we think we can endure. It is counting it all joy, even when it hurts. Because in the end, the scars and the stretch marks are not just reminders of pain—they are proof that we gave everything we had to bring forth something worth loving.

Dear future husband: Happy Valentines day- Life is but a dream

At 19, I stood at a crossroads, facing challenges that tested my faith. The enemy’s pursuit was relentless, but God’s call was louder. I will never forget that December night in 1991 when Prophet Kevin Leal called me out. He sang a prophetic song over me, declaring that God had not called me to “a bunch of mess, but to the joy of the Lord in His holiness.” He told me I would prophesy, minister His Word, and teach spiritual warfare. And then, he delivered God’s promise: if I did it God’s way, He would bless me with happiness beyond my wildest dreams.

If my life were a fairytale, it would be called Life Is But a Dream. Because you, my love, are my happiness beyond my wildest dreams. Despite every twist and turn, God aligned our steps perfectly, just as we knew He would.

Albert Einstein said, “Adversity introduces a man to himself.” Through every trial, we grew closer to becoming the versions of ourselves God intended. Our story reflects the themes of the fairytales I’ve cherished, each one offering glimpses of God’s divine hand at work in our lives.

Cinderella

The pumpkin at midnight reminds me of God’s divine timing, aligning me to discover you on your birthday. It shows the impermanence of His providence, and the courage required when life shifts suddenly. The glass slipper symbolizes my destiny—uniquely designed for me, signifying that I was always the one chosen to walk this path. Like Cinderella, my past didn’t disqualify me from marrying the prince—you.

Sleeping Beauty

The curse of darkness and stagnation echoes the trials I faced. But just as Sleeping Beauty’s curse was broken by a kiss, my heart was awakened by your words. Without physical connection, your words captured my heart and honored our covenant with God. It was one word—love—that breathed life into my spirit, proving the power of words over actions.

Toy Story

Woody’s determination to reunite with Andy symbolizes loyalty and purpose. Like Woody, I was determined to show you that you had a friend in me. Through every setback, I was your Jessie—steadfast, supportive, and full of hope. Even when we lost our way, God renewed and strengthened our bond, restored our connection and resurrected our love.

 Finding Nemo

The trench and jellyfish represent trials that seemed insurmountable. Like Marlin, we had to learn to trust each other. I was your Dory, encouraging you to “just keep swimming” in our darkest times. Marlin’s release of control inside the whale resonates deeply—when he saw Dory’s scar, he learned to trust and let go. Though we were taken off course, God guided us to exactly where we needed to be. Together, we endured the worst and emerged stronger.

 Beauty and the Beast

Belle’s sacrifice for her father mirrors my own journey of selflessness and love. Like Belle, I learned to see beyond the surface—to the truth beneath. Through love and courage, the curse was broken. God’s restoration brought us into our rightful destinies. He built us to last, rebuilding not just us, but the miracle of everything around us, releasing his divine power of restoration for generations to come.

Frozen

Elsa’s journey to control her powers mirrors my own journey of self-acceptance. Her decision to use her gifts for good, rather than harm, reflects the maturity I’ve gained. Winter was my coldest season, and for a time, we were freezing. Yet, the tears I wept in past seasons reminded me of the love we shared in eternity. Even then, we chose to win—and we did. God has perfected our love.

Each of these stories reminds me of the lessons we’ve lived—perseverance, love, and transformation through trials. God is the ultimate author, the finisher of our faith, and just as He wrote my story, He is writing yours. Be encouraged, because life is but a dream—a dream crafted by God Himself.

So, keep hope alive and never stop dreaming. For you are God’s dream, and He isn’t finished with you yet.

Poetic Justice

 We are one of the greatest fairytales to ever behold,

To ever unfold, 

To ever be told, 

the pendulum was not broke,

when you woke, 

and the clock struck twelve but there was no pumpkin or carriage,

Only a letter,

That told me, ooh child things are going to get better,

Dating while Christian

With interviews of love and marriage, 

I fit the shoe, 

Divinely arranged,

and changed,

I do.

We are one of the greatest poems that could ever be spit,

grit, 

never quit,

keep it lit,

Poetry in motion,

Devotion, 

It’s not over.

How befitting it would be that I get the ring,

and the king, 

without a kiss,

Capturing my heart with words that came to life with bliss,  

Dreaming but awaken,

overlooked and mistaken,

Don’t settle 

We won.

The prize

My beautiful surprise,

God heard our cries,

And broke the curse,

We made it through better and the worse.

Stopped pretending,

got to healing,

I was there on the other side,

to ride, 

like Jessie,

I am your bestie,

Remember you have a friend inside,

Don’t hide,

You had to find your way back, 

To get us on track,

We are home.

