Plan B Is Not an Option: Protecting the Purpose of God in Your Relationship
In today’s culture, the idea of “Plan B” has become both a medical term and a mindset. It’s the backup plan, the escape hatch, the safety net when we’re unsure. But what if I told you that Plan B can spiritually sabotage something God has conceived for your destiny—especially when it comes to relationships?
I know this firsthand.
🔍 A Personal Miracle
When I became pregnant with my daughter, I didn’t know it right away. Out of fear and uncertainty, I took a Plan B pill, not realizing that life had already begun. That little zygote, that new life, should not have survived the hormonal disruption meant to prevent implantation. But God preserved her. It was nothing short of a miracle.
The Plan B pill doesn’t end a pregnancy. Instead, it interferes with progesterone, the very hormone that secures the uterine lining so the new life can attach and grow. Without progesterone, the embryo often cannot implant, and the pregnancy is lost before it begins.
This biological truth mirrors a spiritual reality I’ve seen in many relationships, especially those that God has purposed.
⚠️ Plan B Thinking in Relationships
In relationships, Plan B thinking looks like:
Keeping your options open “just in case”
Letting past trauma dictate your trust levels
Listening more to culture’s opinions than to God’s voice
Dating without purpose, identity, or spiritual agreement
Many couples today are spiritually intimate but emotionally undecided. They lack the revelation of identity—not just of themselves, but of who their partner is to them in God’s plan.
Just like a zygote needs progesterone to implant and grow, a relationship needs revelation to root and thrive.
🪨 The Rock of Revelation
Jesus once asked His disciples, “Who do men say I am?” After they gave Him a list of public opinions, He made it personal:
“But who do you say that I am?”
Only Peter answered with heaven’s revelation:
“You are the Christ, the Son of the Living God.”
Jesus replied, “Flesh and blood has not revealed this to you, but My Father in heaven. And upon this rock I will build My church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.” (Matthew 16:13–18)
It was not Peter the man that became the foundation—it was the revelation Peter had. In the same way, a couple must know by divine revelation who they are to each other. This is the only kind of foundation that can survive the gates of hell.
🌊 Violent Storms & Thin Linings
There are times when storms of life—conflict, temptation, outside voices, spiritual warfare—come to violently tear at the lining of a relationship. When there is no revelation, and when people are still entertaining Plan B, the relationship can be miscarried. Some relationships end before it ever has a chance to take root.
Relationships in their embryonic stages are especially vulnerable. The enemy doesn’t wait until you're married to attack—he often comes when purpose is just forming.
🧱 Building with Purpose
If you're dating or in a new relationship:
Ask God for revelation, not just feelings.
Know the purpose of your union—what is God trying to birth through this relationship?
Seal it with prayer, community, and wise counsel.
Don’t entertain options that look like security but are really escape routes.
Don’t let fear cause you to abort what God is trying to conceive.
✨ No More Plan B
Let me say this plainly: Plan B is not an option when you're walking in purpose.
Whether you're single, dating, or married, remember: you don’t need a backup plan when God is your blueprint. If He is the author, let Him finish the story. Your relationship deserves the security of revelation, the protection of faith, and the strength of commitment.
Guard the lining. Secure the vision. Choose God's plan—Plan A.
Because sometimes, like my daughter, what survives despite Plan B becomes your greatest miracle.