Choosing Purpose Over Peace in Marriage
In the children’s game Rock, Paper, Scissors, each move beats something and loses to something else. Paper covers rock. Rock crushes scissors. Scissors cut paper.
But in God’s kingdom, when it comes to building marriage and family, there’s only one winning move: the Rock.
Not the rock of stubbornness. Not the rock of “my way or no way.”
The Rock that Jesus spoke of when He told Peter:
“Upon this rock I will build My church, and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.” (Matthew 16:18)
That rock was revelation from the Father. Not feelings. Not cultural trends. Not even the desire to “just keep the peace.”
🪨 Rock — Building on Purpose & Revelation
In Genesis, Adam recognized Eve not through trial and error or dating compatibility tests, but through a God-given revelation:
“This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh.” (Genesis 2:23)
God’s blueprint for marriage has always been purpose + revelation. Adam and Eve were created to walk in dominion, multiply, and steward God’s creation — not just to meet each other’s emotional needs.
When you build your marriage on the Rock (Christ and His word), storms can beat against it, but it will stand (Matthew 7:24-25).
📄 Paper — The Illusion of Peace
In the game, paper covers rock — and in life, paper-thin peace can temporarily cover cracks in a relationship.
But Jesus warned us:
“Do not think that I came to bring peace; I did not come to bring peace, but a sword. A man’s enemies will be members of his own household.” (Matthew 10:34-36)
Choosing peace over purpose can look noble but is often dangerous. Peace without truth is fragile — it folds under pressure. The sword Jesus brings is His word, cutting between truth and falsehood, purpose and pretense.
A marriage built only on keeping the peace will crumble when conflict tests it.
✂️ Scissors — Cutting with Emotions & Realism
Scissors represent the sharp, reactive choices we make out of hurt, fear, or so-called “realism.”
Emotions are powerful, but they are not the foundation. Realism can help you plan, but it cannot reveal God’s purpose. Peter didn’t figure out Jesus’ identity with logic or emotion — he received revelation from the Father.
If scissors become your go-to move in marriage — always cutting away when things get hard — you may sever what God joined together.
🔑 The Winning Move in Life and Marriage
If marriage is Rock, Paper, Scissors, the blueprint of God’s kingdom flips the rules: The Rock always wins.
Paper peace without purpose? The Rock still stands.
Scissor emotions trying to cut covenant? The Rock still stands.
Culture’s redefinitions? The Rock still stands.
Like Noah, we must build exactly according to God’s instructions — even when people laugh, misunderstand, or walk away. Because when the floods come, only the marriage built on the Rock will remain.
🕊️The blueprint still stands — and Heaven still backs what it designed.