Settle down,

Look at what we found,

Renewed love,

Sent from above.

 Lost in me like Marlin

You are going to have to change my name to H2O,

Afraid to go, 

through the trench 

And trust

A must

Instead, we went through the jellies

Scarred and stung,

You came back

Forever sprung,

Swallowed by a whale,

Creating our own fairytale, 

 hanging on his tongue,

Steady love

Ready 

Built to last

“Just keep swimming”

Believing we would arrive,

Survive, 

Thrive,

and stay alive.

The one that would have to love, 

in spite of,

To break the spell,

To go behind the veil,

To see beyond the pain, 

To remain, 

To prevail against the gates of hell,

To bring everything back into divine order,

as your supporter,

Forbidden into your secret lair,

Not always wanting me there,

Miracle of restoration 

I saw the real you,

This love is so true.

It all started in the spring, and you hit me like a breeze,

we made it through the fires and your falls but when we got to the winter, I kept hoping we didn’t freeze,

Learning to forgive 

Perfected Love,

Let it go, let it go, letting go of, 

not always understanding the distance,

And resistance,

The rejection and confusion,

Was cold,

on hold,

Warring between dualities,

multiple realities,

Revelation, delusion,

and illusion

of love unrequited,

Passion reignited,

Focus undivided,

Excited,

 Finally 

reunited.

Dear Future Husband: The power of your love

The power to resurrect.

The room was still. Silence hung in the air and in this quiet moment, God pulled back heaven’s curtain, I could feel your presence not just hear it. It wasn't the kind of silence that feels empty or hollow, but one filled with expectation, as if the universe were holding its breath with me, waiting for something to happen. In the stillness, I could hear the whisper of a truth that had long been buried—the power of your love.

It wasn’t just any love. This love was something deeper, something transcendent. The love I was learning about was the kind that could unravel the tightly wounded forget me knots of my heart. The kind that was making me forget about wounds that ever existed and every moment I was ever forgotten. Your love reminded me God did not forget me. The love that had been there all along, waiting for me to open my eyes and my heart to it when I found you. See you loved me before I ever met you. And when I did, everything shifted in a moment.

The Silence of Love

God’s love has a unique ability to lift us. It has the power to silence every destructive voice that has ever echoed in my mind. The voices that once told me I wasn’t enough, that I would never be loved, that my past would forever define me—these voices were drowned out, not by noise or argument, but by the profound silence of God’s love. It’s as if, when He speaks, the world itself stops to listen. His words aren’t heard with the ears but felt in the soul. And suddenly, all the clamor of negative thoughts and painful memories fades away, replaced by a peace that passes all understanding.

Breaking Down the Walls

Each negative word that had been spoken over me, whether by my father, mother, or an ex-lover, had built a wall around my heart. Over time, these walls became my protection, but they also kept me from experiencing the fullness of love. But God’s love—true and unwavering—was powerful enough to tear these walls down, brick by brick. I could feel it, even as it was happening. It wasn’t just a process; it was a confrontation, a battle where every lie I had believed was exposed for what it was.

With each lie that fell, the walls crumbled a little more, until there was nothing left but the raw, open space of vulnerability. And in that space, God’s love poured in, filling every crack and crevice.

The Transformation

And then came you. In this journey of healing, I imagined you—my partner, my equal, my love. You were not just a man, but a catalyst for the transformation I had been waiting for. The moment you touched me with your words, I could feel your presence like a gentle force, like someone who had the power to not only heal but to remake me. The power of your touch was more than emotional in those moments I could even feel you physically; it was a spiritual renewal.

As your words touched me in places your hands could never reach miles away, I could feel the shift, the transformation. You weren’t just leaving fingerprints on my skin; you were leaving marks on my soul. Each touch redefined who I was. Your love was filling in all the blanks. It was as though you were rewriting my story, erasing the pain of my past and replacing it with something infinitely more beautiful.

Music of the Heart

There were moments when I could feel the music of our connection. It was not the kind of music that could be heard with our ears alone, but something felt in the very rhythm of our hearts. The way you moved, the way you spoke, it was as if every part of you was attuned to the melody of my soul. We could hear each other in a whisper miles away. You played me like an instrument, and together we created a symphony of love, healing, and hope.

With every note you struck, I rose and still I rise. Where I had once been crippled by shame and fear, I now stood tall. Every part of me that had once known defeat was resurrected in your love. Shame was drowned and although you have never seen me naked, there is not a part of me you have not seen. My strength returned; my confidence restored. And in this new rhythm, we danced together, moving to the beat of God’s grace, waiting to stand face to face.

You didn’t just play me like an instrument; you helped me tune myself to a higher frequency. You taught me how to listen to the music of life, how to follow the notes that God had written for me all along. With you, I discovered a rhythm I had long forgotten—one that was slow and steady, one that encouraged me to rise stronger where I’ve fallen in past times, to dance when I had been still for too long. In your love, I found my voice again. I found the strength to stand tall where I had once been bent low by shame and guilt, your love covered me. You helped me find my place in the symphony of life, and together, we created a song that was uniquely ours. A song that declared, "We are whole. We are healed. We are free."

A New Vision

When I looked into your eyes, I saw not just love, but a future—our future. A future where we faced the challenges of life side by side, hand in hand, knowing that love would guide us through. We didn’t need to have all the answers. We didn’t need to know exactly what the future held. All we needed was each other, and the love that God had placed between us.

You are the light that illuminates the path before me, the voice that called me out of hiding. With you, I am not afraid to walk through the unknown. Together, we will find joy in the journey, knowing that each step we take is a step in God’s favor. We will never suffocate again, for we are no longer bound by fear. We will laugh, love, and live in His presence, always.

The Power of Love to Set Us Free

It is love that sets us free. The love that God gives us is not bound by time, space, or circumstance. It is a love that has the power to heal, to resurrect, to make whole again. And in this love, we find the freedom to be who we truly are—not defined by our past, but by the potential of our future.

In this love, I am free. Free to love you. Free to love myself. Free to live a life that reflects the beauty of God’s grace. And in that freedom, we will find our true purpose—together, living a life that is marked by love, hope, and redemption.

The power of love

The power of your love,

You are the one I’m thinking of,

The only man on my mind,

As we become intertwined,

I imagine you whisper in my ear,

And it’s as if I become deaf and I can’t hear.

God’s love,

has the power to silence the voices and choices in my head of,

Every negative thing, my father, mother, or ex-lover every spoke,

It’s powerful enough to knock down every wall down,

That was ever built,

And strong enough to heal what was broke,

And to rescue me from the shame and guilt,

of my past.

When you lay hands on me,

You will leave your fingerprints and will be charged with the crime,

Of changing my name and stealing my time,

while causing my life to be redefined.

I imagine you will have the skills to play me like an instrument.

To rhythmically follow your notes

And heartbeat,

To arise in every area of my life that I have known defeat,

And to empower me to stand on my feet,

Where I was once crippled and lamed,

devastated, and blamed.

When I look into your eyes, I can see my dream,

Believing we will make it no matter what things seem.

You are a light to my way,

That gives me hope each day,

A voice in the wilderness that has paved a path,

So, we can live in his favor and laugh.

We will never suffocate again because we can’t come near,

No more fear,

For I need you to resuscitate me,

Your love has the power to set you free.

One in a million

You Are One in a Million

From the moment you left the loins of your father, your pursuit for me began. It didn’t start the day we found each other—it began the very moment you entered the greatest race you would ever run. With intention, focus, and perseverance, you pressed forward, navigating uncertainty and overcoming impossible odds to win. You were chosen to win because you were ordained to find me.

Imagine the journey: a single sperm, among hundreds of millions, fighting against the currents, bypassing obstacles, and racing toward one singular target—the egg prepared for you. It wasn’t random. It was purpose. It was destiny. You weren’t just running a biological race; you were running the course of a divine calling. You didn’t just stumble into my life; your pursuit of me began even then.

Just as God told Jeremiah, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you; before you were born, I set you apart.” God had already orchestrated our love story. Like Adam, you were created with purpose. Like Eve, I was fashioned with intentionality. And just as Adam and Eve were brought together for a greater plan, so were we.

A Love Rooted in Eternity

Our love story didn’t begin the day you were born. It didn’t even start the day our paths crossed, and we found each other. No, it was written long before time itself—etched in eternity. From the moment you were created, with the same sacred intention and fervor that sent you into the world, your words broke the hymn of my heart. They pierced through, guiding you into the innermost chamber reserved only for the bridegroom. You knew the assignment; you always understood.

When we finally found each other, it wasn’t a beginning—it was a reunion. It wasn’t new; it was familiar. The moment you recognized my love; you cherished it with the same purpose and focus you had carried from the start. In that instant, we both saw it clearly—the connection we had always shared. It was safe. It was home. It was us.

 This love isn’t accidental. It was predestined in the foreknowledge of God. It’s eternal. It’s a love born in the heart of God and woven into the fabric of time.

Born on Purpose, for a Purpose

You and I were born on purpose, for a purpose. You didn’t just happen, and neither did I. We were designed to complement each other. There is no me without you.

God sent me ahead of you—not to overshadow you, but to prepare the way. Like Joseph, I went ahead to fight battles, to intercede for our tomorrow, and to ensure that the path was clear for us to walk together. And when the time came, you didn’t settle. Out of the millions, you pressed forward, because without you, there could never be me because I came out of you.

Intentional Love

We aren’t just friends or soon-to-be lovers. We are soulmates. From the very beginning, we chose each other then. In eternity, we decided that no matter the challenges, we would always find our way back. You are intentional. You don’t just love me on the surface—you love my soul and I love yours. You see my soul, and I see yours.

The Journey of Sacrifice

I’ve endured my own cross for us and so are you. I’ve wept in my Gethsemane, cried out in silence, and carried the weight of what was yet to come. We’ve prayed for each other when we didnt know each other, interceded when it felt like we were alone, and we stood in faith, knowing that God’s plan would unfold.

You have been my David—facing your Goliaths with courage, pressing through the challenges, and trusting God every step of the way. And now, God has brought us together for this season, for this purpose.

A Love Worth Fighting For

You are one in a million. No one else would ever do. From the very beginning, God ordained us and set us apart from our mother’s wombs. He divinely connected the dots long before we could see the bigger picture.

To infinity and beyond is how long I will always love you. We didn’t settle for anything less than God’s perfect will. There is no plan B and now, here we are—ready to fulfill the purpose God has for us as one.

You are my one in a million.

I choose us

I Choose Us – A Reflection on Marriage, Family, and Faith

In one of my favorite movies, The Family Man (2000), Jack Campbell (played by Nicolas Cage) is a wealthy, career-driven bachelor who suddenly gets a glimpse of what his life could have been if he had chosen love and family over ambition. A divine intervention allows him to experience an alternate reality where he’s married to his college sweetheart, Kate Reynolds (Téa Leoni). The phrase “I choose us” becomes the film’s heartbeat—spoken by Kate in two pivotal scenes. It’s more than a romantic declaration; it’s a reminder that love and family are worth choosing above success and ambition.

The First Scene – The Closet Argument

In the first scene, Jack struggles to reconcile his high-powered ambitions with his new family-centered life. He tries convincing Kate to move to the city so he can chase his career. Kate stands her ground, saying, “Maybe I was wrong. Maybe we can’t have it all. But I choose us. I choose the life we have here, our family, and our love.”

That moment becomes Jack’s awakening. It forces him to confront what real success looks like—realizing that fulfillment isn’t found in titles, money, or power, but in love, connection, and shared purpose.

The Second Scene – The Airport Farewell

By the end of the movie, Jack finally understands what he lost when he chose ambition over love. In a desperate attempt to make things right, he pleads with Kate not to walk away. She looks at him, full of emotion, and repeats, “I choose us.”

This moment captures the film’s redemption arc—both Jack and Kate realizing that happiness isn’t about “having it all.” True joy comes from prioritizing love and commitment over personal ambition.

Biblical Standards in Marriage

The themes in The Family Man echo the heart of biblical marriage. Ephesians 5:25-33 calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the church—sacrificially, selflessly, and with devotion. Wives, in turn, are called to respect and honor their husbands, creating a partnership rooted in love and mutual submission.

Marriage is not a mere contract; it’s a covenant—an unbreakable bond before God. The vows “for better or worse, for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health” remind us that love is a daily choice, not a fleeting emotion.

Today’s Culture: Career vs. Family

In today’s culture, career ambition often overshadows commitment. Social media glorifies hustle culture, wealth, and independence, while relationships are treated as optional or temporary. Many men delay marriage until they feel “financially ready,” while women are told to “have it all” even if it means putting love last. The result? A generation chasing fulfillment but feeling emptier than ever.

Choosing ‘Us’ in Today’s World

To reclaim God’s design for love and family, we must:

1. Prioritize Covenant Over Culture – Marriage is sacred. Build your foundation on faith, not social trends. “What therefore God has joined together, let no man separate” (Matthew 19:6).

2. Redefine Success – True success isn’t about wealth but about the legacy of love, faith, and family we leave behind.

3. Value Sacrifice – Love means laying down personal ambition for shared purpose, just as Christ did for us.

4. Reclaim Dating for Marriage – Date with intention, not convenience. Seek God’s plan, not the world’s patterns.

5. Teach the Next Generation – Model and teach that marriage and family are blessings, not burdens.

A Call to Action

The Family Man reminds us that we don’t have to choose between love and purpose. God can weave both together beautifully when we align our hearts with His design. In a world that celebrates independence, may we boldly declare, “I choose us.”

Whether you’re married, single, or preparing for your future, remember—love is not weakness, and family is not a distraction. They are divine assignments. True legacy isn’t built on platforms or bank accounts; it’s built around dinner tables, prayer times, and generations who know what it means to choose each other.